Jennifer - posted on 09/13/2010 ( 17 moms have responded )
Ok, editing the original post. But still the same question. My ex has married the woman that feel was a big part in the break up of our marriage...she was an affair that I subsequently divorced him for. He married her one short year after our divorce and as soon as he married her, they told the children it was ok to call her mom now. This was told to my children without any discussion with me prior or even after the fact. I have told both of them that it is disrespectful to me and that i have no problem with them coming up with a fun name the kids can call her. They will not discuss the issue and say that they have decided to just let the children decide what to call her. Well sure, you have already told them what to call her! The kids were 5,7 and 9 at the time. My 9 year old makes a point to tell me that he does not call her Mom (in fact, he is the one that told me in the first place) when I asked him why he doesn't, he said because he knew it would hurt my feelings and that I am his mom, she isn't. I don't know how to handle this, suggestions would be greatly appreciated!