what would you do??

Samantha - posted on 08/09/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )

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So i went to a baby shower yesterday and my 5 month old was crying because he was hungry. i set him down in his stroller to did his food out of the diaper bag and when i turn around some lady i have never spoken to just picked him up! she didn't even ask me. I was very offended by this. i know she was just trying to help but it was also embarrassing because it made me feel like she didnt think i was doing a good enough of a job! what would you have done?

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Amanda - posted on 08/10/2009

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I would have been very upset. If you don't know the person and they touch your child without asking you that is completely wrong! I let people hold my daughter that I don't know when they ask and they stay right next to me but not if they don't ask.

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Quoting Ally:

I honestly would have freaked out...i cannot stand people who think they have a right to come up and touch or actually pick up my child whithout even asking!! you have every right to feel that way. I had an elderly lady at target come up when my daughter was about 4 months old and literally didn't say anything to me and tried to reach over to touch my baby's face ...i literally had to swat her hand out of the way and explain to her that it was not appreciated! Who know's where her hands have been! I dont understand that behavior!



I HATED it when people touched my daughter when she was a newborn.  The last thing I needed to worry about was some stranger's germs all over my daughter!  Now that she is older (almost 6 months) it doesn't bother me as much, probably because she's had a couple round of shots.



As to the original question, I wouldn't have appreciated someone I didn't know just picking up my child without even asking.  I would have said something to her.  Perhaps something like my daughter is learning to self-sooth, so it's ok if she fusses a little, but thanks for trying to help.  I would try to keep my cool even though on the inside I would be FUMING!

Ally - posted on 08/09/2009

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I honestly would have freaked out...i cannot stand people who think they have a right to come up and touch or actually pick up my child whithout even asking!! you have every right to feel that way. I had an elderly lady at target come up when my daughter was about 4 months old and literally didn't say anything to me and tried to reach over to touch my baby's face ...i literally had to swat her hand out of the way and explain to her that it was not appreciated! Who know's where her hands have been! I dont understand that behavior!

Tina - posted on 08/09/2009

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If she picked him up and stayed there with you, I would have said thank you. She could see you were working on getting him something I'm sure. if she picked him up and walked away, I would have had to have gone the opposite way with a response. Help or not, don't take my child without permission. The key here is that you didn't know her. I'm a free spirited Mom. At church any adult can pick up my child and hold him, some I know well will walk off but they are people I know. Some mom's just don't like that type of thing and they are perfectly within their rights. However, it comes in handy sometimes because my 3 children have never been clingy where I had to be the one holding them.

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