Di-Anne - posted on 10/26/2009 ( 12 moms have responded )
we have been a home school family for 9 years now. my youngest is 9 (turning 10 in January). she went to play at a new friends house on saturday and came home bubbly and happy after a day of fun. the friend had a cousin who also came to play that day. the three girls played doctor and this is where i got goose bumps! the cousin was the doctor and my daughter was the patient. the first question asked was "so are you sexually active". my daughter is informed - we had the talk earlier this year as she had questions that could only be explained by telling all - so she was shocked and asked what the girl meant. the girl then asked her "have you had sex yet and if so with how many boys?"
i was horrified enough by this, but even more so when my daughter got ready for bed and i noticed a hicky on her arm. she says the other girl showed her how to do this and she 'practiced' on her own arm.
this kind of peer influence is one of the reasons we are home schooling. the girlfriend is someone my daughter knows through swimming class. she gets taken to all her activities by a nanny. when my daughter asked if i would call her mom i said she must just give my number to the mom. she said she cant because her friends mom does not have time for her daughter. i wass shocked and said that could not be true. at this point my two teens who go to the same class told me this was true!!! the nanny takes care of everything surrounding the girl.
what kind of world are we living in where a 9 year old can be discarded like this? how scary is it that 9 year olds are discussing their sexual status in such detail (other things were said)? what do you do in a case like this? phoning the mom is obviously going to be a waste of time and energy and will only lead to anger and frustration, but if a 9 year old is thinking sex sex sex then surely she needs a real adult to help her and guide her to make good choices?
have you had an experience like this? how did you handle it?