Birds & Bees!

Dana - posted on 08/23/2010 ( 7 moms have responded )

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My 8 year old is very wise and mature...she's been asking leading questions about how babies get in your belly and why her old dance teacher has a baby and is not married...how do I have the sex talk with an 8 year old? I'd rather she hear it from me than an older kid on the bus...plus think it's important she understands what appropriate touching is vs. in appropriate since she is in a schoool with older kids and has sleep overs with girls that have older brothers...I don't ever want her to be naive. Help??

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Jennifer - posted on 09/25/2010

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i started to tell my eight year old daughter about the birds and the bees by telling her about the cycle that us females go though ever month and that she will be having on soon and i also showed her a pic of our overies and that her eggs come from her overies and that is how far i have got so far i did not go in to detail about how she needs a man in order to have a baby yet i think she is to young for that still

Megan - posted on 09/18/2010

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If she's old enough to ask, she's probably old enough to know, and, you're right, if you don't tell her, she'll find out from someone else whose information might not be accurate, or she might find out more than she needs to know right now. I'd keep it simple and answer her questions as forthrightly and honestly as possible without going into too many details. So, you might say, "Miss Jane has a baby, but not every mommy and daddy choose to get married." Girls these days are starting to hit puberty earlier and earlier--I think the average is getting close to 8. Probably the sooner you have this talk, the better.

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Lisa - posted on 10/01/2010

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If she is already wise about it there is no sense in hiding it. I have always been upfront with my children and as they learn things naturally I just guide them to what I want them to hear.

As long as I can remember my kids, even my 9 year old boy, knows about girl time. They know that during girl time mommies body is cleaning out and getting ready to have a baby. They know that you don’t always have a baby but that your body is always ready.

They know that kissing can lead to having a baby. We also had a book "where do babies come from". In that book it talks about all kinds of babies who start off as an egg in the mom and the dad carries the sperm and when the sperm and the egg meet you can get a baby.

Now, they do not necessarily know about intercourse but they do know about sex. Sex is kissing like in the movies and when you do that you can have a baby. Sex is meant for husbands and wives but there are many people that have sex that are not married. We talk about our families moral views about having sex (kissing).

Anyways, the sex talk has always been there in our house. When Beth gets her period she will not be surprised. Once she does we will discuss more about her period and as needed we will discuss how the egg is fertilized. All this can be done without ever really mentioning the intercourse part.

I hope that helped.

MARTA - posted on 09/29/2010

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my mom talked to me not to worry about that she told me that school comes first. i have a daughter who is almost 10 years old and she wants to know too but i tell her that when the time comes that she will learn that in school so she never asked me again

Crystal - posted on 09/14/2010

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My 8 yr old girl had a "good touch, bad touch" session in school for 1st grade. Which did good for her since you have to tell her things 10 times for her to remember, she's just hardheaded. But we had talks before about nobody can see her naked or touch her privates, but me and that is to help wash or to mend the "ouch when I wipe" for when she isn't wiping well. I am still waiting on her to ask what sex is when she here's the word on tv. But she know that everyone in a while mommy bleeds and I've told her that all girls do when they get older and that we would talk about it more when she was there herself. As for the rest of the talks, I want to come to me and talk. I have taught her enough that she knows that girls and boys are very different( she has a younger brother.7 yrs between them.) We know that privates are for potting and we don't touch/play with each others. And that only Married mommies and daddies can see each other naked, that that;s the only time she can be naked in front of a boy is when she marry's him. That pretty much took care of most of it for us right now. cause boys are gross to her still. but I know it' s not long befor that changes.

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We told them this summer (kids 8 and 6 - girls) that boys are like the bees and have something that "pollenates" in a woman that grows a baby. That seemed good enough for them (now). I feel better having opened the topic than fearing it coming up what I'm "not prepared". We just brought it up on a drive one day. Helped that we were all looking at the road, I think!

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My mom started with the period talk. She spoke of her experiences with puberty... as well as her mistakes (she got pregnant at 18). I am a very mechanical thinker so she actually took out diagrams and showed me how the reproductive systems worked. Soon after they covered a lot in school. It wasn't so much a man and woman talk as a this is what happens when a sperm and an egg meet.

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