sleeping in car seat

Tracy - posted on 12/28/2009 ( 11 moms have responded )

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The only way i can get my 17 week old to sleep is in her car seat. This has turned into a horrible habit. She screams and screams until i rock her back and fourth in the car seat and it is very tiring lol. No, she doesnt like the swing or anything else..so don't bother suggesting it...Nor does she like when we attach the car seat to the swing lol. she wants us to do it..how do I get her back in the crib for the night and for naps? anyone have any tricks? should i let her cry a little?

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Leigh - posted on 12/31/2009

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We purchased a matress called the Nap Nanny. It is shaped like a car seat and has a seat belt. There is no rocking involved but there is the comfort of being surrounded like the car seat. You might be able to wean out the rocking and your baby would still have the snuggled in comfort. I like it because they are not laying flat on their back choking on their mucus and helps with acid reflux.

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I had to let my daughter cry it out, and it was very hard to do but the best thing that I have ever done. She sleeps great now, in her crib or playpen when we are out somewhere, It has changed my life. There is a specific way of doing it, so look into it first before doing it.

Renae - posted on 12/30/2009

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To teach her to go to sleep in her crib you have several options. No-cry methods and crying methods. Crying methods are most effective, have higher success rates and work quickly. No cry methods are gentle and require some time and patience.



If you use a crying method I recommend you use crying it out with cry interpretation. I am not an advocate of control crying or any method where you go in and check on them as each time you go into them, you must leave again, and when you leave they go through the initial distress of being left all over again and it makes the baby more and more distressed. If you use a crying method and leave her to figure out she is supposed to go to sleep and do some research on cry interpretation and listen to her cries so that you know if she needs you, you can cry it out without distressing your baby. This method is very effective and is usually not nearly as bad as mum's expected.



The most common no-cry method used by behaviourists and sleep consultants is gradual withdrawal. This is where you gradually withdraw the baby from needing your help to go to sleep. This has an 80% success rate and takes 2-4 weeks.



Another no-cry method is that of UK baby whisperer Tracey Hogg, called Pick-up/Put-down. She has a website with a support forum for people using the method. This is not a commonly recognised method but lots of posts say it works.



There is lots of info out there if you google any of the above methods. You are also more than welcome to contact me for info or instructions on anything I have said (if I include it all this post will be too long).

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i am curious to know HOW this started! it is very odd! but hey babies like what babies like!

im a firm believer in a method called "the baby bliss method" and routine routine routine!

bed time is the easiest time to start as bub will be the most tired and more willing to sleep! start with a good bedtime routine and stick to it!

bath, bottle/breast, bed!

at this age babies love to be wrapped and it helps to stop their startle reflex which can wake them during the night!

you will probably have to let her cry just a little... but dont let it go on too long as she is still so young! leave her to whinge but as soon as the cry picks up go in to comfort her.

at first try to comfort without picking her up, pat/rub her and gently shhh her til she settles! if this doesnt work THEN pick her up to break the crying cycle.

allow her to settle and close her eyes then place her back in the crib.
then its a matter of repeat, repeat repeat! eventually she will settle!

just remember not to let her cry too long... as soon as it picks up beyond a grizzle go to her!

nursing is also a great way to settle a child. even if for the first couple of nights you nurse her to sleep... it is better than swinging a car seat around!

good luck!

Kate - posted on 12/29/2009

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I agree with Lise. Although the Ferber method does work, I am not sure it is a good thing to let your baby cry. It just teaches them that you are not going to respond to their needs. I also recommend reading The Happiest Baby on the Block. It has some great methods for getting a baby to stop crying and or sleep.

Lise - posted on 12/29/2009

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I'm not sure how heavy your carseat is, but if you could rock/swing it with one hand while your other hand is under the baby (I can do this in our carseat), then you could fade out the car seat so it's just you swinging her.

As for the crying it out method, look into it from all aspects (not just anecdotal "It works great!"). As a previous poster said, it's not recommended until babies are older - at LEAST 6 months. And it works because babies give up on their mommies and daddies - the goal is to teach them that when they cry no one will respond. The whole concept to me is too sad (especially because babies have no object permanence, so when you aren't there, they think you may be gone for good), BUT it is every parent's choice for what they think is best.

Kate - posted on 12/29/2009

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The post above are suggesting the Ferber method, which is not recommended until a baby is at least 8 months old. Have you tried cosleeping? If you are nursing, try laying witht the baby and nursing her to sleep. Then stay with her until she is deeply asleep. Another method to try is a sling. put the baby in the sling and walk with her until she falls asleep. You can then lay her down and wrap the sling around her so that she feels secure.

Lesley - posted on 12/28/2009

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I'm not sure what to suggest in terms of replacing the habit. I do encourage you to find one though as infant car seats tip the baby's head forward slightly, gradually reducing the oxygen in their blood and have actually been known to cause suffocation.

I know that by 5 months old it is okay to let them fuss/play in their cribs, only going to comfort them if they begin to cry seriously. It will likely just take a few days of patience as your little one adjusts to the change in routine.

Good luck!

Tiffany - posted on 12/28/2009

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My husband and I took a parenting class and tried this for our son so that I could get some sleep at night and it WORKED! I am not going to lie it is hard but worth it in the end/
It is supposed to take about 3 days to work. So make sure you try it when you know you are going to be home in the evening and have a routine ready--for my son it is bath, bottle, book and then bed I will try to tell you the exact times but I dont remember exactly but the whole point is predetermined times
Lay her in her bed after your evening routine, quiet dark and relaxing She will cry but it is okay.
If she is crying go in the room talk to her, sing- some calming noise-dont pick her up or touch her talk to her until she calms down a little
1st Day-
1st time wait 3 mins
2nd time wait 5 mins
3rd time wait 6 mins After the third time if she is still crying keep going into the room or standing at the door every 6 mins until she falls asleep

2nd Day
1st time 5mins
2nd time 8mins
3rd time 10 mins and every 10mins after that until she falls asleep

3rd Day
1st time 6 mins
2nd time 10 mins
3rd time 15 mins and every 15 mins after that until she goes to sleep


But like Dianne Frank said the biggest thing is NOT PICKING HER UP! It breaks your heart but you know she needs the rest and so do you!! And as long as it is predetermined times that you go in there you are good to go
Much love!! and Good Luck!

Dianne - posted on 12/28/2009

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Are you wrapping her in the burrito roll before you put her down? Does she wear a hat to bed? Both of these things will help her to feel secure and near you. Yes, when you are training her, she will cry very hard the first night, about 1/2 as hard the second, and usually a short cry from then on. Check her over before you put her to bed, for wet diaper, hunger, your hair wrapped around a finger. Set the timer for 10 min, then go check on her, but don't touch her. Talk to her in a calm voice. Then reset the timer for 15 min and increase it 5 min each consecutive time. It takes time for her to understand what you expect of her, but she will come to enjoy the way you put her to bed after a while. It took me 18 months to learn this technique with my first one, because I kept picking him up after the first 10 min. I couldn't stand to hear him cry.

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