My son is a little over three months old any ideas on how to get him to sleep through the night

Kim - posted on 10/30/2009 ( 24 moms have responded )

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My son is a little over 3 months old and still not sleeping through the night any ideas on how to help him i have a hard time just letting him "cry" it out and end up getting up in need of some help im up at 5am for work and would really love to get some sleep!

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Jamie - posted on 10/30/2009

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He is very young still. I have read much research on the topic and found it to be developmental. They do it when they are ready. You can encourage it gently, and if they are close, it might do the trick. Also, when he is older you can start solids, which ma help. I agree, bulking them up during the day helps too. I always rocked mine to sleep though, and they still slept through the night when they were ready. Never be afraid to snuggle and hold them close.

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Amanda - posted on 11/04/2009

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Well my first son didn't sleep through the night completely until he was about 15 months old. And my 9 month old still wakes up to eat during the night. But if you're determined, try working on one night waking at a time. My 9 mo wakes at 12, 3, and 530am, and I'm working on eliminating that 3am wake up. I calm him down, give him his binky and then after he's calmed down and started to fall back to sleep I lay him down and go back to sleep. I wouldn't make him eat more than he wants to, because otherwise you're going to end up overfeeding your baby (if you formula feed). I agree with the dream feeding, I feed my baby before I go to bed and he'll sleep longer.

Ashley - posted on 11/03/2009

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my daughter is just now 4 months and still don't sleep through the night she eats solid foods and i giver her a bottle with ceral in it and nothing seems to get her to sleep through the night i think that when the baby is ready the baby will sleep through the night my oldest is 2 and she has slept through the night since she was born.. so i think it just depends on the little one...

Emma - posted on 11/02/2009

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I must recommend to read 'Top Tips from the Baby Whisperer by Tracy Hogg'.

This lady's advice is wonderful and I cannot recommend her books enough.

http://www.amazon.co.uk/Top-Tips-Baby-Wh...

ISBN-10: 0091917441

She has an 'EASY' programme - Eat Activity Sleep You.

For a baby under 4 months she recommends the 3 hour Easy and for babies 4 months and over, the 4 hour EASY:

E-700 Wake up and Feed
A-730
S-830
Y-Your choice

E-10:00
A-10:30
S-11:30
Y-Your choice

E-13:00
A-13:30
S-14:30
Y-Your choice

E-16:00
A-16:30
S-17:00-18:00 - just a cat nap to get baby to next feed and bath

E-19:00
A-bath
S-19:30
Y-Your choice

E-dream feed at 9:00
E-dream feed at 11:00

Baby should have had enough to make it to 7:00 in the morning.

Good luck!

Jennifer - posted on 11/02/2009

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Try to feed him before he goes to bed. It will settle his stomach and help him go to sleep. I also have a cd that we play every night for him.

Genna - posted on 11/02/2009

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A good bedtime routine had our son sleeping through from this age. We had a warm bath, a little infant massage, bottle and a book, maybe light stimulation just to tire him out a little more. Then we had a cracking night's sleep!

Granted it was never perfect - he would still get up sometimes, but it seemed to get us through.

If they cry at that age it's because they do actually need something, so we used to do it as quick as and then back to sleep - everything was set up by the cot so it was right there and we didn't have to turn on lights or wake up properly!

Good luck xxx

Elizabeth - posted on 11/01/2009

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My son is 10 weeks old and has been sleeping through the night for about 5 weeks now. I am not sure if it is just him or if it is the "Miracle blanket" that I purchased online. All that I know is that within a week of swaddling him with this particular blanket he started sleeping longer and longer. Now we put him down around 9pm and rarely wakes up before 5am. I tried the different swaddle blankets at the stores and the only one that worked for him was the one that is called the "Miracle blanket" the other versions didn't work at all. A friend recommended it to us and we have been getting a good nights sleep since. Well other than the fact that I have to get up to pump but that is a different story. Oh the only place that I could find it was online. Like I said it is important that it is that particular blanket and not the other varieties but you can google it and it is sold direct or through target or babies r us. GOOD LUCK!!!

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Please don't think that you baby should be sleeping through the night at 3 months of age. It's not 'normal'. Good luck to those mum's and bub's that do sleep through the night so young, but really they are a vast minority. Children learn to do it when they are ready. Our job is just to accept our children, their personalities and their sleeping habits. My oldest daughter is 2 in Dec and she would sleep through the night maybe twice a week?? and don't think it is because I don't want her to, she just isn't ready yet and she needs extra reassurance at night.

As for all of those suggestions (cereal/waking for dream feed/wrapping)- nothing is going to make your baby sleep for longer earlier until they are ready. That's not to say try nothing. Your the best person in the world to think of gentle, encouraging ways that would suit your baby and may promote more sleep.

You are right to follow that instinct you mentioned about not feeling comfortable in letting your bubba cry. They have just completed recent studies stating it is NOT OK for a baby 12 months and under to be left to cry - EVER!! IIt It is now becoming a more accepted view that controlled crying under 12 months ( I would argue longer) of age is harmfull to emotional/personality development.

I now have a 3 month old too. He is feeding 3 times a night and on top of my daughter waking it's pretty busy at night. However I know in my heart that I am doing the right thing, supporting my children emotionally, making sure I am always there for them 24hrs a day and nuturing their little personalities. After all, it's not forever and I would hate to do something now, that I could look back on and feel regret. Good luck, hang in there.

Michelle - posted on 11/01/2009

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hello i am going to tell you what i did and hope it works for you~ I let him take a nap in the evening time then i wake him up, feed him and then let him play for a couple of hours....11:30 ish then feed him one more time before bed then he should sleep throughout the night! i am nursing my son but had to supplement when he was two months and the formula worked with the schedule also~ he should sleep until 6-7am Good luck and God bless~

Necia - posted on 10/31/2009

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I fed my little one cereal, very watery of course. make sure he eats alot, even if its just formula or how ever youre feeding him. It will take a while but hell get used to it. and i still do this, but i have my little ones crib right beside my bed so if she wakes up, i dont let her cry, i cover her up, give her a pacifier, of what ever the case may be to get her to sleep. I work early too, so its a givin. probly a very bad habit but it works for me and my busy schedule. call it lazy i know, but it works. good luck.

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The average child does not sleep through the night until around six months. They don't eat enough during the day to sustain that much sleep. Some children just naturally do it on their own, but most doctors don't recommend doing anything to force the issue until they are six months and eat more solid foods along with formula. Yes it is hard to get up during the night for that long, but you don't want to force it too early or he will start to loose weight.

Barb - posted on 10/31/2009

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My son is 3 months old and does not sleep through the night yet. However so that he gets straight to sleep after his feed I give him nappies which are one size larger. I use these at night as it means that I dont have to change him and he does not leak through. Even after a sleep in of over 12 hours he is still dry as a larger nappy is able to hold a lot more. All the best of luck.

Jessica - posted on 10/31/2009

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try swaddling him, my son was waking through the night before i started swaddling him again, also i added more blankets so he must have been cold at certain times through the night, now he will sleep all through the night or wake once for a bottle if he has done a poo.

Natasha - posted on 10/30/2009

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I found that the only way to get my son to sleep through the night was to dream feed him. i wake him up between 8.30pm and 9.30pm just before i'm going to go to bed and feed him. then his stomach is full and lasts the night. If he isn't waking up to feed try leave him in his cot and calm him down by patting his back. Keep the room as dark as possible and its best not to talk to him. Then he will realize that its not time to play and will hopefully go back to sleep. It may take a few nights or weeks to get this to work. All the best! I know how much a good night sleep helps in those early months!!

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As a mother of 6 children...I'm going to give you an answer you probably won't like. There is no right answer. All of my children were different and I had to figure out what worked for them. One slept through the night at 9 weeks, but most others took much longer than that. Instead of trying to change it, I just accepted it. Eventually they all learned to sleep through the night. My oldest is 15 years and he sleeps through the night! LOL Seriously, though, it will pass and your baby will sleep through the night and what you're going through now will be a distant memory.

Candi - posted on 10/30/2009

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Don't feel alone we are experiencing the same thing our baby is up several times a night. We have found that the whole cereal in the bottle thing does help, she was waking numerous times during the night now it is only once. I have also found that we never take her in bright lighted areas only use a night light and no extra noise keeps calm and she goes right back to sleep after eating.

Angela - posted on 10/30/2009

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Every child is different, but I must say the teaspoon of cereal in the bottle actually worked. My daughter (now 4 months) was awake 3-4 times a night. I started putting cereal in her night-time bottle and she was only up once through the night. And now that she is actually eating cereal, she sleeps 12-13 hours straight. I give her a bowl of cereal an hour or so before bed time, then at bed-time she gets a 4oz bottle to top her off. Wait it out, he's probably just waking for a feed!

Danielle - posted on 10/30/2009

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my son didnt start sleeping through the night until he was almost 9 months old. when their ready they do. my step daughter didnt start sleeping through the night until she was over a year old. i started my son on solids at a lil over 3 months old & did the whole cereal in the bottle trick & he still woke up hungry. so no matter what you do if they wake up their normally hungry & they want to eat. theirs really nothing we can do except get up & feed them :)

Sammy - posted on 10/30/2009

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He is still very young and still needs to have a feed at night. Are you breastfeeding or formula feeding, because this can make a difference (as breast milk is digested faster).
My daughter will be 4 mths in a week and is waking up 3 times in a 12hr period at night..it's just something you have to do as a mother...
Don't stress about it too much, he will do it when he is ready!
=)

Anna - posted on 10/30/2009

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http://apps.facebook.com/circleofmoms/gr...

Here's a link to a COM community for those who don't feel right about leaving their baby to cry. It's called No More Tears - the members are very helpful.

I know the sleep deprivation is hard, but it is normal at your son's age. He still needs to feed at night at that age. People will tell you to give him cereal but it's not good for his immature digestive system at that age.
If I was in your place, I would think about changing jobs if at all possible. There's only so far you can push yourself - it's hard enough with a young baby without a difficult work schedule as well. But life is not perfect, of course. I hope you can work something out - good luck :)

Donna - posted on 10/30/2009

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I dont agree with putting cereal in his bottle if he is waking coz he's hungry then he needs to be fed! He is still young and still needs a feed at night time i know my son did! He will sleep through when he's ready. Now we are mothers sleep for us will never be the same lol!!!!

Maggie - posted on 10/30/2009

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is he waking up cause he is hungry? if so put a tsp of ceral in his last night bottle that should help tide him over a little longer..

Danielle - posted on 10/30/2009

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hi, do you think he might be teething? try puting him down when you go to bed, give him a bottle before bed or even try giving him a teaspoon of farax made up before bed to make sure his tummy is extra full and see how you go. :)

Emma - posted on 10/30/2009

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my son is nearly a year and i think he was about 4 months, trying out get him drinking as many ozs as you can all day because it all adds up and dont let them fall asleep drinking ever and if his do awake him up and make him go off by himself because if the only way he sleeps is with milk or needing you to rock him or being cuddled you have no chance of getting him to wake up at night go im ok your still here but i will go back to sleep. train tested and inless they are ill it works

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