Copycat

Holly - posted on 04/03/2013

i don't know leigh, where do they find these women... wait, where did he find you?

Holly - posted on 04/03/2013

um, this is stupid... perhaps it is because they have difficult BMs? what, you don't want them to be able to voice their problems?

Leigh - posted on 01/09/2013

Wow, call a BM childish and you might as well declare WWIII on yourselves. You shouldn't try to provoke us with namecalling.

We don't fear SM, we simply despise them. So many SM's fit the stereotype. They are so incredibly self centered and condescending, while trying to make themselves out to be the 'bonus mom'. Might as well call yourselves Bogus Mom.

SM's deliberately create drama between the two (BM vs SM) usually using BM's kids to provoke. That's their biggest downfall right there. Thats when the claws come out.

They sure like to stir things up a lot. They literally thrive on that tactic = Projection. You call us childish because that is what you want to think, or want others to think.

I believe a lot of SM's are BPD. Not to be confused with bi-polars, but specifically Borderline Personality Disordered individuals. Thats the type of person who is chronically jealous and insecure. Emotionally stunted teenage mentalities. They're everywhere.

Where do our ex husbands find these women? Bars? Craigslist? Who knows. Who cares. Just keep them away from me. Please.

I know SM need to tell themselves things to make themselves feel better, but don't flatter yourselves. You're not that important.

Our only concern is for our kids.

Sarah - posted on 09/22/2011

My exs fiancee hates me just because I am in his life, and hates that I am keeping my married name!

Elizabeth - posted on 10/07/2010

I don't care if they have there own group. What I don't get is that why they get bent out of shape about the ex. Really they don't have to deal with them, they choose to, they choose to let the ex rent space in their head.

Heidi - posted on 05/07/2010

All Bio Moms are not feared of stepmoms. I in fact have absolutely no fear of the stepmom that is in my situation. That side of the family rarely sees my son. Maybe twice a year. So no fear of anything.
This conversation started almost a year ago. When this forum started I found it amusing that the stepmoms that have been bashing me and other bio moms started a forum just like this one. That is why it says they are copycats.
FYI I am also a stepmom as well as a Bio mom. Just thought you should know that!

Amanda - posted on 05/06/2010

Why do you have to comment like that? I am a stepmother and I have been in my stepdaughters life since she was born, even when BM was not around. I did my best to show love towards my stepdaughter even before I could claim her as my stepdaughter, and then BM came out of no where three years later. She hates me, but won't explain and she doesn't trust me around her daughter, but won't explain. What is with BM's hating on the stepmother so much? All we did was marry the man you had a child(ren) with and showed love to your children. And why be childish by saying that we are copycats? Are all BMs childish because they fear stepmothers?!

Heidi - posted on 03/18/2010

I am not trying to bash anyone. LIke I said I am a stepmom and a bio mom. I was a bio mom first. In the past I have dealt with a lot of crap from the stepmom in my situation as she has dealt with a lot of crap from me. I have also dealt with a ton of crap from the bio mom. Mind you she is no longer in the picture and hasn't been for just over 3 years. I have better things to do with my time then "follow" the stepmom in my situation, and I have always looked out for the best interest of my son. My boys are my first priority. You are right it would make life easier if all parents could get along for the sake of the child, but it doesn't always work that way. I give credit to all those parents that can get along.
And my ex didn't just cheat on me once...it was an on going thing with a few girls. He just happen to marry one of them.

Katie - posted on 03/17/2010

my husband cheated on me....he had a one night stand and now we have kagen. so i totally understand where you are coming from. i guess what really got to me is how you seemed to be more worried about what the stepmom group is doing...does it matter. we need support too. and when you think about what is best for the child, dont you think it would be better if all the parents in the childs life were friends? kagens first birthday party, we all are getting together: the bio mom and dad, and the step parents, it makes kagens life easier.

if you want support with bio moms--good. if you want to bash the step moms and stalk our pages to see if we are like you---grow up

Heidi - posted on 03/16/2010

Tp set the record straight...not all bio moms hate the stepmoms in there situations. I am in fact a bio mom and a stepmom. Not once did I ever say I hated the stepmom in my situation. I do not agree with her all the time, and we rarely speak to one another, but I would not down grade her in front of my son ever. I dont have to "best friends" with her by any means. I in fact have a few friends that are great friends with the bio moms that they have to deal with and I think its great. Makes life much easier for everyone esspecially the child or children involved.
My situation is different then yours. My ex cheated on me with his current wife so there is a long history. I get along with her enough for my sons sake and thats it. No need for us to hang out and be the best of buds. As long as we can be civil to one another in front of my son then thats all that matters to me. I am sure she say a lot of nasty things about me behind my back, and I am fine with that. Its her opinion and she is entitled to it, just as I am.
As long as the child or children are loved and taken care of treated equally thats all that matters to me.
Sorry if you got the wrong impression of this forum, but it came about quite some time ago. No one has really written on this because most of us have buried the hatchet and have moved on.

Katie - posted on 03/16/2010

what i don't understand is why bio moms automatically hate step moms. I am a step mom now and I get along great with the bio mother. Me and her do everything together when it comes to Kagen, our son. From day one she has been as nice as can be. I just think if most of you bio mothers would give the step mom a chance, you might see that she is a great person and loves your child just as much as you do. I would be lost without Kagen and his bio mother knows that...she doesn't feel like I am taking her place or anything else. She loves the fact that Kagen has a "normal" family (with a mom and dad) at both houses.

Heidi - posted on 06/11/2009

Well thats the thing, they don't leave us alone. I still get private messages sent to me about there private forum and from the sm in my situation. They have to keep on snooping to get there thrills.

Heidi - posted on 06/05/2009

You are right Carol. I just found it all to funny thats all, because that group got started after this one. So hopefully they will stay on there side of the fence. Its been nice to have peace and quiet.

Carol - posted on 06/04/2009

just maybe they think the same as you. That there are tons of steps dealing with bio's as well. I wouldnt worry. At least there is no mix up about what each group is for so no one can complain. We get to stick to our own side of the fence without interference and they can too. As long as they leave us alone it doesn't really matter.

Carol - posted on 06/04/2009

just maybe they think the same as you. That there are tons of steps dealing with bio's as well. I wouldnt worry. At least there is no mix up about what each group is for so no one can complain. We get to stick to our own side of the fence without interference and they can too. As long as they leave us alone it doesn't really matter.

Carol - posted on 06/04/2009

just maybe they think the same as you. That there are tons of steps dealing with bio's as well. I wouldnt worry. At least there is no mix up about what each group is for so no one can complain. We get to stick to our own side of the fence without interference and they can too. As long as they leave us alone it doesn't really matter.