Carrie - posted on 08/30/2010 ( 1 mom has responded )
My name is Carrie and I'll briefly give you Evan's story. I was in a marriage that wasn't going well. I began talking to an acquaintance whom I became friends with. He listened to me and found me attractive. I eventually filed for a divorce and started seeing this man. This man & I ended up having a rocky relationship and I was on & off with my husband and resolving our marriage issues. I was stuck in love with two different men.
I knew I wanted to stay friends with this man and try to save my marriage but my husband wouldn't allow it. I had to make a choice and it was hard for me because I had two men meeting my needs, different needs the other wasn't meeting. My husband left for 10 days to Texas on our 5th wedding anniversary with his dad and it was a hurtful thing to me at the time. I wanted to save our marriage and & wasn't sure. The next night (New Year's Eve) I went to this man's house to be around friends. That's the night I became pregnant for Evan.
In the end I did save my marriage and for the most part my husband meets my needs. The other man is no longer in my life. I allowed Evan to be adopted because I felt it was best for him. It was the hardest thing I've ever done in my life! Not a day goes by that I don't think about him. Evan will be 11 yrs old Sept 23,2010. I've not had any contact with him since he was 2 yrs old. because his birthfather lied to the adopted parents and told them I was following them home after our visits. He still has contact or at least pictures. I know because we still have linking friends.