Question about natural child birth

Samantha - posted on 08/13/2009 ( 37 moms have responded )

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I had an epidural with my son and i really didnt like it. im not planning on having another baby for a while but when i do im considering natural childbirth. I was wondering if you can feel it when you tear and when you get the stiches? and the delivery of my son was a little complicated and they had to use a vacum. how does that feel?

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Renee - posted on 08/16/2009

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Hi, I had a natural birth with my daughter now 5 months, they wasted a lot of time setting up the vacuum for me when it wasn’t needed after they attached it which I found the most painful of the entire birth, I only pushed twice and she came out. I had 2 stitches which I didn't even know about during or even after. I credit my lack of pain during the birth and my recovery to my naturopath and the homeopathic medicine she gave me and preparing my perineum with almond oil and drinking raspberry leaf tea from 26 weeks, 1 cup per day all these things got me through and 20 minutes after my daughter was born I was saying I could do it again!!!! Oh and a positive attitude. Good luck.

Erin - posted on 08/15/2009

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i've had 3 babys, all natural with no drugs at all and i can honestly tell u ofcourse it hurts. but i have learnt that if you learn to breathe correctly and stop pushing when the midwife tells you.. you will not tear. my 3rd baby had the biggest head of all of mine and weighed the most and i had no tearing at all. good luck.. im sure whatever you choose 2 do u will be fine :)

Cathie - posted on 08/15/2009

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I had natural birth for all 3 of my boys ( no pain - no gain ) it hurts like hell but is ALL sooooo totally worth it & don't stress about tearing - not everyone does!!

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I agree with the others. I didn't even know that I ripped. You are focused on the actual birth. I just remember that I didn't want to stop pushing. From the time I started pushing, it was only 3 or 4 contractions until he was out. You get to a point that you think you can't stand the pain anymore from the contractions, but between them, I noticed my body just totally relaxed and I would almost fall asleep. The nurse said it was the body's way of coping. So be prepared to go from acute pain to total relaxation and back and forth a few times. The contractions were the worst part for me really. Once you start pushing, it is just a lot of pressure and burning and you just want to keep pushing and get it over with.

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Morgaine - posted on 08/31/2009

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i tore with bot laybours and you dont feel it at the time when u get stiches they give you an anistetic they can be painful when there healing but as long as you keep them clean they will heal quickly

Carrie - posted on 08/31/2009

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I started to tear with my daughter but I only felt a little bit of stinging after I heard the doctors talm about it, and then they gave me a numbing needle and the doctor had to cut me some so its not so hard to stitch as tears. And when its comes to the stitches I didnt feel it I watched him do it actually.

Cathi - posted on 08/31/2009

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At that moment you are thinking GET OUT!!! C'MON!!!! They freeze for the stitches. You don't notice the vaccuum either. You just feel the baby moving through the birth canal, and POP, you're done! I didn't have time for pain management, but when it comes right down to it, it's the absolute last thing on your mind. And, a couple of weeks later you don't really remember that kind of stuff. For such a short time compared to a lifetime, it's totally worth experiencing natural child birth. If we do it again I will go natural again.

Stephanie - posted on 08/30/2009

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Nope, You dont feel when you tear at all. The doc should give you some numbing meds as well afterwards when she or he stitches you up. Also to help control the contractions my nurse told me to close my eyes and totally let my body go limp, breathe nice and slow and in your mind escape to a calm and relaxing place. Lets just say I have been to every beach in the world....it was lovely! lol The technique defintely helped me. The more relaxed you are the less tense your body will be and labor can advance faster. I only had a 7 hr labor. I only say this as advice sense you had an epidural with your son.

Kimberly - posted on 08/30/2009

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natural childbirth can be hard for some ppl. i had 2 natural births. one was fast, about 20 mins in labor. my 2nd which was 2 wks ago was 10 hrs labor but i pushed through. you will always feel a pressure maybe not pain. they will tell you when you are crowning, and thats the worse of the pressure/pain. you dont really feel the tearing cause your more focused on breathing and constant pushing. you may feel them when they give you stitches but it is minor and fast and they will give you a local to numb the area. it is different for everyone, but it is rewarding to have at least one natural birth to know the difference and you feel you accomplished something so much greater then you can ever imagine

Michelle - posted on 08/18/2009

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You can not feel when ur perineum is getting tear. beacuse when baby is in brth canal his head is pressing on nerves which cause natural aneasthetic. also stitches may feel a bit unconfortable. all pain is coming afterwards - unfortunetly- ur stitches are sore, ur more likely to be bruised down below.

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I had epidurals with both my kids, but my OB turned it off when it came time to deliver. I tore a little with my first and didn't know until the doc told me that he needed to do some stitching. Didn't even feel the stitching, because I was so preoccupied with the baby. My first born was also delivered via ventouse which doesn't hurt at all. It's just a little cap that's put on baby's head. Poor baby had a swollen cap shape on the top of his head for about a month though.
Because you'd be having your second child, you'll find that everything goes faster and easier. The road's already been paved. So you may find that you won't tear (I didn't). If you end up having another epi, you could always asked that it be turned off prior to delivery. It only takes 1-2 contractions for the epi to wear off and you're in business.
Good luck!

Cara - posted on 08/17/2009

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As far as feeling yourself tear, I didn't at all. I was to focused on getting him out because I knew I was going to feel better after. The stitches did hurt a little, they give you a shot of numbing stuff but that hurts about as bad as the stitches. Honestly though after giving birth naturally the stitches are nothing! I dont know about the vacum though.

Sam - posted on 08/17/2009

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afraid so. there is absolutely nothing like it. i tore really badly and felt every bit of it and i was amost crying through contractions. but i dont feel i would have done it any other way even had i known. its the most unbelievable experiece and i am glad to have experienced it. From the other answers here though I guess it depends on the individual as to what or how much pain you feel, or whether you tear. you don't know untill you've done it.

Penny - posted on 08/17/2009

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I had natural for all four of my babies. The first was in labor for over 30 hours after that each birth was cut in half. You remember the pain but don't feel it after the baby is born.

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delivering naturally was the most amazing and rewarding experiance possible. the sense of acomplishment is just so satisfying, and my hubby is so proud of me. i didnt feel the tear, and had 5 stiches which i didnt feel either. everything is almost numb afterwards, and its a tiny sting for the needle, then you dont feel anything at all. besides you are just so involved in the face of your newborn baby you dont care what they are doing at all. Amazing!!!!

Ashley - posted on 08/16/2009

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I honestly think it depends on your personal pain tolerance. It is easy for soembody who had an easy birthing experience, or even somebody who has a high pain tollerance to say "yeah go ahead do it!" but every woman is different and every child birth experience is different. With my second delivery I wanted the epidural, but b the time I decided I wanted it I was pushing her out! I was induced (they gave me pitocin) the night before (approx. 5:30 pm) and they broke my water at about 5:30 am...my baby did not like it in there without her comfy cozy warm water--hahaha--I went from 4 1/2 cm to 10 in about 2 hours. I was set on having an epidural once I couldn't stand it anymore, but I thought I would have more time. It ended up by the time they were done with the legal stuff and preparing I had to push her out. I did tear, and my daughter was only 6 pounds 9 ounces...I tore because she came down so fast...honestly I wouldn't have even known had the Dr. not of told me. I was holding my daughter doing skin to skin immediately after she was born and my legs were still up and my "special"part was getting stitched up. I know the Dr. did give me a shot because I felt some of it for a minute, but once I said something she shot me up and I was good to go. Mylacerations weren't all that bad, and I really didn't feel them afterwards.

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I had my first daughter naturally, and my second with an epidural. The first time around, I could feel myself starting to tear (which, for me, hurt worse than the contractions), then the dr. gave me a shot of lidocane and did an episiotomy. I could feel the last few stitches going in as the medicine started to wear off. If I had to do it all over again, I would have gotten an epidural for both of my daughter's births. My second labor experience was much more enjoyable than the first, and my recovery time was a lot shorter, too.

Ceshante - posted on 08/15/2009

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My first two births were natural. I had no tearing and no stitches. The worst part for me were just the contractions. I really didn't feel any pain when they actually passed to the outside. The doctors said "now your going to feel a little burning but I think all of the pressure numbed me some from the pain. On my second child they wanted to use the Vacum but I was afraid of it so I sat upsome and pushed with all my might and popped out my son.

Lindsey - posted on 08/15/2009

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i would never get an epidural..i wasn't told anything really GOOD about them other than "most of the time it takes the pain away" well...umm what if it doesn't..lol so i vowed WAY before i even thought about getting pregnant i would never get anything for child birth and i ended up getting pregnant continued to say i would never get it had my heart set on that fact and i ended up with a perfect natural child birth i was in the hospital for an hour and then poof there she was..it was an easy delivery...it was totally worth it...it didn't even really "hurt.."...it was more of a burning...more than anything i thot so anyways...i luckily didn't tear so i can't mention about that... but i was told epidurals slow everything down and what not so i never even considered it..:)

Candice - posted on 08/15/2009

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truth ..if i ever had to do it again (which i won't) i would skip the epidural too. it may have saved me pain during, but caused pretty bad pain after (my legs KILLED all night..and i hear that's common). at least with natural it's over when the baby comes. good luck! (and even with the epidural i cried and screamed when she crowned..lotta help that was)

Christine - posted on 08/15/2009

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Oh,I also wanted to mention that I was home when my son was 12 hours old!!! I waddled a bit but I did it!!

Christine - posted on 08/15/2009

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Birth for me, is incredibly spritual. There is nothing closer to the meaning of life than giving birth to new life. I'm not a crazy, crunchy-granola person either. But for me, I wasn't going to let ANYONE take away that God-given right of giving birth, or the feeling of it. It was absolutely amazing to feel my baby being born, and you just can't even imagine the emotions you have when you are able to know that you've done something like that. There is nothing more powerful in the world, why would you want to miss out on that feeling? My best advice to you is to not worry about the tearing, or the pain of contractions--these things are normal and what it takes to get that baby out. What you do want to do it prepare yourself, know that tearing can happen, contractions will be painful, but tolerable, and it will all be over LONG before your "successful" epidural wears off! I gave birth 100% naturally at a birth center. I prepared myself for his birth, I read books all about it, and I only laid down on my bed to give birth; I spend all of my laboring on my feet, which helped move my son down and ready to be pushed out. He was my first baby and was pushed out in just 30 minutes once I got the hang of pushing (its a very odd thing feeling, using your muscle that way LOL) Can I just tell you it didn't hurt to push! It felt good to work with my body's contractions, and to move that baby out into the world! I could feel the "ring of fire" but I didn't tear on the outside. I actually tore on the posterior wall of my birth canal because his arm was folded up and the pressure from his elbow just tore the back wall a bit, but that didn't really even hurt. Natural birth, it's really amazing. Just know that you can do it, women have done it for years, and the pain is tolerable! ;) Oh and for me, the stitching was very uncomfortable. Maybe it was the location of it, and because they had to use a spectrum to stitch inside, but that was by far the most uncomfortable part.

Sarah - posted on 08/15/2009

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Quoting Crystal:

I'm gonna be totally honest here, I definetly felt the ring of fire(babe's head crowning) that the one mom mentioned...I didn't have any drugs or an epidural. Not to discourage u but the vacuum was the worst part of labor and delivery by far, however by then I just wanted to see my son so bad, I didn't care anymore(I was pushing hard for about 3 hours before they used the vacuum). And no I didn't feel the tear at all. At first I did feel the dr. stitching it up, so he froze it again and then they handed my son to me and I forgot everything else:) Doing it without drugs is totally worth it tho, cause u heal way quicker and I could've walked out of the delivery room, but of course they insisted on a wheelchair. Just make certain ur partner and the nurses r with u on the no meds issue, BREATHE thru each contraction and focus on one point on the ceiling(mine was a sprinkler...lol). Sounds stupid but works!!



i agree with you there i felt what you describe as thyey ring of fire.



but you try to forget about all that you just want your baby their as quick as possible lol

Crystal - posted on 08/14/2009

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I'm gonna be totally honest here, I definetly felt the ring of fire(babe's head crowning) that the one mom mentioned...I didn't have any drugs or an epidural. Not to discourage u but the vacuum was the worst part of labor and delivery by far, however by then I just wanted to see my son so bad, I didn't care anymore(I was pushing hard for about 3 hours before they used the vacuum). And no I didn't feel the tear at all. At first I did feel the dr. stitching it up, so he froze it again and then they handed my son to me and I forgot everything else:) Doing it without drugs is totally worth it tho, cause u heal way quicker and I could've walked out of the delivery room, but of course they insisted on a wheelchair. Just make certain ur partner and the nurses r with u on the no meds issue, BREATHE thru each contraction and focus on one point on the ceiling(mine was a sprinkler...lol). Sounds stupid but works!!

Alesha - posted on 08/14/2009

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i just had my first daughter 5 weeks ago and had to get an epistiotomy after 3hrs of pushing. I had no drugs at all. I felt the actual cutting but didnt hurt because they numb the area AND the contractions are unreal that you dont really care what they r doing as long as its going to help your baby come out!! haha. The stitching didnt hurt either cos then you have your baby on you and its still numb down there. Natural is the BEST way to go! Right from your very first contraction tho do the deep breathing to getthrough it and it sets the pace so that you do that thru each one...

Melinda - posted on 08/14/2009

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I had what they call '4th degree tears' and I didn't feel my skin tearing while my daughter was coming through, my doc used the vacuum as well but I never knew until afterward, and stitches feel like a little pinches but they can put something on you to numb that area only if you require stitches so that you won't even feel that. If you do have to have stitches, it will be tender down there but not painful. You'll be fine, this is what we were constructed to do! :)

Tiffanie - posted on 08/14/2009

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I don't know about a vacuum, but you can feel the tearing and the stitches. You could ask for an episiotomy, but my doc wouldn't do it when I asked for it. It reduces the tearing. It doesn't compare to the pair of labor though.

Emma - posted on 08/14/2009

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i had my little girl 5 weeks ago.

i had 2nd degree stitches inside and out

i did not feel the tear at the time but i had been given pethedine which ran out before the actual birth and i felt everything else but didnt realise i had tore until i was told i was going for stitches. the stitches are sore for about 2-3 weeks. but honestly i wouldnt worry about tearing cuz even if you do feel it...its all worth while in the long run :)

Sarah - posted on 08/14/2009

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i can't remember if i could feel it when my son tore me .. but anyway you try not to concentrate on things like that.

the only form of pain relief i had was being numbed when they had to stitch me up

Ashley - posted on 08/14/2009

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with my first son i tore really badly. i had 4th degree tears and the epidural had run out so i felt everything. they tried freezing me 5 times and it still didnt take. i felt them stitching me and i'm not gonna lie it hurt. my partner held my hand through it all while i cried. my 2nd son wanst as bad. i had 2 stitches but i also had an episiotomy for him because i was going to tear where the old scarring was from my first. i felt his a little bit but not near as bad as the first. it took them abot 10 mins to stitch me up the 2nd time where as the first i was being stitched for an hour!

Minnie - posted on 08/13/2009

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When I pushed both of my girls out all I felt was some mild stinging. And I tore about an inch with both. There is so much pressure on the nerves in that area that it really, truly doesn't hurt much.



And they give you an injection of lidocaine when you get stiched up. It's uncomfortable,just because I really hate the feeling of the needle tugging through my skin down there, but it's not painful. I prefered the birth to that, lol, but it's done in a few minutes.

Nicole - posted on 08/13/2009

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I also had an epidural with my first child, and had a natural birth with my second child. the natural birth went so fast! From the time I started having contractions to the birth of my little boy was about two and a half hours. The contractions were really hard when they got really close together so I started asking for the epidural. by the time they were gonna set me up with the I.V. to get things started I had fully dilated so there was no time for epidural. When I started having to push and the babys head came down was when I felt the most pain. I did tear but they didnt need to use any forceps or vacuum. I was screaming in pain but luckily I wasnt swearing or anything. It was very painful when the baby passed through, but all the pain is focused in one spot that I found it just felt like a burning sensation and then when the baby came out it all went away. It was so much more worth it because after the baby was born all the pain and everything just went right away, there was no I.V.s and no catheter. Hope fully when you have yournext baby it will work out for you.

Katarina - posted on 08/13/2009

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oh and I forgot to mention, they did numb me up for my episiotomy (Thank goodness because I got a third level, which is cut from back to front) and they also numbed me up more when I was stitched. My when he was cutting I didn't feel it, from all the pressure the baby is putting on you, you aren't suppose to feel the tearing or cutting.

Katarina - posted on 08/13/2009

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I had an episiotomy so things were a little different for me, my son never crowned. I did have a vacumm delivery, and I didn't feel it, but poor baby had a cone shaped head for just over a month. I had a shot of morphine when I got to the hospital and by the time i was ready to deliver it was out of my system(2 hours) so I had a natural child birth. Def. learn how to breath it's really important and I can't stress enough to be fit and exercise during you pregnancy. It took my a while to heal from from episiotomy but when your baby is born you forget it all, until you're taken to your room and try to get up, lol. I would do it all in a heart beat and I think next time I won't use any meds.

Sarah - posted on 08/13/2009

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I did not feel it when I tore with my daughter or when they stitched me up, but I might be been too focused on other things to notice if there was any pain. I do remember the "ring of fire". I had IV drugs with my first so could feel how strong contractions were. I was able to prepare myself for getting through the contractions, but did not realize the "ring of fire". That is when you deliver the head it feels like a "ring of fire". It does not last long, once the head is delivered it is over. I just had wished I had known about it so I could prepare for it. I am not sure how the vacum would feel naturally. I had it with my first but not with my daughter.

Dyan - posted on 08/13/2009

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All I will say is that if you plan on it learn how to breathe and make yourself comfortable. I always thought that I wanted to have my last child with no meds but when the time came I got the epidural. Much to my suprise, the pump broke and the nurses didn't even know. It was too late to give me a booster and it was the worst pain I have ever experienced. But I do have to say that once it was over I felt no pain. Your endorphines kick in and nothing else matters but the child you bring into the world. Did I forget to mention that my daughter was 10 lbs 14 oz. and 23 inches long? I would do it all over again. Good Luck!

Nikki - posted on 08/13/2009

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No way. I didn't feel it when my daughter tore me. I thinks its because we are too concentrated on the contractionc and just wanting the child out. My docotr pured some numbing meds on me and then gave me a shot of numbing solution shen she started to stitch me up. They are a little painful for the first few days after you get them though. I can't tell you about the vaccum though. I didn't need it.

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