both sides of the fence (opinions wanted)

Heidi - posted on 10/10/2009 ( 2 moms have responded )

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hi. im a bm of 3 kids (6b, 4g, 1g) and a sm of 3 kids (11g, 9g, 6g.... which dont live with us) so i have there bm and sd too deal with as well as having a bd and sm to deal with when it comes to my eldest.

when it comes my step daughters:
bm wont let them go in our car and wont let us walk then too the park, we have to sit at her place to be able to spend time with them, but while were there she spends all her time carrying-on about how we never take them anywhere and how shes sick of us always sitting in her house. there not allowed to come to our house to stay, coz she doesnt like the thought of all 5 girls (her 3 and my 2) sleeping in the one room (we live in a 3 bedroom house, we have one room, the girls have a room and my son has a room), but when its convenient for her she will give us a max of 48hrs warning that there going to stay with us (it could be 1 night, it could be 3 wks).

when it comes to my son:
bd lives a 5min walk down the road from us, but is always to busy to come and visit his son (he doesnt work), he'll turn up out of the blue to see our son, spend maybe 30min with him and goes again. i put a stop to this by telling him that if he wanted to see him that we had to sit down and work out regular visit, he cracked-it and told me to get a lawyer, that was 2 - 3 months ago. the only time we hear anything from him now is when he sends me a message saying that he wants over son to go over there, which i say no to coz he wont come to see our son.

so whats eveyones opinions on these 2 situations?

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Serina - posted on 10/25/2009

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I am in the same situation. I have 3 bk. 8,5,4. Three SK. 11,and twins 7. There mom is the same. We had them all yr. last yr. then she just took them from us! Now we are going to court for custody.or atleast 50-50. You need to go to court! Fight for his rights!



now about biological dad. He hasnt seen his sons since easter! And before that it was christmas! He tried to be a dad where he comes when he wants just like yours. When I told him the same as you. He stoped coming around. His loss. He just had the nerve to call and ask if he can have them for halloween! haha! I dont thinks so! He has never paid child support for 3 yrs. It sadens me for my kids. But it is his loss!

Heidi - posted on 10/10/2009

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i forgot to add before the from seeing things from both sides of the fence that i am of the belief that all perants, both bio and step should be involed in the decision making as it affects everyones lives.