Unbelievable!!!

Heidi - posted on 05/25/2009

Well I didn't tell Tanner until well into the afternoon after I sent to text messages. Yesterday was suppose to be a phone call day for Matt, so I didn't have to say anything to Tanner since he knows the days of the week and he can tell time. His father is to call on Sundays and Wednesdays at 6pm and Tanner knows that because if he happens to be out he knows he has to be home in time for those phones calls.

Honestly I don't care what Matt and his family do, but since its so hard for Matt to come and see Tanner of course its going to tick me off knowing he is in town and doesn't make time for his son. Its only natural. Tanner already has lots of conclusions in regards to all of this and I know as he gets even older he will realize everything I have done for him to protect him and comfort him. I am the one that is always here for him when he is hurt or angry, not his father. His father has not been the best father figure for him in almost 10 years, but I am thankful Tanner has a stepdad that does love him and wants to be a part of his life. Mind you I have to admit its been nice not having to see Matt. Its been almost a year since the last time I saw him, and by the looks of things it will be quite some time before I have to see him again. Now if and when I do see Matt again I will be nice, but thats about it.

Carol - posted on 05/25/2009

If I was you, I wouldn't worry about what plans your ex (tanner's dad) and the sm have, so what tehy were in town don't let them bother or frustrate you. Enjoy every minute you spend with Tanner (I know you do, you are a great mother). It doesn't sound like there will ever be a real relationship between father and son. Plus your husband sounds like a great man to take your son under his wing and provide all the father son stuff for him. His real dad is the only one that will be missing out. Try and protect Tanner from any unplesant feelings, don't tell him what his bd is doing, or if he is missing out on anything. Let him enjoy his childhood without having to worry about his bd or feel left out by his bd. He will come to his own conclusions of his bd when he is old enough.

If sm thinks the texts you sent were funny, let it roll off your back, why worry about what she is writing or saying. So what if she was the one responding.

You can't change the way there are, just move on and forget what they are doing.

Carol - posted on 05/25/2009

From reading different posts, trying to piece little bits of your whole situation together. Question, from the history of Tanner's dad not visiting, and letting Tanner down, How come you told Tanner he was in town and he didn't visit or call him? I think I would have just waited to see if you heard from dad.

Carol - posted on 05/25/2009

From reading different posts, trying to piece little bits of your whole situation together. Question, from the history of Tanner's dad not visiting, and letting Tanner down, How come you told Tanner he was in town and he didn't visit or call him? I think I would have just waited to see if you heard from dad.