Seperation anxiety

Laura - posted on 12/10/2009 ( 10 moms have responded )

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Please help me, anywhere i go i have to take my baby with me, i cant bear the thought of being without him, i dont even leave him with hiss dad, my partner, am i odd and how do i get over this? Also i would like my baby to sleep in a seperate bedroom as he sleep thru the night, but i dont like the thought of him being in there on his own, but its pointless him sleeping in the same room as me, how do i brave the situation?

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Gina - posted on 12/12/2009

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My son is 8 months old. It was hard to be away from him. You have to ask yourself what you want and what is best for you and your family. If you feel that you need to start working on being able to leave him with others then start by having your partner watch your baby for 10 or 15 minutes while you take a short walk. If you are not ready don't worry about it. Just enjoy the time you have with your baby. They grow and change so quickly. I hear too many people say I can't wait until my child grows so that... and then later they say they grow to fast and the miss... So what I learned from that is there is time enough to worry about things when the time is right. In the mean time enjoy every moment you have while you have it because you will not get this time back. Good luck and enjoy every moment you have with your baby!

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Eve - posted on 12/13/2009

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3 months old is still a very young baby, Its normal and actually good for your baby that you want to and are with him all the time. My baby is almost 6 months old he sleeps throught the night also, I still co-sleep with him and have no intention to move him ay time soon. My next step with him is to move him in to his crib but still in the same room with me. But if you want him to be in a seperate room, maybe you can install a baby monitor with the video and watch him all the time if that makes you feel better.

Renae - posted on 12/13/2009

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You just have to move him to his own room. You will cry for a couple of nights, most mums do, you just have to be brave. Its YOU who doesn't like the idea of him being there on his own, but that is a very adult way of thinking, just like being scared of the dark, babies don't know to be scared of the dark or of being alone, they haven't learnt that yet. Just think, the longer he is in your room and the older he is when you move him the more he will KNOW he is somewhere different, its not fair on him to let him get used to sleeping in one place and then change it on him. Thinking that way helps sometimes.

I thought this post was going to be about separation anxiety (as in the infant developmental stage), but it is mum who has the separation anxiety here. His dad may not look after him as well as you do but dad loves him, doesn't he? Who better to leave him with than someone who loves him? Try leaving him while you go to the shop, just for 20 minutes. When you can do that without fretting and racing home (like I used to), then leave him with dad for an hour. Build up slowly. Even start when baby is asleep so he won't even know you were gone.

Gina - posted on 12/11/2009

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I started telling my boy that I will be back whenever I leave the room and I tell him I am back when I come back. He no longer gets upset with me when I leave the room and continues to play except when he really wants to go with me. It is nice. I think he was worried I would not come back and so telling him what I am doing has helped a lot. I was also wondering how old Laura's baby is?

Gina - posted on 12/11/2009

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If he is at least under three months that is totally understandable. I was the same way. After three months I started being brave and would leave my son with my husband while I went on a quick (no more than 30 minutes to an hour) trip to the store. It was not until he was about six months that I started opening up to other people. My pediatrician said for the first three months he is like a fetus that is why that time is often referred to as the fourth trimester. It is good for him and you to be together during this time.

Kelsey - posted on 12/11/2009

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Im assuming your son is still a newborn? You will get over it quick, I was the same way. Once you feel like hes safer and not quite as fragile, youll start opening up to your partners help and even the dreaded babysitter! :) Hang in there!

Nikkia - posted on 12/10/2009

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you will get over it .. wait until he starts having with u and wont let u out of his sight

my nakira doesnt like it if mommy leaves her behind but she is getting better since she knows i will come back... as to the sleeping arrangements do u natural feed? if so then yeah have a separate for him and you to share so he can at night

if not then get baby moniters for his room

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