Why do people give a rat's tushy about how your baby sleeps at night!!!?

Christine - posted on 10/08/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I can't grasp this. Every person that I run into, even relatives that I see weekly, always ask me "how is he sleeping for you?" or "Is he sleeping through the night yet?" I have an incredibly active 9 month old boy who takes great naps, eats three large solids meals a day, nurses about 6 times during the day and cluster feeds all night long... and I am very ok with this!! People give me the eye when I tell them, "he's learning to walk, what do you think?"



I have never pushed him to pacify himself through the night. We co-sleep, I sleep better that way, and so does the baby. He rarely cries, there fore rarely wakes up when he needs to nurse. So WHAT!!!? He is a happy, active and healthy boy that is reaching milestones on a fast track.



Can someone please tell me why other people care so much about your baby sleeping through the night?

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Christine - posted on 10/08/2009

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You know it is a very judging question, isn't it? I really feel like this is the best for us, and anyone who tries to question me, I've got quite a response waiting to jam down their throat for questioning my parenting. And in some instances, when I bring up how bright and well-developed my son seems to be, I question whether or not depriving him his nighttime comfort and food would have made him less advanced in terms of milestones. Who knows? I just never have asked another parent how their child was sleeping for them, because it doesn't matter to me how their kid sleeps, I just can't understand why it's one of the first questions upon greeting!

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When asked if they are sleeping through the night, just say 'yes.' It is the easiest way to end the conversation and move on to something else. Too many people are judgmental and make up their minds as to the quality of one's parenting based on the answer to the question.

Meagan - posted on 10/08/2009

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I get the same question. My son was sleeping through the night at 14 weeks. But when he stopped sleeping through the night at 20 weeks because he was teething and milk supply issues, I felt like I had to explain myself. It was weird. He is still having sleeping issues, and we're dealing with it, but I would also like a break from the sleeping question.

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