Should I rename my son?

Shannah - posted on 01/30/2011 ( 12 moms have responded )

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I will try to keep this short.

So, my husband and I wanted to name our son something original, but nothing off the wall. Basically, something you've heard before, but don't hear a lot of. I am a teacher, so I've heard A LOT of names... it was a difficult task.

Our list was:
Aacen (pronounced Ay-sin)
Levi
Liam
Jace
Vaughn

We decided to take the list to the hospital w/ us and name him upon meeting him. BAD IDEA! With all the pregnancy hormones and exhaustion, I could NOT decide in the hospital and we ended up going home w/ a nameless baby who we called every name in the book for a week straight. I was so emotional that NOTHING was pleasing to me.

My husband continued telling me he looked like a Liam and my father's name is William, so I basically caved. I did NOT think it would get so popular. Now, it is predicted to be in the TOP 10 in the U.S. this year.

I confessed to my husband a few weeks later that I wanted to change it. He thought I was NUTS and explained that he felt it was almost like taking our son's identity from him (esp. since he'll always have 2 social security cards, etc.). He really felt Liam "fit" him, but told me I could do it if I wanted.

After discussing w/ my husband and family I felt guilty changing the name, so I didn't. Fast forward 7.5 months later and I am still sick over it (but mention it to no one!). I really just don't like the name as much (not sure if it's the popularity of it or what?!). Everyone says his name suits him, but I sort of wish we had gone w/ Aacen, Levi or Vaughn.

I am not getting over this as I had expected... so what do I do now?!

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Delandra - posted on 03/18/2011

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I understand your pain, Shannah. I swore I would never name a male-child after his father - that all my children would have their own name, but I had a very frantic birth which led me to name my son after his father. (Very fast labor and hubby ended up catching the baby) I've always called him a nickname as a way of avoiding the true name. Well, now my son is almost 2, and now that he's in daycare, teachers call him by his proper name. I am growing to loathe that name for my baby - I was not a fan of the name in the first place - now people keep calling him that. I was clearly hormonal when I agreed to that name! His father and I go back and forth all the time now becuase I want his name changed, and I have no intention of stopping until he caves. Of course he loves having a son named after him, but he knew I was always adamantly against the idea. Surely he does not want me to grow to hate the sound of the name on him too ;-)

I say go for it! He is your child and you have the right to name him something you love, regardless of what others think of your decision. Let them decide their kid's names and you decide yours. It's easy enough for you to change your son's name, anyway. Plus, he's so young it's not like he'll feel identity-deprived. More children are not promised, so do what you want with the ones you've got!

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Lesley - posted on 01/23/2013

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I agree with everyone, don't change his name its too late. If your husband loves the name, you are sightings his judgements to get to change it. if the child grows to hate it he can use his middle name. (ex. L Jacob Forgues) another way around during it is to give the baby a nickname that pleases you. Example, we have friends that son is named after the father, and there are three others in his daycare with same name.The father nicknamed him Red because of his shocking red hair. If you can get enough people on board with the nickname, or reiterate it when you introducing, it may catch on.

Casey - posted on 11/12/2012

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I have a boy that is a little over a year old named Liam also. I also hate the name. I told my husband while I was pregnant I did not want to use that name. I told him again in the hospital. We ended up using it any way. I asked him if we could change the name not even a week after we were out of the hospital, and have fought nearly to the point of divorce for over a year. He now says I should just change it...but now I feel like it's too late. I really can't stand the name. I think I have only said his name while in a medical situation. I only refer to him as baby. We tried his middle name but I don't care for it either, and nobody would call him by his middle name Connor. I am just sick to death with it. You are not alone. Too bad it doesn't make our situation less horrible. I hate the fact that I hate my son's name. It makes me feel bad, and I am sure he is going to grow up with some sort of complex no matter how this plays out. Mommy cringes when she says my name. Or my mom hated my name and me so badly that she had to change me.



Totally screwed.

Becky - posted on 06/13/2012

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I like Liam best out of all your names & at this age he will definitely know his own name.
If you want to change it I would leave Liam as his first name & put Acen or Vaughn as his middle name - you could call him by his middle name, like a nickname, if you want. Liam Vaughn or Liam Acen.

Stephanie - posted on 05/08/2012

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I personally think that Liam is the best of all the names on your list. I think you should stick with it. You may just be having 2nd thoughts because you don't feel like YOU chose it. I think the name is lovely and I bet that he will too.

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umm...well, if you decide to change it I like the name Levi xD



but let's see...the best thing to do would be to try to warm up to the name, or to use his middle name if he has one, or come up with a nickname.



Liam is the Irish short form of William or German "Willahelm", which means "will or desire" and "protection" if that helps at all. so at least it has a good definition :)



as for the popularity of the name, ignore it. just because it might be in the top ten doesn't mean every mother and her brother is going to name their son Liam, so don't worry about it.

Rachel - posted on 01/19/2012

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Tell me about it. My daughter is almost six years old and I'm still not over the name my husband managed to convince me to name her.

Victoria - posted on 03/26/2011

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I am going to say no. Don't rename him. I knew a girl who's parents renamed her more than once in her first couple of years, and she was weird. Also, not that this should matter, but I am not fond of any of the other three names. Levi is Matthew McConnahey's (or however you slepp it) kid's name. Aacen I have no idea how to pronounce by looking at it. And I am also from Toronto, so Vaughn is out.

Delandra - posted on 03/18/2011

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I understand your pain, Shannah. I swore I would never name a male-child after his father - that all my children would have their own name, but I had a very frantic birth which led me to name my son after his father. (Very fast labor and hubby ended up catching the baby) I've always called him a nickname as a way of avoiding the true name. Well, now my son is almost 2, and now that he's in daycare, teachers call him by his proper name. I am growing to loathe that name for my baby - I was not a fan of the name in the first place - now people keep calling him that. I was clearly hormonal when I agreed to that name! His father and I go back and forth all the time now becuase I want his name changed, and I have no intention of stopping until he caves. Of course he loves having a son named after him, but he knew I was always adamantly against the idea. Surely he does not want me to grow to hate the sound of the name on him too ;-)

I say go for it! He is your child and you have the right to name him something you love, regardless of what others think of your decision. Let them decide their kid's names and you decide yours. It's easy enough for you to change your son's name, anyway. Plus, he's so young it's not like he'll feel identity-deprived. More children are not promised, so do what you want with the ones you've got!

Melinda - posted on 02/05/2011

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you cant always trust statistics and it seems like your stressing that it may be too popular but i dont think it will
its a very nice name, i dont like popular names either
but to tell you the truth i know a lot of Levi babies.
your son knows his name as Liam now, perhaps if you have more children you can put your foot down with what name youd like to choose, good luck!

Robyn - posted on 02/02/2011

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I love the name Liam. I think its a very strong name but sweet, and I think when he grows up it will suit him as a well respected teenager, adult, and elderly man... and if it makes you feel any better its not THAT popular here in Canada. Truthfully I have never heard the name Aacen before, and it seems a bit too *out there* As for Vaughn its a nice lastname and also the name of a city here near Toronto. Don't worry. Be happy! :)

Kathy - posted on 02/01/2011

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This is not something you need to be so concerned about. Enjoy you beautiful son and respect the name he has been blessed with. It is a beautiful name and will serve him well. JMO but I like is way better than your other choices (especially don't like Aacen - he would always have to spell it and correct pronounciation)

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