would you feed your baby someone else's breastmilk if you couldnt produce it but you know its best

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Marabeth - posted on 07/21/2009

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if rather give my baby another woman's boob milk than powdered cow's boob milk.

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Marabeth - posted on 07/27/2009

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$25 an ounce? holy crap, all my work from home dreams *can* come true! :)



when i say i would i'd want another woman to actually nurse my baby.. i don't think i'd buy it. thats prohibitive.. unless my insurance paid for it of course..

Iysha - posted on 07/27/2009

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Other people's breast milk is way expensive....$25 per ounce. So no, i wouldnt. I'd use formula.

Kylie - posted on 07/27/2009

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There is a breast milk bank in my city, if i couldn't produce milk i would definitely go the donated breast milk option for the first few months anyway. when my baby has weaned and if still have milk i would love to donate, I'd also happily breastfeed a hungry baby that wasn't mine if the situation arose and the mother wanted me to.

Natalie - posted on 07/26/2009

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This is a hard one aye.



On the one hand I would more than willingly-if I had the supply-give breastmilk for another woman to give her baby.I was born 10weeks prem and my mum has told me that the breastmilk the mums were able to get was fed to all the babies.So I benefited from that.Breastmilk is in my opinion one of the best things you can give your baby.



On the other hand I dont think I could breastfeed another womens baby.I could pump and give the milk to the mum in a bottle but I dont think I could actually breastfeed another child.



This is a really intersting topic

Cassie - posted on 07/26/2009

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For me, it would have to depend on how convienient it was to obtain the breastmilk. I believe my local hospital provides such services, but they're a good 30 minute drive away so I'd doubt I'd do it, but I'm sure I'd think on it long and hard.
My son breastfed for 11 months (until I got preggers, then he decided to stop). I was planning on going for at least a year, but I figured he'd gotten enough of the benifets by then so we started him on formula until he was a year (when we started him on whole milk).
To be completely honest, I don't look down on any woman that uses formula... espeically if it's impossible or very difficult for them to breastfeed (my sister being one of them). I've heard that if you give it a 3 month trial period, usually you've got the hardest part over with and if it doesn't work out, the baby has gotten quite a bit of the benifets from the breast milk anyways. But if I were to advise anyone on feeding their newborn/infant, I'd suggest breast milk (yours or otherwise) if it's available. I don't think there's anything wrong with a baby nursing from another woman, it's no different from the same woman nursing her own child, in my opinion.

Jennifer - posted on 07/26/2009

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I think that every body is different. Some women eat different types of foods and your baby could react harshly to that. The baby grew inside of you, so do what you can then go to formula. I might try it if I knew the person really well and see how a feeding or two goes...but I would be really hesitant.

Amie - posted on 07/26/2009

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I'm of 2 minds on this one having a baby born pre term the more breast milk he got the better and I know that the nurses said if i didn't have any could they use another mothers if she has a lot this i dont mind as my son isn't feeding from her directly but through a tub. i would let anyone else breast feed them as i feel that I'm not providing for my child and I will not be able to get that bonding time in I know that there is nothing wrong with formula as my second son had nothing but that due to the drama's of his birth i didn't get any milk for him and he's perfect in every way......

Zojoho - posted on 07/25/2009

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B/feeding didn't work out for Us and all 3 of my babies were formula fed within the first month and a half of being born. You only have to look at them to see that there is nothing wrong in giving formula when b/feeding is not an option.

Seriously, b/feeding is not the be-all and end-all..sheeshh. So in answer to your question, no I wouldn't use another woman's b/milk..

Diana - posted on 07/25/2009

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I would if I couldn't do it myself. I would also help breastfeed/offer my milk for a baby in need- no question.

Sara - posted on 07/25/2009

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The problem with that, as far as I can see, is availability and cost. Milk banks charge out the butt for breastmilk, and I don't think it's a realistic alternatives for a lot of moms. And on a personal note, I'd feel a little weird about feeding my baby someone else's breastmilk.

Minnie - posted on 07/25/2009

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Just a point to those who say "I wouldn't because I would want to know what my baby was getting": I'm assuming then in the rare case you couldn't nurse your baby you would use formula- why does that make you feel you know what is in that? Because it has a label on the back? You think that that label is 100% accurate? Formula is not sterile.

Samantha - posted on 07/24/2009

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I honestly don't think that I would let my child ingest someone else's milk. I am far to paranoid. I was told in the hospital that my daughter was a allergic to my breast milk so I had to stop giving it to her and she was given soy milk. I later found out months after she was born that she wasn't allergic to the milk and just threw up a lot. She is now on regular formula and she does just fine on it.

I was a formula fed baby and I grew up just fine. I think that yes breast if best but for me someone else's breast may not be best. I don't know what she might have eaten and it would worry me to much.

Lexi - posted on 07/24/2009

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i'm not able to breastfeed, and i've been feeding my son formula since he was born, and he's perfectly healthy. i do think breastfeeding is the best choice if you can, but i wouldn't let somebody else breastfeed MY son. i want that special bond of feeding my son myself, and secondly, i want to know exactly what is going in my son's little tummy. and honestly, even if i knew exactly what they had eaten, and i was still giving it to him myself, i think i'd feel weird giving to him knowing it came out of some other lady's boobs. haha. just my opinion. but seriousely, there's NOTHING wrong with formula.

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Yes I would, and I have. My son spent his first two weeks in teh NICU and the nurses were insistent that I wasn't producing enough (that's a whole 'nother story). So I put out a call to breastfeeding mommas in my community to get some of their pumped supply. And I would absolutely pump for another momma if she was in need.

User - posted on 07/24/2009

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absolutely, if I couldnt make milk for some reason, I'd do my best to track down some breastmilk before I would consider formula.

Toni - posted on 07/24/2009

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I meant if someone pumped milk for you.. or if you got milk from a milkbank.. I would prefer that way so you can still bond with baby. If they had to be on breast then I dont think I wuold mind.. thats what wet nurses were for before. I would donate my milk if i had a good supply.. but I dont and i take Meds.

Toni - posted on 07/24/2009

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Yes definatly. Its so beneficial to tthem. and you can still bond with your baby when your giving them the bottle of the breastmilk, holding them,having them close to you, talking and singing to them..all helps them begin to realise how much you love them :)

Sydni - posted on 07/24/2009

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I don't think that I could give my babies someone elses breast milk. I just don't think I could handel someone eles's breast milk feeding my babies. You might think that I'm being selfish but I want to know what I'm putting in there bodys.

Michelle - posted on 07/23/2009

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no way would i do that! iv fed my son formula as i didnt produce enough milk and i dont see a problem with that touch wood he has been really healthy not even had a cold my mum fed both me and my sister formula milk and we hardly ever get ill my sister fed both her kids formula and they never get ill either even when all the other children are passing around colds and stuff i have never known either of them to be ill!

Samantha - posted on 07/22/2009

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Yes I definitely would! I am actually giving my cousin breast milk for her son. I

Rochelle - posted on 07/22/2009

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I was wondering about this same topic, and why someone hasn't opened up a "breastmilk bank' for this purpose. This would greatly (especially) help premies or underweight children, who not only need to gain weight, but would also benefit from the added immune systme protection that the donor's milk would, and no formula could. I would probably put it on par with blood donation as far as health benefits and importance is comcerned. Babies whose moms cannot breastfeed for one reason or another should at least be given the choice and a fighting chance at better health.

Leah - posted on 07/22/2009

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Depends, you need to know if the person has any health problems, because some health problems can spread through the breastmilk. Also, need know what they are putting into their body like drugs and alcohol those can also pass through the breastmilk. Even though breast is best, sometimes it isnt from a nother mother! I suggest talking with you doctor first and making sure you know the facts about the other women!

Allison - posted on 07/22/2009

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i would say go for it, before there were bottles, people would share there breastmilk, as in breast and all. so why not. the only difference is that i would not do it if i had a choice, as in formula, but if i could not afford formula and had no breast milk of my own oh yes!

User - posted on 07/22/2009

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I don't think it could do it. I switched to formula when i started having problems BFing and it worked out fine. on the other hand tho, prior to my problems BFing i had an abundant supply and if i continued feeding i likely would have donated for the premie babies that need it. Maybe thats a double standard...



If my baby was a premie tho and needed ti in the hospital adn i couldn't giv eit to her then i think that would be a different story, bu ti hope io never find out.



fingers crossed that with baby #2 i can BF for longer!

Tessa - posted on 07/21/2009

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Of course I would. If i had more milk and knew of one Id give milk to a milk bank as well.

Jeannine - posted on 07/21/2009

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I don't have a problem with wet nursing at all and if I wasn't going to be able to nurse temporarily due to illness, medication etc. I would be interested in finding a wet nurse. I would aso be willing to help a friend in the same situation. However, if it were going to be long term, where I would never produce milk again I would go to formula.

Minnie - posted on 07/21/2009

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Absolutely. And I agree with Marabeth. I am totally for cross-nursing as long as the mother is healthy.

Helen Katrina - posted on 07/21/2009

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i wouldnt, even if its better for the child. id definately give them formula, it just sounds weird giving your child someones elses boob milk.

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Yes absoulty. I am lucky enough to have an abunant milk supply and am more than willing to 'donate' my excess milk. If the shoe was on the other foot I think I would accept the offer

Timbrel - posted on 07/19/2009

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i just dont know if i could let someone else feed my baby their breastmilk if i had to ( thank God i dont have to see) but if i couldnt i dnt think i culd let someone else...is that selfish? maybe i'd need to be in the situation to know. i just wanted opinions.

Marabeth - posted on 07/19/2009

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definitely. and vice versa. id breastfeed another infant if they needed it.

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