Family hates the names I choose

Stephanie - posted on 12/16/2009 ( 22 moms have responded )

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I am due Dec. 30th and am having a boy. I still have not decided what name to pick. It was going to be Riley for about 4 months but decided to change my mind. It is important for me that the father and I both agree on a name and it's not just all me. My family hated the name Riley, said it was a girly name. I decided to change it to different names maybe like Brady, or Cameron, but my family is into more traditional names like Christopher, Joshua, Andrew... etc.. which I like as well, but would not be happy with. They think if I choose a name that is a little different he will get made fun of... but they do not understand that in this generation having a different kind of a name is okay, and not out of the norm... people keep telling me to do what makes me happy but its a loose loose situation because if I pick a name that I like, my family will be annoyed and be on my case which will make me unhappy, or name my son a name that I do not feel good about, to make my family happy... so what to do?

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We didn't tell anyone our names for this very reason. I say pick a name you both love and think would suit your child and keep it secret! Once that baby is here in the world they will likely grow to love whatever the name is, simply because it's their grandchild. Our son is Finn Prentice and everyone was just ooing and ahhing over him so much they loved it. Name him Riley, I say!!

Christine - posted on 01/06/2010

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Pick a name u like and ur husband like not what everyone else likes I did not say on my daughters name doctor asked us and lol my daughters father said her name before I could even say anything I liked it so I did not say anything because I wanted a Cheyenne but when we told people in our families they all liked it because it was nice and I agree I love the name Cheyenne Marie it fits our life style and also fits her because she rides horses and she is also part indian when people ask me what to pick for names pick something that u both like and also pick a name that best fits the kid have a few names picked out and wait till u see the baby first before u decide thats what my mom did with my brothers who r twins.

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Kyle - posted on 12/25/2010

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Just dont' tell them! Do not tell them the name you pick until it's on the birth certificate. They'll get used to it and will realize later that it doesn't affect their love for your soon to be son! Good luck!

MollyHolmes-Burgess - posted on 12/22/2010

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You have to do what you and your husband want to do. My friend has a son Cameron, he's almost 10 and no one has made fun of his name.

Wendy - posted on 12/22/2010

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my family also did not approve my name choices! i also felt that the times are changing and wanted unusual names! my eldest child 16 yrs old is storm my youngest in now 2 we named him slade! storm was never teased(i was also scared of that) being married to afrikaans guy didnt help!!! but you go with what you feel! when that little bundle arrives they won't worry about his name! i have first hand experience of that!

Kimberly - posted on 12/21/2010

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This is your baby, not your parents, sisters, or brothers. The name is up to you. As for Riley, it is a boy's name. I was going to name my last child (if she would had been a boy) Justice Riley or Justin Resee. Tell you family to shut up about it. It doesn't matter if they are happy about it or not. You and your husband should be happy about it. They are taking what should be a very happy time for you and making it a problem. Tell them it they are not happy about your chose then they don't have to see the baby. Girl, you and your husband needs to put your foot down and tell them how you feel about the whole thing. Good luck.

Denise - posted on 12/21/2010

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Brady and Cameron are still fairly traditional-ish. Worry less about your family and more about giving your son a name that will grow with him and won't be something he'd be embarrassed about as an adult. I respectfully disagree with people who say that you should only care about what YOU want - because you aren't the one who has to live with that name. You might like Serendipity Pious Hargleblargle Bleep, but you aren't the one who has to go through life with it.

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OMG! Are some of you ladies serious? I'm sorry but I would not want to go through life with some of the names you have chosen for your children....what's "cute" now is not going to be cute when they are adults

Cathryn - posted on 12/18/2010

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Everyone thought I was crazy, friends and family alike, when I said I was going to name my son "Benton Grover". Did I care? No. My husband and I said we were going to name our first son that before we even got married or were expecting a child. We both loved the name and still do. No one's opinion can change that. Now that Benton Grover is here and almost a year old everyone on both sides of our family calls him by both of his names when most had said they were just going to call him "Ben". He is our Benton Grover and we would not have it any other way. If you really want to try and please everyone, use one of the names you really love as the first name and a more traditional name as the middle.

Jennifer - posted on 12/12/2010

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Why not combine your's & your family's choices. Like Andrew Brady and have him go by Brady. My oldest is Hannah Jewels and she goes by Jewels. The reason I like this combo is so she can have a unique name but also a more professional one if she chooses to use it later in life. Good luck

Ashley - posted on 12/09/2010

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Here is my take: My oldest child is in school and her name is Katie, but spelled with a C. There are so many other students in her classes with the same name! I think it's a good idea to veer away from traditional and go with something unique. As far as your family not liking the name goes, I understand. When we were trying to name our children, my in-laws always had suggestions on the names, that I absolutely hated. We named our first child after a family member on my side of the family, and I have to say it was a mistake. Because, my in-laws expected me to name baby #2 after their side of the family. It's your child and you need to pick a name that YOU love. You won't be able to please everyone. I say go with a name you like & don't worry about the opinions of family.

Nichole - posted on 11/06/2010

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My family didn't like the name I picked for my son either. But me and my husband weren't going to change it just cuz they didn't like it. He's our baby we get to name him what we want. My son is Lacota Ryan. My step mom HATED the name and insisted she was going to call him Cody (I hate that nickname), and we told her she'd respect our name and not call him Cody. Well she did, and now she's in love with him & his name. My mom just didn't like are choice to spell it different...it's suppose to be Lakota, but we didn't like the k, we made it a c. She said that made it girly, we told her that her choice to spell Nichole (my name) with a h made it boyish....she said fair enough. And never complained again. :) The baby is yours, you get to name him. Doesn't matter what others think.

Krissy - posted on 09/12/2010

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you know what i would do ? not tell them........honestly it is yours and your husbands decision. if you both like riley call him that. i know its hard to do as family is important but i guarantee you they probably never cared what their mother or aunty or who ever it was called you . my daughter i named Temperance grace now i wish i never called her her middle name. my mother and aunt dont like temperance as i caller tempe and apparently 30 yrs ago ther was a tip called tempe tip- they said what happens if kids know about it - i mean comeon kids just dont care about something 30 yrs ago and most ppl have forgotten about if they knew it excisted. see there are ppl who obviously dont have respect when it comes to their own kids naming thier own kids as-ie my aunt and mother call her gracie. i have told them numerous times but they wont listen to me. and on the final note how about you call him riley christopher or something like that? mb then theyd be off your back.........

Alyssa - posted on 08/14/2010

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I agree with everyone else! Also, I love the names Riley and Cameron, and I plan on naming my first son Riley. Also, what did you end up naming him?

Jamie - posted on 04/04/2010

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I love Riley and think it can be used for either. I like Brady but not Cameron and I definitely think you should go with a name that is a little less common. All in all, it's up to you. They all had their fun naming their own children, it's your turn. As long as you and your husband agree, I say go for it!

Emily - posted on 03/25/2010

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I agree with everyone here, pick names you and your partner want! I remember getting so much slack for the names we chose, but after the baby's here, and that's the name, everyone loves it.

Jessica - posted on 03/23/2010

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Honestly don't worry about what you're family likes ... It is your child and it is your choice. I love the name Riley for a boy! Cameron is good too!

Ashley - posted on 02/24/2010

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The names you picked are super cute and it's not really what your family thinks (no offense) it's what you like and what you think would fit. :) It's your time to be creative and make your own decisions.

Amanda - posted on 02/17/2010

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my family hated the name i chose too (tristan). they said it is a girl name, but forget them.

Kailey - posted on 02/09/2010

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I was in the same boat as you, my family is pretty conservative and hated the idea of my baby having a different name. However I had my heart set on Fury Opal Dawn (strange and different yes I know). My family was pretty annoyed in the beginning but the name eventually grew on them, and now they love it. So I think you should go with whatever name your heart is set on, and I'm sure they'll get over it eventually. =D

Victoria - posted on 12/19/2009

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pick a name that makes you happy.. dont just pick a name to make your family happy.. they will get over the issue after the baby is born. my babys name is Konnor spelled with a K instead of a C and my family wasnt happy about it because it was different but they are fine with it now. so pick the name you like!! =]

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