Sasha - posted on 08/30/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )
Hi all! I am a BIOmom AND a Stepmom. We have a large family. My ex husband and I have 6 children, I have 2 stepdaughters, and my husband and I are expecting our 2nd child together.... for a total of TEN! lol
Anyhoo, My 8 children live with us full time, 6 of them visit their dad every other weekend. Here's my issue. Their stepmother does not respect ANY boundaries. In fact, on circle of Moms she's listed all 6 of MY children as HERS. I listed my stepdaughters as well but I checked the box that stated I was the stepmom. She had "THE TALK" with my oldest daughter! I can never get that back! When I tried to talk to her about it, she basically said tough crap. She had everyone at church believing that MY children were HERS. We go to the same church. I clarified that very quickly.
I feel like I'm in the middle of "The Hand that Rocks the Cradle". I don't know how to resolve this because my ex can NOT stand up to his wife (either one!). She likes the attention she gets from letting everyone think she has a large family. Now I let most things go, but having "THE TALK" with my oldest was inexcusable. My husband respects my ex and the childrens' father and doesn't overstep his bounds even though they LIVE with us.
Anyway, sorry to vent on for so long. I would really appreciate some advice on this before I go postal!
Thanks so much!