My 5 month old wont sleep all night yet should we just let him cry?

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Dana - posted on 07/18/2009

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Letting them cry doesn't teach them anything. Especially when they're that young. All the understand is they're trying to communicate and no one is paying attention. Also, it's not recommended for babies to cry longer than 20 minutes because hard crying messes with blood flow to parts of the brain. Do you breast feed or Formula feed?

Timbrel - posted on 07/19/2009

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my doctor told me to try letting the baby cry for 30 minutes at the most but not longer. it breaks any trust they have with you if you just leave them crying all day which could lead to mental problems in their later years. just keep working with him each night he will come along.

Ez - posted on 07/18/2009

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It's perfectly normal for a 5 month old to still require night-feedings, so please don't force him to cry it out. If he's still waking at night it's because he's hungry. Feed him. If you have a strong bedtime routine it will make it easier to resettle him after these night feeds.
CIO sleep training methods aren't suitable for babies under 6 months anyway.

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I cant do it. I tried and it broke my heart I lasted like 10 mins and to have them stand there tears running down the face reaching for you just did me in. I figure when he is older and can be reasoned with some I will worry about it then. For now he need to know I will be there for him when he needs me.

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Kayla - posted on 07/23/2009

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I would suggest letting him cry it out, it strengthens his lungs and will tire him out.

Samantha - posted on 07/23/2009

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so Amanda a couple of posts up... its not like i just ignore him when he wakes up i check on him to make sure hes not cold or something else is wrong if it gets too out of hand i will get up and pat him or sing a song we are not abuseing him :(

Allison - posted on 07/22/2009

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ok here i go again:) i am and am posting all over the place.
i have a 3 month old and she sleeps some nights all night, meaning 10 or 11 to 5 or 6. then again she get up about 3 to eat and change, but goes right back to bed. her crib is in my room and sometimes i just listen to hear what her intentions are, sometimes she's just turning but you know when she wants something. she does not settle down, thank goodnes she does not wake up crying. i just listen to her and i go from there.
i always remember my mom says that when there is a big big yawn, time for bed. so i could be playing with her and as soon as i see that yawn, it is kiss kiss and goodnight. she goes right to be. moves up a little or a lot but eventually goes to sleep.
don't let him cry for to long, at that hour it can really work your nerves, but as long as he is fed and changed, play a little and then put him back to bed, if he is sitll fussy don't take him out just pat him on his back or stomach or on his head, where ever he may feel comfort. so there that's my 2cents. good luck

Amanda - posted on 07/22/2009

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No! Babies aren't supposed to sleep all night. If they sleep all night on thier own, that's one thing. However, I think CIO is borderline abuse. I'm okay with waiting 10-15 minutes to see if he settles down, but all night CIO is wrong. What if God forbid something was wrong and you ignored it?

Jeannine - posted on 07/22/2009

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My son is 7 months and has just started sleeping from 7PM until 5AM, there are still nights when he gets up at 3AM looking for a feed. I think that at 5 months if he is still getting up, as tiring as it is, I would feed him and put him down, maybe he is growing significantly, maybe he is teething and needs comfort, but I don't feel at that age he can be spoiled.

Samantha - posted on 07/22/2009

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so i have been letting him cry it out for the past 2 nights and it is very hard but the first night he cried for 25 min then i got up to sing to him then he cried just a little longer and went to sleep last night he cried for 15 min and went to sleep we will try it for a week and if doesnt work we are going to try something else
any other ideas?

Danielle - posted on 07/21/2009

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I had the same problem with my son at that age. At his 5 month appt. the dr said if I didn't do something now to get him to sleep at night it wasn't going to happen. He was in his own room so when he started to cry I started to time it. I didn't go in the room and the first time he cried for 30 minutes and then slept for 4 hours. The next time he cried for 10 min. He didn't cry again. The next night he slept through the night from 8-6. I have to say it was the best thing I ever did and will be doing it with my daughter if she isn't sleeping through at that age. He is 2 1/2 now and is a great sleeper. He goes to bed at 7 without any drama. He even goes down for naps without a fight. At 25 months I switched him to a toddler bed and still no sleeping problems. My dr said that we have to teach them to sleep for their own good. They need that skill for the rest of their life. I don't think it is being mean I think it is doing what has to be done for the wellfare of the child. Good luck.

Marilena - posted on 07/21/2009

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You will have to do it! Do not get discuraged. If he is fed, dry and he is not teeting he should be sleeping.
I did the same with my son at 4 months and we have a perfect sleep every night. He cried 45 min first night, 30 min second night, 10 min third and then.....quiet! Good luck!

Rachel - posted on 07/21/2009

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yu shudnt let him cry i rkon. i mean my daughter she's 7months and still wakes up during the night for feeds. and its perfectly normal.

Candis - posted on 07/20/2009

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Yes it sounds mean but it is going to be harder for you in the long run if you don't cause you will not be able to put your baby down.

Claire - posted on 07/20/2009

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I probably wouldnt.. i think its a bit harsh on a poor defenceless baby who is dependant on you for everything.. but then im not a parent yet... but id try gently rubbing his back until he goes to sleep and then turning him over..?. I used to have a lot of trouble sleeping due to anxiety and not being able to switch my brain off.. my partner would rub my lower back and id be fast asleep in 10-15 mins. im gonna try it if my kid wont sleep!

Amber - posted on 07/19/2009

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Depends on your beliefs. As you read the responses you can see there is a very direct and fine line between those who feel like its ok to let a baby cry and those who don't. I can tell you that we recently had to start letting our son sleep freely, no swaddle or sleep sack bc he is rolling about everywhere. Prior too he was sleeping 9p until 7a, but when that first started we had to let him cry himself to sleep bc we were trying to institute a bedtime, which has worked like a charm for 2 months now. He is in bed asleep by 9pm and we follow the same routine and the crying stopped after a week. However, now he wakes up once or twice a night bc of the new found freedom. If he cries, we check on him to make sure he is ok and if he is we leave him be. If he is still crying 20 mins later we get up, talk to him, rub his belly and give him his paci and he will generally go back to sleep. We know he isnt hungry bc hes been sleeping through the night for 2 1/2 months. We dont take him out of the crib though bc we want him to know its bedtime, but also want to let him know we are there for him. You have to follow your instincts. My son doesnt love me anyless bc I have let him cry it out a few times...and yes it was very difficult, but we focused on the long term benefits for him and us!

Amy - posted on 07/18/2009

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NO! Why should he have to cry. He needs to know you are there for him. Instead of picking him up try soothing him while he is still in his bed. patting his back side...rubbing his head. Whatever comforts him when you do hold him. You dont have to pick him up for him to know its ok. But there is no reason he should have to cry.

Ivonne - posted on 07/18/2009

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And yes! Always make sure baby has a full belly, has been burped and a dry diaper!

Ivonne - posted on 07/18/2009

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No, he is still very little. It has been proven that parents who comfort, cuddle and

nurture their babies when they are crying grow up to become more confident, trusting and happy children/ individuals as they grow up.

You don't have to stay up all night with them, but for atleast 20-30 minutes to begin with and then gradually reduce your time. Baby will learn that it is nite-nite time.

Also, always say good night and give your baby a kiss good night before placing in the crib. Baby will quickly recongnize these words and associate them with bed time.



Enjoy!

Lacy - posted on 07/18/2009

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Is he still sleeping in the room with you? With my son, I still had him in the bassinette until he was almost 6 months. His pediatrician recommended putting him in his crib, especially if you breastfed at all. When he wakes and sees, senses, smells, or hears you, he thinks "time to eat". It worked well for us! Best of luck!

Lynlee - posted on 07/18/2009

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Personally I don't think using CIO is a good idea at any age but your baby is obviously still hungry at night so you need to feed him. I know lots of books say that from 6 months they should be able to sleep all night but all babies are different - I would rather trust what my baby was telling me than some book that treats everybody the same.

Danielle - posted on 07/18/2009

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I am going through the exact same thing right now! It's soo hard to let them cry! I did it the other day for 10 mins and I was standing by the bedroom door almost crying myself! I don't think anyone will really no better than you but the advice that I have been given is if they are full and diaper is cahnged and temp is right etc then it's ok to let them cry for a bit....It took me about three days and my son finally got the point... he sleeps from about 8 till 230 and then gets up to feed and I change his diaper very quietly and swaddle him up (another great thing to do for comfort) and he sleeps until about 4 ish and then I feed him again and he sleeps until about 7-8 am....
like I said you'll know best no matter what advice your given... it just takes time! Good luck!

Emma - posted on 07/18/2009

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depends what you mean by all night ...my little girl also 5 months sleeps from 11.00ish to somewhere between 5.30and 6.30 i think thats a pretty good stretch.
is he waking for a feed?? he might need the extra feed atm.

if he is not hungry you could try letting him cry yes good luck

Misty - posted on 07/18/2009

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yes i would if he has a full belly, and dry diaper..try it for a lil while ...good luck...

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