sex at 9!

Lashun - posted on 04/01/2010

Wow thats why I have a open relationsip with my son now cause its sooo much going on and they need to be aware of this.....Its seem as though nothing is safe anymore.....

Misty - posted on 04/01/2010

oh,my god ! it things like this that true make me want to home school! my little girl will be 9 in Aug.IT is so sad , first though ,No more play dates at her house ! but dose not help that poor child ,I hope and pray this is only her repeating something she has heard NOT something she has done or had done to her , My little is having questions to and I am not sure what to tell her,last year she had to start shaving her legs becaues they were cover with long black hair,I mean cover like a mans , and this year she is wearing a bra again becaues she had to or you could see, This brakes my heart ,yes I think should call maybe she has no idea whats gonning on ,Someone needs to help this little girl maybe God has put her in you and your child life for a reason , Of course have No idea how you could help ,And your child safety is always first ,I just feel so sorry for this child !

Tiffany - posted on 03/31/2010

Wow. I think a lot of you are just way too sheltered. All this talk about social services and getting people involved that don't need to be? Do any of you remember when you were 9? Granted things have changed just a little but the fact that children are constantly interested in their bodies is not something to overreact like this about. Around ages 9 and 10 is when sex education is introduced into the school systems and children are taught about puberty and their bodily changes. Its not just something that is talked about at home. Whether we like it or not this is the stage that experimentation starts. I'm sure some of you, if not all of you, experimented with friends when you were little. Having the young girl taken out of her home because her mom doesn't have time for her? Are you serious? First things first is you should talk to the mom or the nanny and find out how much time the little girl actually spends with her mom. My friends' kids say all the time their parents don't have time for them when, in fact, they spend every possible available minute with them. They say it to get attention from others as if the attention they get from their parents isn't enough. The girls could be getting information about sex from watching adult television shows. Get the facts first before you go all psycho mom calling child protective services and starting trouble that you don't want. One thing you should never do is accuse someone of something when you have no idea exactly what you are talking about. In the end you'll just make a fool out of yourself.

Lisa - posted on 03/24/2010

Be careful. It may very well be the nanny that is putting the child in a compromised position and exposing her to inappropriate behavior. Protect your child first by removing her from playdates at that household, and inform the proper authorities so they can investigate what is happening. Perhaps they will be able to help the other child also.

Marti - posted on 11/07/2009

Since the Nanny is functioning as the mom maybe calling her could help. This sounds like something that could on the part of the child be too much umsupervised television watching. Or something much more complex that the Nanny may need to be aware of to take proper care of the child

Tamiya - posted on 11/04/2009

i would child welfare in your area and report what is going. this child may be acting like this because she is being exposed to sex. that is abuse at her age. u should do that to help.

Becky - posted on 11/04/2009

I am glad to hear that things seems to be going well. Honestly is the best policy, especially with our children. There is false information all over media, that makes their reality twisted. I think more people need to start being honest with themselves first than with everyone else around them. Everyone!

Di-Anne - posted on 11/04/2009

we have always been very open and honest about sex in our home and have explained things honestly when asked and when we saw the need.



when i spoke to my daughter again about this friend she said she had been about to give them an earfull about talking to kids their age about sex when they dont know whether or not the childs mother had already spoken to them about sex. she would have told them that it is important for that kind of information to come from the mom so that the child learns correct information!



she is wary about going back to that friends house. she has decided the friend can visit here. nothing happened to her but she would prefer being close to me in casse the topic comes up again.



my home is always open to our friends children and whoever else shows up, as long as they obey my rules. those who dont get to sit in the living room while i call their moms to pick them up and never bring them back unless they come with a real apology! i am strict but fair.



honesty is definitely the best policy!

Becky - posted on 11/03/2009

I would also call social service. Here is what I am learning in my college education so far, that the more open you are about sex when discussing it with children they have a lower rate of pre-marital sex. When I saw open I mean actual talking about how it happens, the feelings associated with it, the protection needed, the consequences of it, etc. This seems the better approach. I would say that if your daughter enjoys this friendship, than I would make sure it is always in your supervision. The negative thing for the little girl is that because her mother is never around, and she now has a friend and then no longer has a friend could hurt this child more than she already is. It may also be a way for you to get some more information about the whole situation.

I am the neighborhood mom in my cul-de-sac. My house is on the corner so everyone can see our yard; I really don't mind that the kids come over if they follow my rules #1, and then I feel I can help them with any problems they have that they don't want to talk to their parents about. I have talked to them about girls doing everything boys can do, clothes, cooking, sports, studying hard, and even sex. Average age is 9. The sex I did not bring up they did, and honestly I was shocked. They just talked about their parents having "the talk". But I always view my interaction as helping the next generation. Sometimes kids need other adults to vent to. Hopefully this helps. Trust your judgement.

Carol - posted on 10/28/2009

UNACCEPTABLE!!!! Make the appropriate phone calls to the police. Soon they will have your daughter having sex. I would not allow her to play with those children again and get in contact with child protective services! I have a 10 year old daughter and that is exactly what I would do!!!

Jessica - posted on 10/28/2009

first off, if a nine yr old is talking about sex, then some where down the line someone was taking advantage of.. I was, when I was 5yrs old by my next door nabor and then again raped at 11 by a best friend's brother and his friends. it ripped me apart. it still bother's me to this day. the only thing u can do, is keep her away from those friends asap, but remember the world is filled with this kind of stuff.. its going to happen even if u home school. u cant shelter ur children from all the cruel stuff in the world.

Michelle - posted on 10/27/2009

My Niece, was molested at 9 by another girl!!! You need to stop this friendship ASAP! It will only get worse. This little girl is very messed up, and your daughter doesn;t need her in her life.. The Mother has abandoned her child and caused major damage, as well as mental abuse.. The little girl has probably had SEX, she is looking for Love and acceptance, that she does not get at home, and will probably never will. So please end this for your daughter;s sake. SAVE HER!!!! Message me back, I will help you all I can!!! Handle this and all should be well, FWI do not contact the Mother, just cut all ties, Please listen to me, I have been through this... Take good care of you and yours. HUGS and Prayers Chelle