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SM out of control - Sorry kinda long

DeeDee - posted on 09/20/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )

Where to start ... I recently went to court ( Sept 10 ) to try and get custody of my children, I was going for 50/50 % niether the SM or Bio Father would agree, none the less I lost because I am unemployed and don't agree upon medical decisions, so the courts sided in his favor. We have joint custody and I have standard visitation. However this past weekend my children come over for visitation, they are old enough to take baths and change clothes without me supervising, but I happened to walk in on my youngest getting in the bath saturday morning, She has bruises and marks on her she says she got from her SM. I of course take pictures and call the athorities ( CPS and Police ). My question is how do I face this woman knowing what she did to my baby? During court my ex and the SM paint me out as a horrible mother. I refuse to give meds, I won't co parent kind of things, I have tried for over a yr to get people to see that the issues my children are having in thier house, but I am blown off by doctors, the courts, even my family. I always knew there were problems I just never had proof. Why is it that the system is so screwed? To top off the incident , I just found out that during our custody trial he was being investigated by CPS and the courts STILL gave him custody.

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Anna - posted on 11/05/2010

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WTF!!! from experience the justice system is a farce! have you asked the school to speak to your daughter? have you tried taking her to A&E to have the bruises checked out? im in england and about a year ago there was a case of a little boy who suffered abuse at the hands of his mum. he was taken to the doctor and was sent away with a suspected cold. 2 days later he died from a broken back and other injuries. (he got the broken back before seeing the doctor)

im not trying to scare you but let you know that the authorities are crap.

im a step mum myself and i have never punished my SD. 1~ its not my place to do so,

and 2~ we've never had to.

document everything. photos, letters, phone calls. get your children to speak to someone in authority about their bruises. have you asked your ex what they are?

as a step mum its frustrating when the bio mum is hurting their child and no one will listen but it must be unbearable when its the other way round.

i hope something gets done.

DeeDee - posted on 09/22/2010

My children are 5, 7, 9, The bruising and marks on my daughter were not from rough housing, There were 4 lashing marks that were about 3 in long and a dark purple in color, the bruises were scattered and round and they covered her bottom from hip to hip and top to bottom. Today my 5 year old showed up to school with bruises down her spine.

Crystal - posted on 09/21/2010

I'm curious... how old are your children? Are you sure that it was the Smom? Could the children have been rough housing and she wanted to blame it on the Smom?