Will "IT" ever go back to normal size?

Jen - posted on 11/08/2009 ( 8 moms have responded )

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I guess my husband has noticed a difference when we were having sex last night that I am alot bigger down there since having our son 4 months ago. I felt kinda upset the way he brought it up..he said.."If you wouldn't of had the baby, I would be thinking that you are cheating on me." Nice eh? I didn't know what to say???????? Does your vagina ever go back to its normal size? I've been doing Kegel exercises but I guess they arn't working fast enough!!

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Brandi - posted on 11/08/2009

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I think i would have told him to "stuff it" somewhere else!!!!! My husband has never so much as almost mentioned any difference "down there" cuz if he did, he knows I'd shut down the "fun factory" in half a heartbeat. You only had your baby 4 mos. ago. give it some time everything will go back to almost normal soon enough. I personally am sorta proud of whatever changes my body has undergone from having kids. I earned EVERY stretchmark, every swollen anything, all the extra weight, and even the stretched out 'gina lol. try to take his comment with a sense of humor, i'm sure he didnt mean it to upset you. good luck and like i said soon enough everything will be back to close enough to normal not to notice lol

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Britni - posted on 11/16/2009

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hmm well I have a 2 month old and everything down there is back to normal... unless my husband is lying to me lol but i highly doubt that but that was rude, and hurtful does he not realize that women are already sensitive after givign birth and motherhood.. :( but anyways did you tear down there?

MAYTE - posted on 11/10/2009

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YOU KNOW THAT WOULD BOTHER ME SPECIALLY IF IT CAME FROM MY HUSBAND..BUT IT WASNT HIM WHO SAID IT IT WAS HIS BROTHER..I MEAN WTF HE CALLING MY HUSBAND ASKING HIM IF I WAS LOOSER OR NOT...THAT PISSED ME OFF HE HAS 3 KIDS TO BUT HIS WIFE HAS C SECTIONS....MY HUSBAND DIDN GET A LITTLE MAD AND TOLD HIM WELL AT LEST MY WIFE KNOWS WHAT BEING A MOM IS HAVING NATURAL LABOR AND NOT FREAKING OUT AT THE TIME OF DELIVERY....BUT YEAH HE DID SAY IT WAS DIFRENT BUT NOW AFTER 4 KIDS HE STILLL WANTS ME LIKE IT IT WAS THE FIRST TIME..AND JSUT CAUSE WERE A BIT LOOSER DONT MEAN THEY WILL TAKE LONGER...MINE DONT SAMO SAMO..LOL

Sheralie - posted on 11/09/2009

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First of all that was kind of mean of him to say >.< Sometimes men don't think before they talk!

It takes a while sometimes for things to get back to normal, the best you can do is continuing your kegal exercises. It will help with bladder control and strengthen your pelvic floor.

It will also help giving the hubby a lesson in sensitivity via your foot up his...well :P lol

Jen - posted on 11/09/2009

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You guys are too funny!! Thanks..I cut him off for a while so you don't have to worry about that!!!!!!

Chelle - posted on 11/08/2009

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how rude!
did he watch you give birth!!?? surly he must know that sqeezing a mellon out ya lady bits is gunna cause some streching. i wouldnt worry too much it will go back in time. my daughter is 6months and i still dont feel the same down there. my partner has told me (only because i asked) that the outside feels a little different but it still feels the same inside. i still cant belive how rude your husband was. if my other half made a comment like that then i would simlpy reply with "well if you dont like it then dont have it" he would soon be saying sorry lol :P

Amber - posted on 11/08/2009

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How rude! Just a side thought and I am a mean little mommy sometimes but I am thinking I would have made a comment along the lines of maybe mines not bigger, maybe yours is shrinking! HA HA. It probably will not ever go back to the original size but yes, it should eventually get close enough that there shouldn't be any obvious difference. Just keep doing what you're doing and tell yourself and your husband that it does take some time for things to get back to the usual.

Lauren - posted on 11/08/2009

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Men!! They expect something so big to come out of something so small and it not to stretch abit!! It should go back to normal keep doing the excercises as much as you can...while doing the washing up, while watching tv, while driving in the car even while feeding your baby. If by the time your baby is about 9 months to a year there is still alot of difference I would mention to gp/nurse.

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