Kristy - posted on 05/20/2010 ( 50 moms have responded )
Okay, there are two little girls that live on my street, both little girls are four, and they are allowed to play outside --in front of their house -- unsupervised. On top of that there is another little girl down the street who comes over - unsupervised -- and plays with them; she is about five. These girls are allowed to play until dark and beyond sometimes -- did I mention unsupervised. When I say unsupervised I mean that their moms don't even come out to check on them. These girls could get kidnapped and no one would know for hours. They are always knocking on my door to get my little girl to come out and play -- which is fine -- but I don't let my daughter go outside in front of my house and play unsupervised. During the week we are busy as a family. My kids have activities, homework, bedtimes etc., so most of the time the answer is "No sorry girls not today." It has become a nuisance. I mean I don't want to be a mean mom, but these girls have really become a nuisance on me. They knock on my door all day after constantly being told, "No, not today girls." They get into my flower beds, neighbors rock garden and so forth. We had dirt out front of our house to move to the backyard; we left the dirt "unsupervised" and they thought it was their own personal sand box -- dirt everywhere when we got home, oh and with our neighbors rocks in it. Today they came running when they saw me pull up to the house, and my daughter played with them for a second and then it was time to go inside. The girls tried to force themselves in my house and when I said no they acted like they couldn't hear me, so I said no a little sterner and they left. Upon closing my door though I hear, "YOU ARE MEAN!" Really, and I hate to admit this but it kind of hurt my feelings.
Back to my original question of this post. Do you think it is okay to let kids play outside unsupervised, and if so at what age? I think four is too young personally. I mean you can't leave you kids at home alone because that would be considered neglect; however, you can let them play outside unsupervised for hours at a time...please someone tell me how the even remotely makes sense? Looking for feedback. What do you think? What would you do?