toddler and a new baby = jealously

Allison - posted on 08/27/2009 ( 9 moms have responded )

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does anyone else have jealously issues with their children, i have a 3 yr old and a 3 months old and my 3rd old is acting up and being really jealous of the baby im gettin really stressed anyone have any ideas

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Heather - posted on 09/01/2009

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my son has done the same things...when i'm nursing her my 2yr old will find things to throw at her,when she was three weeks old he threw a hard ball at her head.he's throwed shoes,books,toys,anything he could find at that moment.I've tried the whole"lets help mom with the baby"thing and that doesn't seem to work much.he is just an out of control kid!

Laura - posted on 08/31/2009

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hiya i have a son whos nearly 2 and a wee girl whos 10 months myself and husband are have are really hard time right now as our son is so jealous the this he does are unbeleveble hes geting up a smacking his sister he even gave her a black eye he shouts back at you when telling him off help girls

Glendaliz - posted on 08/31/2009

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try making her a helper. I have 4 kids and recently had one that's 1 wk old and my 2 and half y/o is doing the same thing. i've been having her help with the baby stuff and have her as involved as possible and it seems to be working..good luck

Heather - posted on 08/31/2009

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see that never worked for me,my son helped do all that too,he was even in the delivery room when his sister was born.but Zack has always been momma's boy and has always had my full attetion and now that Alexis is here she takes up alot of the time i'd have to spend with him. we actually just put him to therapy to see if that will help him with some of his anger issues.i hope everything works out well for you and your little ones.best of luck!!

Carol - posted on 08/31/2009

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i think im goin to have the same problem.. i have a 2yr lil girl at home and she is a momma's girl, our son is due in three days and i have the strongest feeling shes not goin to be a happy camper. Altho i could be totally wrong, ive had her help pack his hospital bag and she helped me set up his bed. She comes up to my tummy and kisses it sayin hi to baby Jax as she calls him. I think the making her a big helper will work well with her. Thats goin to be my strategy

Heather - posted on 08/30/2009

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yup!! I have a 2yr old and a 14wk old.it's been hell in my house since my daughter was born,my son acts out in any way possible to get my attention.no matter what i do or how much time i spend with him it seems like it's never enough.I to am sooo stressed and out of ideas.i don't know what to do anymore!

Teresa - posted on 08/30/2009

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My girls is a little older, but she took time to adjust. Try to spend some one on one time with your 3 year old. Try giving short bursts of attention since you may not have much time on your hands. Five minutes before you know you'll have to feed baby or when you know baby will be content to lie and play on own for a few minutes. I found giving 5 minutes to my girl gave me 15 to 20 minutes of time to do other things and made her feel less jealous - especially if I gave the baby to somebody else and told her we had to go play together on our own. Good luck.

Peggy - posted on 08/28/2009

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Yep, my 3 yr old has really been acting out since the baby came six weeks ago. Attention seeking behaviors I'd guess? I'm watching this thread for ideas to help too. I give her as much attention as I possibly can, and so far it's clearly not enough.

Candice - posted on 08/28/2009

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have you tried making the 3 yr old a helper? i don't know if it would work, but it may make her feel like she is needed because she is a big girl, instead of feeling like she's not the baby anymore.

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