Ashley - posted on 08/09/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )
First a little background. At the end of last September I was finally able to pack up my daughters and escape an extremely abusive marriage. My oldest daughter was about three and a half at that time and had witnessed a lot of the abuse I suffered and then at the end of it all was abused herself(this was what gave me the strength to finally leave). We moved back to my parent's house and I reported the incidents from the last weekend(which was when my daughter had also been abused) we had still been living with my soon-to-be-ex-husband. He was arrested and yesterday finally convicted to a few years of prison time.
Unfortunately my daughter remembers a lot, if not all, of what happened to her and to myself, and she will randomly start talking about it to her grandparents, aunt, and I(we all live in the same house). We have taken her to a child advocacy center and then a counselor on their recommendation, but she hasn't brought it up with them yet and seems to only want to talk about it in the presence of people she spends a lot of time with and is comfortable with.
She will be starting PreK in a couple of weeks and so my question is, should I tell her teacher the basics of this situation so that if, once more comfortable with her teacher and classmates, she were to bring it up at school she knows what she is talking about? Or is it best to not mention it to her teacher unless she were to specifically ask? And if it would be best to tell her teacher what would be the best way to do that, because I'm not really sure how to bring it up or really how to word it?