My son is 7 months and just 2 days ago started crying everytime I got out of his sight. Why is this?

Brandie - posted on 10/27/2009 ( 9 moms have responded )

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Anyone can be holding him or he could be playing and if I walk out of the room or just across the room he just start screaming and crying. What is the reason and how can I fix it? My mother in law wants to keep him but how if he is like this?

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Most doctors say that when a child under 1yr of age cries he is trying to communicate something to you, in this case fear possibly. When he starts to cry try talking to him, let him hear your voice. Playing silly games like ducking behind a wall or couch are also good, but keep up the communication. Most likely it is separation anxiety, but letting him "cry it out" doesn 't actually seem to make anyone more confident that you are still there or coming back. Up until almost 2yrs if you hid a toy, or yourself in this case a child simply thinks you are gone. So it is important to teach him that even if he can't see you sometimes you are still there. Try telling him your going to be right back, even if you are only going to throw something in the laundry. Hope things work out for you.

Elizabeth - posted on 10/27/2009

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Separation Anxiety is a normal developmental stage. I recall from my developmental psych classes that it, like all developmental stages, is a *good* thing (although it doesn't feel like it!)

I found this on Wiki, which sums it up nicely: "Separation Anxiety, ... occurs as "a normal stage of development for healthy, secure babies." Separation anxiety occurs as babies begin to understand their own selfhood—or understand that they are a separate person from their primary caregiver. At the same time, the concept of object permanence emerges—which is when children learn that something still exists when it is not seen or heard. As babies begin to understand that they can be separated from their primary caregiver, they do not understand that their caregiver will return, nor do they have a concept of time. This, in turn, causes a normal and healthy anxious reaction. Separation anxiety typically onsets around 8 months of age and increases until 13-15 months, when it begins to decline."

This website suggests a few games you can play to help babies learn: http://www.drgreene.org/body.cfm?id=21&a...

Sooo not looking forward to this stage. My 3.5 mth old daughter is already starting to fuss if I'm not around. It's nice having my own, personal fan club, but it makes her daddy feel a bit stink!

Kate - posted on 10/27/2009

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When my son when through this phase I tried putting him in his high chair, so he could still see me making the evening meal, or hoovering, polishing etc. I talked constantly to him and he soon realised that Mummy was still there! He settled within a couple of weeks. Also agree with the earlier comment of playing 'peep', hiding just for a few seconds and make a game of it.

Brandy - posted on 10/27/2009

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Babies go through phases and sometimes need you more than others. If he is having seperation anxiety, as long as you give him what you need it should pass quickly. He just needs reassurance that you are there and will get used to you leaving the room more often once he realizes you are only a few steps away. Give him the love he needs right now and his trust in you will grow. Remember, babies are still just babies and need lots of love. This is how I was with my daughter and she is very independant and confidant and she isn't needy or whiny at all and she never has been. Don't feel like you have no choice but to let your baby cry by himself. He just loves you very much and wants to know that you are still there.

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Brandie - posted on 10/27/2009

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My mom is always around. My husband can hold him and he cries for me. It doesn't make any sense to me. We try to take him around the family a lot so that way he knows everyone but all of a sudden this happened out of no where.

Kimberly - posted on 10/27/2009

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thats odd for it to set in so fast and so strong it took donna a little while to develop it, does he interact with other family much or is it primarily you with him?

Brandie - posted on 10/27/2009

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I do let him cry but he only just screams more and more when I just let him cry. I don't understand because he wasn't like this before and it only started just 2 days ago.

Kimberly - posted on 10/27/2009

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seperation anxiety, my daughter is gonna be six months next week and she has a serious case of it, she wont let me walk to the other side of the loveseat without screaming at me, i let her cry most of the time because i have to get stuff done at home but sometimes i do cuddle her,

Ashley - posted on 10/27/2009

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The best thing you can do is let him cry.leave him alone and let calm down on his own. If you always craddle him and attend to him when he wants your attention you will create a monster! I have seen a number of mothers that are ovely attentive to thier babies and they cant even use the rest room with out the child in the room. I have always let my son work things out on his own and he is not a needy child.

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