How do I get my kindergardener to like school? He cries everyday! HELP!

Selina - posted on 09/12/2009 ( 13 moms have responded )

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My 5 year old does not like to go to school! The teacher calls me and emails me everyday ten min after I leave and tell me he is fine and playing! I have bribed him with everything and can not get him to understand he has to go wether he is crying or not!! Any ideas?

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Sherry - posted on 09/03/2012

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Help....my five yr old daughter cries about going to kindergarten. She has the nicest teacher. She cries to the point of making herself throw up because she knows she will get to come home. I have told her I am sending clean clothes and that she will stay at school. She is out today for Labor Day and has been crying all day about going to school tomorrow. I am a stay at home mom. She went to Pre K last year (had the same problems then) but she has never had to stay away from home for an extended amount of time. If I had known it was going to be this way she would have been in daycare at a young age. I cherished being able to stay home with her all those years BUT what a huge mistake.

Nelly - posted on 09/15/2013

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Hi. my daughter is only 3. she just started kindergarten this september. at first she was very excited but no anymore.. she cries right from bed to school , am very worried as i cant figure out how to help her. pliz help me how to make her like going to kindergarten.

Tanya - posted on 09/13/2009

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I'm sorry to hear that, with my baby girl i had no problems, i guess all i done with her was built it up for her, talked to her about the fun things, and the not so fun things, the biggest thing for my daughter, is she loves people, she has been with me for 5 yrs day in and day out, which i know must have been tough on her, as she is a social person..lol..so when we started talking about school and telling her that soon she will have her friends to play with, well she does now..lol..but anyway she became really excited about it, but we also make her see the tough sides as well, she knows the pros and cons of school, she knows she can have fun, but she is also there to learn..i'm sorry not so sure this helped you much, but i just praised school a lot, and built it up for her to where when she got on the bus the first day she never even looked back..lol



good luck to you, i hope things get better for you both!

Midge - posted on 05/29/2013

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Alissar - posted on 09/21/2009

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In time he will get used to school. since his teacher is informing you that he`s fine after leaving him .Dont worry .It will take a week and get used to it

Alissar - posted on 09/21/2009

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I have a tip for you to do since Im a teacher. Try and bye a present that she likes . Give it to her teacher.In order for her teacher to give her the present.Praising her showing your daughter that school loves her .

Pamela - posted on 09/21/2009

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With my daughter, i prepared her for school a few months before school starts by showing her the school, telling her what she will be doing, friends she will make and read to her story books on going to school, even watch programs that shows her pre K school and what the kids do there etc. I also prepared her on what to expect like she will be eating in the canteen with other kids, taking her naps in school with her friends and then learn or draw in class before school is over and I'll be there at what time to pick her up in school.

I find that it helps her to adjust to school. Before pre school, she never spent a whole day away from home - I only put her at the day care center for 4 hrs each 3x a week for her to play with other children. Then again, my daughter is extrovert so perhaps it helps a lot.

I think it is best to reassure your child that u will be there, and that they will spend special time with their teacher and friends in school to learn, to grow while mommy goes to work or do stuff at home. And the end of school, u'll there to pick him up to go home and spend special time together.

If perhaps he is crying because of other reasons, ask him why he don't like it there - is there a reason etc.

Pamela - posted on 09/19/2009

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That is hard my daughter started school at three and I had know problems. The only time she is crying is to go back to school. She really loves it the only problem I had was when my 10 year old start school. It was hard we just had to leave and let the teacher take over she calm down after a while.

Marlyn - posted on 09/17/2009

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wish, i could give u the best advise, but unfortunenately, there couldn't be none, better than what all the other moms has suggested. Your child i guess for some reason doesn't like school, it could be he is being left alone for the first time, or either he wants you to stay close to him always. My heart goes out to you and your child, i was in your situation about a month now, my son is only three yrs, he started early stimulation, he cries almost everyday since , but only when his fathers takes him. Your son will adjust once he starts to make friendship with other kids. Not to worry be strong its a gift we have to pass on that we are stong, even though inside we are tearing apart.

Amanda - posted on 09/15/2009

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She is getting better, and long as brother can walk her to the cafeteria. But i guess it just takes some adjusting to. My son doesn't care this year either. Last year he cried for about a week and then he was ok. But this year he didnt cry.

Nicky - posted on 09/15/2009

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My little lad is exactly the same! He is child number 2, the first a girl couldn't give two hoots about it infact didnt want me to come in to preschool just wanted to go and have fun. It is nothing that you are doing wrong and there is certainly nothing wrong with him. After I have left him he is absolutely fine and happy, talks to the teachers and the other kids. It is just the way he is and as he matures I am sure things will change (perhaps?) But for the time being I think you just have to weather the storm.

Sally - posted on 09/14/2009

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I really feel for you! I have been through this with my son. Pre K 3 he was fine, no problem. Pre K 4, he started the crying in the middle of the year. Kindergarten, he cried for a few weeks, maybe a month. He would tell his teacher he missed me. I am a stay at home mom. He would cry on and off during the day. After a while the teacher kinda gave him "tough love", and it worked! After he adjusted to his new school, he was fine. He just started 1 st grade a few weeks ago. There were tears for about a week and a half. He said he "needed to get used to his new teacher, and missed his K teacher." Now no problem.

Since your son is fine after you leave, he could be just putting on a show for you. That is good though that he plays and isn't miserable the whole day. Just get through the morning drop off as postive as you can be. Give him big smiles and tell him he is going to have a great day and you will see him in a little while.

Good luck :)

Amanda - posted on 09/14/2009

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My daughter has had that trouble this year. She went to pre-k last year and didn't cry once. But this year on the first day of school she started to cry and has cried every day since then. I don't know what to do either.

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