Teenage mothers.

Brooke - posted on 07/06/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )

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Why do people think women under 20 shouldn't be mothers??

I am currently 18, with a 5 month old daughter. I am still with her father and we plan on getting married but it doesn't seem like a big issue right now. We have just bought a house and a new car. We have worked really hard to get where we are now. I have no regrets what so ever, I love being a mum... oh and yes our daughter was planned, we were pregnant once before but miscarried, and that baby was also planned but obviously not meant to be.

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Lynlee - posted on 07/07/2009

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I admit that sometimes I feel like this ie. prejudiced against teenaged mums. I guess I was brought up to think that the only proper way to have children is to be married and have had a career first etc and it is hard to think any other way. My concerns with some teenage mums and dads for that matter is that because they are still teenagers they tend to be a bit selfish and sometimes don't think what is best for their kids. Some teenage mums I have talked to are quite blase about having a baby, especially unplanned babies and when I see them smoking, drinking while pregnant it makes me feel bad for that child. Having said that though, one of my good friends was a teenage mum and though none of her children were planned, she became a mum at 16 and again at 18. She is the best mum and her children is well-behaved and well-brought up. She had a third unplanned child in her mid twenties and now her whole life is ahead of her. Because she had her family young, she doesn't have to take a break from her career like 'normal' mums do. She has been with her partner since she was 14 and they are still together 15ish years later. So I guess it depends on the situation rather than the age...

Brooke - posted on 07/07/2009

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I do understand people's feelings towards teenage mothers, there are a lot of young girls out there who have children, but before being judged I believe you should get to know the person first.

I was in yr 12 when I left but it had nothing to do with being pregnant. I wasn't there for the right reasons, when I did go to school it was for my friends. I didn't like a lot of the work (no excuse) so I left. Now I plan to go to TAFE next year to do an aged care course. It is one day a week and at the end I'lll have a certificate to be able to further my career into being an enrolled nurse, I also plan on going to uni and becoming a midwife. Being a young mother doesn't mean you miss out on life. I am living my life the way I planned and now my partner and I get to share our lives with a beautiful little person.

I will not pretend that it is not hard at times but it is hard for all mothers whether your a teenager or a 30 year old.

Diane - posted on 07/07/2009

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I think all of your points are very valid. But you are the exception. I have a daughter and my biggest fear is that she will get pregnant before she's done with college. I hope that she gets to experience all the joy that comes with being a parent, but I want her to be prepared and ready.



I was raised by a single teenage mother. My mom had me when she was 17 and my father bailed before I was even born. I love my mom and I know she truly did her best. But it can be tough being raised by a person who is still trying to grow up themselves.

Claire - posted on 07/07/2009

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I think that MOST people think this way because our society has raised us to believe that younger women AREN'T prepared to provide for a child. I think that this is due to the majority of women under 20 are single or unmarried, and don't yet have a post-secondary education. I know that I wasn't ready to have any kids until I had both of those things; but that's me.

Gemma - posted on 07/07/2009

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i no just how you fill iv been with my partner for 4 years since i was 14 and we planned to have our little girl when i was 15 and i was 16 when she was born and we now live together and he works 6 days a week to take care of us and im now 27weeks pregnent with our second baby and ill be 18 in 2 weeks and we plan to get married to when we have enough money both our babys was planned and i love being a mum i even more i love being a young mum, if you fancy a chat just find me on facebook be nice to talk to some 1 in the same boat as me lol x :)

Mel - posted on 07/07/2009

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yeah your right Brooke and when u fall pregnant everyone assume its a imstake to, i was 18, trying for her since i was 16 and even 2 yrs on when i finally fell pregnant got the comments at work,asking if i was still with the dad and if it was planned, if i was married and why i wasnt married. as long as your ready it doesnt matte what age. im 20 now and she is 15 months trying for number #2 because of my dificulties with conceiving. if i didnt get in now it may have taken years down the track as i was lucky to fall pregnant in the first place. being a mum is the most precious gift in the world and everyone has the fact to be a mother as long as they are mature enough and financially stable enough to do so

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