going back to school after baby is born

Megan - posted on 07/23/2010 ( 16 moms have responded )

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hello im 16 and im having my baby in 2 and abit weeks. after he is born i really want to go back to school as i still want to get a good educationa nd prve to everyone that not every teen that gets pregnant lives of benfits because they didnt do the rest of there education. but im scared as i dont want to leave my baby :( what do you think is best ? xx

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Vivian - posted on 01/28/2013

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i want to go back to school ,but i have know one to help me look after my baby he is 9m ,i think of but him in daycare but have know money to do it .

Tara - posted on 09/05/2010

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Good on you sweetheart. You should be an example to so many others. There is alot of help out there for you. Speak to your midwife/health visitor or GP. They can point in towards organisations that offer support. I know of sure start and flying start in the uk. Leaving your baby wont be for ever and you will not only working towards a better future for you and your child but also teaching your child wonderful values. He/She will be so proud of their mummy and you too should be proud of yourself. Do you have a supportive family to lighten your load? If not please dont worry there is help out there. You really are an inspiration, and it is so refreshing to hear a 16 year old mum to be acting and being so responsible. I am sure whatever you decide to do, you will be a fantastic mum and a success. Good luck with everything and most important enjoy your baby it truly is such an amazing thing to be a mum. Take care of yourself xxxxx

Mindy - posted on 07/23/2010

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Good for you! You have made a very wise decision.You will be a roll model for alot of girls. Find a close family member and see if they will help you. If possible talkto the school councelor and see if ur city has a school day care or a school that u can take ur baby with u.Good luck :D

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Lauren - posted on 01/22/2014

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Gio to a community college and ask your mom. I had my first child when I was 18 and my mom was like my best friend. If your mom can't then hire a nanny. Make sure your hours aren't to funky for you and your family though.

Karissa - posted on 11/05/2013

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thats amazing (: my bestfriend just had a baby at 15 and she found it very hard to go back to school but after awhile you get use to it! it doesnt make you a bad mom just because you go to school ! Great Job hun

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Megan,

You have made a great decision to go back to school, however I agree that you can wait until your baby is at least a year old. There is no rule that says that you have to go back to school immediately as long as you go. Enjoy your precious little one's first year of life!!! Good luck in whatever you decide to do.

Pam - posted on 08/28/2010

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You can do it. I wasn't in high school but I was in college when I got pregnant with my son and then 2 years later with my daughter. Both times everyone told me I wouldn't be able to finish. I did finish and now I am working my my Master's degree. It is possible and honestly babies need their mommy but for you to be the best mommy you can you need an education. Don't worry find a nice daycare or someone you really trust to watch your child and finish high school. Then if you want go on to college. Don't let ANYONE tell you that you will not be able to finish. It is hard but my kids are 4 and 6 now and they both know that school is important. You will not only feel better about yourself but you will be a great example for your child and other teen moms. Good luck, you can do it!

Trisha - posted on 08/20/2010

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I was you...My daughter was born a month after my 16th birthday. Like you I wanted to prove that I could still graduate and raise her. DO NOT let them get you down. It is hard I will not lie to you. I had to give up all the extra activities and extra classes that were not needed. I worked full time to pay rent, babysitting, and other bills. Main advise is get help ask family to help with babysitting if you work also. Things will not be easy but you can do it. Hey it will be worth it. Leaving your baby is hard but if you know that the person watching your child is trustworthy and realiable it makes your time away easier. Some days you will have to put yourself first because if you don't you'll burn yourself out and give up. There will be long days and longer nights. Don't be scared to ask for help you will need it. Let me know how it all goes. You can do it.

Dawn - posted on 08/17/2010

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Going back to school is very smart it sets a great example for your child so you are doing the right thing there and as far as day cares goes or someone watching your baby investigate very well and you will know what is best for you and your child it will be hard to leave your baby while you are at school but remember you are doing this to better yourself which in the long run betters the both of you. Education is very important. Good Luck!!!! Wish there were more teens that get pregnant think like you.

Fabiola - posted on 08/17/2010

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good for you. its not easy. ive had friends who never went back but if you have the opportunity do it. i got pregnant the end of my senior year and i had plans to go to college for nursing and just because i had a baby that hasnt stopped me. i still am going to school part time only but what counts is im going and im gonna finish even if it takes me longer than i had planned to finish. so when you graduate dont think you cant continue on to college and get a good career. i know plenty of other girls in the same spot as me. you can do anything if you really want to

LaToya - posted on 08/09/2010

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That's great that you want to continue going back to school Megan, I am pregnant with my fourth child and I am attending college. I agree that it will be hard at first to leave your baby boy, but just know that your are continuing on so that both of you can benefit in the future. One idea could be if your high school has night school, you can stay home with your baby in the day time when it's his most active and attend school at night if you have someone who could watch him while your at school.
Another way to save money is look into daycares at churches, they charge a lot less than regular daycares. My two year old is going part-time three days a week for 250 a month.
Sorry so long winded but I wish you luck and don't be afraid to ask for help.

Olga - posted on 08/09/2010

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I know how you feel about going back to school and I felt really crappy about not going but not half as crappy as I would`ve felt if I had gone and left my daughter. Your high school education is remarkably important but so is being a mom! Make this decision after your baby is born and see how you feel. If you put off school for a year or even 6 months to be home and raise your baby it will be a million times more rewarding for you then getting that report card. School is something you can always go back to, a baby isn`t and those first few months of life are so precious!! Babies are worth sacrifices. My advice to you is have your baby and stay home until he`s a little older to start school. This way when you look back you will never feel that you`ve missed out on a crucial and amazing time in your child`s early life.

Kenda - posted on 08/07/2010

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am doing the same thing.with luck though mine is four months when i start. that and you should be ok over 50% of classes can be either online or in the class room. i have choosen online classes so i dont leave mine at such a young age. i dont like day care for babies cause they can not tell you what is happening.but your school may have childcare on site so in between classes you can be there for it. good luck

Victoria - posted on 08/04/2010

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im 15 and i am going back to school. i was scared wat to think. but my mom helped me get her in to a grate day care. i think she does grate in there she learns alot to

Sarah - posted on 07/27/2010

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I would check out a lot of daycares. The one that makes you feel safe and comfortable will be the best one for your kids. When my kids were in daycare I straight out said no to a few centres. There are things that I believe my kids have the right to, grass to play on, etc. So don't just pick one by the name and go with that, check out a lot of them. You and your baby will be better for you finishing school! Good luck and you deserve a back on the back for all you are doing!

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