My 7 year old son has trouble reading, and does not want to learn?

Kara - posted on 01/06/2010 ( 34 moms have responded )

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My 7 year old has trouble reading and does not like to work on it. He gets very upset when I make him read. Any suggestions on what might help him, or what worked for your child.

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Priscilla - posted on 11/26/2011

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Kara, your son may not want to work on reading because he knows he is having trouble with it. A lot of parents, and sometimes teachers, do not realized that children get embarrassed just as adults do. He may have tried really hard at reading, and HE felt there was not progress being made. So, now he is thinking why should he continue. I have seen this a lot with the special needs students I used to work with. I currently teach adult literacy, and I can tell you the feelings do not go away. My advice if to get involved in how he is being taught at school, communicate with his teacher to find out what methods she/he is using in the classroom to encourage reading, and find FUN programs he can use to teach him reading without him knowing it is teaching him reading. Hope this helps.

SHAMAL MAHESH - posted on 03/06/2013

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My 7 year old has trouble reading and does not like to work on it. He gets very upset when I make him read. Any suggestions on what might help him, or what worked for your child.

Iara - posted on 08/08/2012

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I am also having problems with my 6 1/2 year old daughter with reading and writing... she started pretty well in K and all the sudden she cries her eyes out saying she knows how but she doesn't want to read.

She rather scrabble word on a paper saying she have her only language instead of writing something understandable...

Help, please!!

Helen - posted on 08/20/2012

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FROM COMICS TO PHD

When my son was in grade 5, he was tested and assessed to be at a grade 3 reading level. He was placed into the school's Core Resources Department to help improve his reading skills. The Core Resources teacher suggested that we buy my son comic books featuring some of the super heroes (e.g. Spiderman, etc.) as boys tend to favour and relate to this type of reading. Every week we would buy four or more Marvel comic books and he became very interested in reading the continuing stories week-after-week and month-after-month. One year later he was tested again and he was reading at his grade level. We continued to buy the same Marvel comic editions until he was in high school.

My son completed high school and went on to university and completed a Bachelor of Commerce degree in Economics. He then continued and completed two Masters degrees in Economics simultaneously with his thesis being accepted into a Cambridge UK publication. He graduated from his two Masters degrees with a 90% average and was accepted by five universities for his PhD. He accepted admission into one of the top universities in Canada and in the first year of the PhD program, which was mainly academic studies, he achieved a 92% grade average - the highest grade average of all first-year PhD students at the university in all faculties of study. He now has one year to go to the completion of his PhD and we intend to invite his Elementary School Core Resources teacher to his graduation ceremony.

I'm sure you can appreciate the volume and the degree of material he is now reading in addition to the proficiency in his writing skills.

So, perhaps his academic success can be contributed to Marvel comic books.

Mel - posted on 08/10/2012

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Try some websites, such as Starfall and BBC bitesize or progressive phonics that offer free programs and games that can be more fun than just reading alone. My daughter is same way and hates to read. We just found out she needs reading glasses. Don't push too hard and take your son to library so he can choose his own books. Ive heard people swear by Kumon. Also all tutors are not equal - there are terrible ones out there, so if you try one and do not quickly see improvement dont be hesitant to look for someone different.

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Amanda - posted on 06/15/2014

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Try using an app! I use Best Kids Songs and Stories and I love it. My daughter is 5 and she seems to like it as well, it's really helped her enjoy reading, and it keeps her busy while I'm cooking dinner or busy on the phone!

Alyssa - posted on 06/09/2014

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I get my kids to read by giving them visual (animated) stories that have follow along words at the bottom, it helps them bring their stories to life! I do it through an application called "Best Kids Songs-Stories"
My kids were reading really early because they had so much fun with these, it is also a good thing to keep them busy while I do stuff for mommy!

Eden - posted on 06/02/2014

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What a common problem, as the other comments attest to. I have a blog with a step-by-step approach to teaching reading, that might have some helpful ideas for you. www.howitaughtmykidstoread.wordpress.com I break the process down into the steps I used with my kids, ideas for what might work in different situations, games, keeping attention, etc. I wonder if you started with Scrabble or Boggle or some other letter game, and modified it to be about letter sounds instead of spelling words, if that would come at the topic from another direction? What does he like and are there ways you could incorporate reading into that activity (very gently at first so he doesn't put up walls)? If you or others with this issue share where their kids are (do they know the sounds of the letters? reading chapter books but just refuse to do it?), we might be able to give more specific advice. Happy reading!

Amy - posted on 05/07/2014

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Hi Kara,
My 7yr old is also a struggling reader. He reads soooo slow, and makes so many mistakes that when he gets to the end of the story, he can't even tell the teacher what the story was about!
He's in First Grade and they want me to hold him back next school year and make him repeat it. I am so torn as to what to do! He is going to a tutor twice a week now, but has only been doing that about 5 weeks. Is it too soon to see improvement? We try to work with him at home but he fights and hates doing homework! I just don't know what to do!!

Amy

User - posted on 03/06/2013

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SHAMAL MAHESH YASHWANTE
This was the case with our 6 & 8 yr old children. Our daughter would cry in frustration.
We found program that has helped. It is called Easyread by Oxford Learning Systems.
It is an online program that takes only 15 minutes per day. And the lessons are fun for our chiildren. There is a good explanation of what may be the causes of reading difficulites:
http://www.easyreadsystem.com/info/dysle...

Easyread helps address the causes of reading difficulties. Try a fee lesson. Also, read their guarantee . . . after reading that I thought, "Wow!" THAT is confidence that your program works!" http://www.easyreadsystem.com/index/guar...

Our children now read much better than they use to. In fact, the other day they were taking turns reading the speach bubbles in a book! We are so happy to have found a program that helps chlildren to read.

Hope this helps!

Paulette - posted on 08/29/2012

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Dr Seuss!! I think they are excellent also Froggy Books they help with sequences and order patterns he has working memory issues and forgets easily the letters so every morning his daddy shows him the sight words ans he does very well. However I see and attitude problem and its getting in my nerves thanks

Juanita - posted on 08/19/2012

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We were having the same problems with our 8 & 6 yr olds. Our 8 yr old would end up crying out of frustration. She would say, "I know it." but I doubted she did. She hated to read! We found a program that explained these are called 'stress spirials'. They also explain the 7 main reasons some children have difficulty learning to read.
The program is "Easyread by Oxford Learning Systems".This is an online program that uses imaginative synthetic phonics to help struggling children learn how to read. It is specially optimized for dyslexic children and highly visual learners.

This program has helped our two children by using lessons that are less than 15 minutes per day 4 to 5 days per week. We have been using it since Mid March and now there is no more crying! Instead, our children are now making an effort to read on their own. I wholeheartedly recommend this program!

For more information you can email me at jjmueller1@verizon.net or visit their website. (If you decide to use the program you can get 10% off if you have a referral--Just use JuanitaMueller as a referral)

Julie - posted on 08/14/2012

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i think he will need glasses
check his eyes and tell him to read for you.
even if he says my eyes are perfect it is probably
that he doesn't want them.
the younger he gets them the quicker his eyes can get better and won't get damaged.
it is a very important thing to do.

Tara - posted on 11/28/2011

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Making reading fun is important, especially at his age. I have read to and with both my children since birth and they see their parents reading all the time. I would encourage you to put reading into every part of your life. The sight word idea is a great one, using rhyming books like Seuss, and playing games like word bingo to get familiar with words are all excellent ways to show that reading is fun.

Chazmine - posted on 08/05/2011

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you could try to make reading fun for him i don't know what you done already t try to help but if you could afford the tag reading system is really fun and kids enjoy reading it and you can check his progress online you could also try hooked on phonics I had to do that when i was in first grade i hated reading but thats because it was forced on me and wasn't fun because i felt like no matter what i did it wasnt good enough because they kept making me do it i appreciate it now but just try positive reinforcement and try to make it as fun as possible and not only make him read but read to him alot so he will enjoy reading and want to be able to do it without much help it takes time but it will work out

Carol - posted on 08/05/2011

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I used Hooked on Phonics with my son and it was fantastic! He went from not knowing his ABC's to reading at a 6th grade level in one year. I was homeschooling. The grade level was the Hooked on Phonics level, not public school's level, but his reading was sooo much better than my older son when he was the same age who learned to read in the public school. He was a great reader too, just not as quick a reader. I think the Hooked on Phonics and the one-on-one consistency worked best. It gave him a terrific foundation.
That said, I think every kid is different and learns at a different pace. They push all kids to read so early now. It works for some right away and not for others. Keep working with him and it will click eventually and then he'll be off to the races.

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My 7 yr old son had been having similar problems. Reading and writing were both very frustrating for him. He got glasses at age 2 1/2, and has had frequent eye exams, so I didn't think vision was the issue. Turns out it was. He needed bifocals, and getting an opinion from a behavior optometrist led to the correct diagnosis. His glasses were perfect for far vision, but not strong enough for near. In the near range he was slightly crossing his eyes. Not noticeable to anyone looking. It caused him to lose vision in his left eye, which was diagnosed in kindergarten (by the optometrist who came to school to screen the kids, NOT by his ophthalmologist who he saw 3 weeks before). We changed ophthalmologists, and he started wearing a patch on his good eye to improve the bad one. The bad eye improved to near normal, but the problem of crossing eyes in the near range was not fixed by getting him the correct prescription (needed bifocals!), so he still crossed his eyes to read or write, leading to him having severe problems with visual tracking. Some kids experience the same difficulty when their eyes turn outward slightly. They may have double vision, or they may not notice that. They usually get headaches from reading or writing a lot, or they just plain refuse to do the work because it is so difficult and frustrating for them. Take your child to a behavior optometrist to get the type of vision exam needed to diagnose this. My son saw at least 3 different ophthalmologists, and none of them made a connection between the difficulty at school and the vision problem. All eye doctors are not the same. Yesterday he told me that he loves to read, and he has been reading on his own with much less difficulty. No more headaches.

Renee - posted on 01/18/2010

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My 8 year old daughter is the same way. Tears, frustrations and arguing were a part of our nightly routine. However, when I really noticed her having problems I talked to my friend that is a teacher. She started spending a day a week with her and when she started doing that her interested picked up and her teacher saw an improvement in her reading. I think it was more fun than reading with Mom and/or Dad. Plus my friend can pick up on things she needs to work on a lot better than I can since she is a teacher. She knows a lot more tricks to try. So if you have another family member or close friend that would be willing to help out, maybe give that a try? I've been told that I'm not alone, that a lot of kids do not learn well with parents, the would rather work with someone else. Hope this helps or at least gives you some ideas.

Margarida - posted on 01/17/2010

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look for kumon after school program for your child. They do really help. I had the same problem and went to kumon and it did wonders for mild child.

I hope that this helps.

Corrie - posted on 01/17/2010

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Find out what his reading level is from his teacher. He should read at his level only and spend time enjoying books of his interests, not just school books. Does his teacher use the basil only in class? Sometimes (especially for biys, this can be boring). Just try to make it not a task. Reading is a skill that comes to all children at different times. The more frustrated he becomes the less likely he is to be a good reader. Model reading for enjoyment, and keep in mind to be a good reader one has to comprehend what they are reading so discuss the stories he reads and maybe allow him to write some stories of his own. Check out Starfall.com it's fun!

Tabitha - posted on 01/15/2010

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make reading fun, not a chore. get him to read 'stop signs', give way etc. when he works out that he knows them he'll love to read. write family names, items(eg 'window' on the windows) this will encourage him to read all material.

Caron - posted on 01/15/2010

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We had the same trouble with our now 14 year old son; who is now an amazing reader. I hate to say this, but we went out and purchased the old Dick and Jane readers. They were easy for him and helped him to learn all of the connecting words. They also helped him to build confidence. Good Luck!

Deandra - posted on 01/13/2010

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Do you read with him or does he see you reading at all? Our children tend to do what the see us as parents do the same way we were with our parents. Make reading fun for your son make up a game using words and see how that works out. Children learning better when its a game a song or just something that they like to do.

Viviana - posted on 01/13/2010

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Reading shall start at early age. Be patient with him. Choose a fun topic which triggers laughter, not serious a book like keywords reading. Tell him that you want to read a fun story book for him. Choose a fun simple reading book with big letters. Read slowly with your finger pointing to every word. Read with enthusiasm, make the story alive with tone of your voice. Ask him questions about the story. I share my experience Read with your child in my blog, http://tinyurl.com/y9m4gzx
Hope it works, Viviana, http://resourcesformomsandkids.com

Tally - posted on 01/11/2010

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check out focus on the family's website. they have great resources for parents. And I have heard this topic discussed on their radio show.

Jessica - posted on 01/11/2010

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maybe it's not that he doesn't want to learn he could be in a lower reading level than his peers and it may bother him. ask the school for a tittle 1 program or another reading program they might offer. That's what happend with my son. it helped alot

Chanel - posted on 01/10/2010

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he could just be bored and you may have to challenge him. My son is 7 yrs old as well and he was like that last school yr and part of this school yr but my son is very advanced for his age and he gets bored very quick once he get the hang of the work also he was diagnosed with adhd in March of 2008 so that had a lot to do with why he didnt want to do his work at all in school nor at home the school did some studies on him and found out that his I.Q. is 95 but his attention span is only about 5 mins long so thats why he didnt want to do his work so you could check into that hopefully this helps

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It could be worth getting him checked out for dyslexia. My middle daughter was diagnosed with it just over a year ago. She didn't like reading and would do her best to get out of it. Now she's been diagnosed with dyslexia she gets support through the school and she now enjoys books more (relatively speaking) and I've noticed that she is more willing to read and write.



I would also suggest making it as fun as possible and try not to make it a battlefield. Easier said than done. Also go back to more basic level books and you could also play games like bingo - match the picture and the word together. Hopefully that'll help, but I think that you need to get him checked out for Dyslexia. If you get him tested for it, you'll either be told he has the condition and then you can move forward, or he hasn't and you can take another road.



It's worth pointing out that I live in the UK. Good luck and I hope that your son makes good progress.

Jeanne - posted on 01/09/2010

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Give him time. My daughter, now 20 yrs, had trouble reading at that age as well. Her teacher gave this page to read, that had funny symbols, thus I could not read it. She explained this is what your child is trying to read. I will never forget when the light bulb went on and she began to read, she was nearly 9. She is now in her 3rd year of college and maintaining really good grades. I suggest Dr. Seuss books as they have rhyming words. I hope this helps your.

Trina - posted on 01/08/2010

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My son is 8 now and in 2nd grade. Last year in 1st grade, he was having the same issues. He hated to read and would give up easily. Just keep working on it! I volunteered alot in his class last year and noticed the same thing going on with alot of the kids and now this year is much better! I think since they are just starting to really get into reading and spelling in first grade it can be overwhelming for them but when sencond grade comes around they have a little more confidence. I would just read books he loved (Dinosaurs/Animals) and if he got tired of reading, I would read.We would take turns and some nights if he really was not into it, I would just read. And I would praise him alot for doing well. My guess is by the end of the year and beginning of next, you will see alot of improvement! Sick with it! Good luck!

Angela - posted on 01/07/2010

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Give rewards for finishing his reading. Find books that are a bit easier from the library and see if he can read those. Get his eyes checked,,, you may want to use a developmental ped they seem to find other things that help. Have him use his finger to show where he is. Always read at the same time... my son reads me a book before I read him one at night... part of a routine.

I don't tell him he has missed a word, my finger hovers over the word until he gets it or he asks for help. He doesn't like using his finger. It takes time.

Glory - posted on 01/06/2010

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Sight words...tape the words to your doors, make a game out of it...if he wants to play a video game let him read you ten words, if he wants to play with his friends, make him read ten more, anything he has an interest with..these are the words that are very common in a story, if he does not know the basics he will have trouble reading, and he will get stuck, is not fun for him he gets discourage..my ten year old is the same way, but when he was little I did not stress the sight words, and then it became a big problem..the basics are very important..although my son loves math, he struggles with the reading part..I make my son go into the computer, and I make him go on the website from the school, is reading short stories and than he gets to answer the questions..all the work he does registers in the school system, at the end of the school year all the children that completed the stories get a pizza party and icecream...check with your school to see if they have that, my son really enjoys doing it...hope this helps

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What kid of trouble is he having? Is he just not interested? Are you trying to make him read the decodable readers the school might be sending? I am a First Grade teacher and I might be able to help. I need a little more info though. I might be as simple as finding books that he has an interest in. It might be something more.

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