My newborn refuses my breast.

Anna - posted on 10/01/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )

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I BF 2 days in the hospital and also bottle feed due to the fact that I did not have enough milk to fill her up with. She drinks 2-3 oz every 2-3 hours. Now she's a week old and refuses to BF. She screams when I try to feed her and pushes my boobie away. what can I do? I do pump but would love to BF naturally.
Thanks for any advice

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While she's in the hospital she doesn't need anything other than the colostrum that your body was already making. Your milk is not supposed to come in until day 3-5. Newborns need to eat very frequently. (My daughter ate every 1-2 hours all day and night at that age). You could try pumping a little to get the flow going that way when she comes up to your breast, she will get a taste of milk. If you are having trouble getting her latched on, your hospital should have a lactation consultant that you can talk to. Stay patient, I know it's hard when you have a screaming baby. Remember to trust your body. Feed her when she's hungry that way your supply can meet your baby's demands. Some people will say that introducing a bottle that early makes it hard for the baby to breastfeed. Bottles flow much faster than breasts so she may be getting frustrated. The pushing away does not mean she doesn't want you or your breast, she's too little to do that on purpose :). The first few weeks of breatfeeding are hard, but try to hang in there because it's so worth it. Try not to supplement if you don't have to because that will cause your supply to drop and possibly dry up. Hope this helps!

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Caron - posted on 10/02/2009

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I use the nipple shield as well and my son is only 3 weeks old right now. Each feeding I try to get him to go for my nipple and he gets so frustrated. Even if he nevers goes for my nimple I still feel the closeness of feeding him with the guard on.

Stephanie - posted on 10/02/2009

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I know that you said you really want to breastfeed. However, it doesn't always work for all moms and babies. The worst thing that could happen is you getting frustrated and upset... baby can feel that and it will make it more difficult. Make sure to be calm, cool and collected during every feed. And if you try all the great suggestions that everyone has given and it still doesn't work, don't feel bad about bottle feeding (with formula or pumped breast milk). I know that there is such a push to breastfeed and so many moms feel guilty when they can't (and there are some moms who can't, no matter what they try). I breastfed for 4 weeks and every single feeding it was a struggle to get him to latch and stay latched and feed well. Finally, my husband and I decided to try to formula feed... a decision that I wrestled with and felt very guilty for. However, it ended up being the best thing for all of us... a happy and stress free mommy helps make for a happy and stress free baby. And most importantly, baby is getting fed, gaining weight and making progress! Good luck with breastfeeding and don't let guilt or frustration get in the way of getting that wonderful babe of yours fed!

Tanya - posted on 10/02/2009

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maybe baby is fustrated that the milk doesnt come out of ur boobs fast enough like in the bottle.. try pumping so that ur milk gets flowing and then but baby on the boob.. so she gets the milk right away and doesnt get discouraged.. that what I did to my lil guy.. GOOD LUCK!!!

Lindsay - posted on 10/01/2009

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Quoting Michelle:

Try a nipple shield. It worked wonders for me! It's similar to a bottle, so will help if she has "nipple confusion,"and it also helps if she's not latching on right. If it works, then you can get her started with the nipple shield and mid-way through feeding take the shield off, that way she can get used to the breast. A lactation consultant at your hospital may have one, or they do sell them at Target. Good luck, don't give up!


 



I used the nipple shield as well and it worked great! My son only needed it for a few weeks before I didn't have to use it anymore!

Michelle - posted on 10/01/2009

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Try a nipple shield. It worked wonders for me! It's similar to a bottle, so will help if she has "nipple confusion,"and it also helps if she's not latching on right. If it works, then you can get her started with the nipple shield and mid-way through feeding take the shield off, that way she can get used to the breast. A lactation consultant at your hospital may have one, or they do sell them at Target. Good luck, don't give up!

Christine - posted on 10/01/2009

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i BF for about a month before i was told by the pediatrician to supplement with formula bc he was losing too much weight. as soon as he got the bottle that was it. i was told by the lactation consultant i was seeing that it was nipple confusion. she was willing to work with me as long as it took but even with pumping my supply dropped and i wasnt able to BF any more. i would try to contact your local la leche league or a lactation consultant. sometimes the ones at the hospital will see you after youve been discharged. good luck!!

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