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Amanda - posted on 06/04/2011 ( 1 mom has responded )

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I have 2 sons and got pregnant after 10 years of trying not to get pregnant... I knew I didn't want anymore kids plus I am soooo busy with my sons and knew I couldn't handle another child. Anyways I just had my first girl may 24 of this year and gave her up to a wonderful family... I know it has only been a week and a half. But I am starting to feel lost and alone. I don't regret it at all but I don't know why I'm sooo emotional when I knew 100% that this is what I wanted for her... I feel empty. Is this normal even though I don't regret my decision...? Also is it weird that I feel sad that I also lost the relationship that I built with the adoptive mom... we talked all these months and I got close to her and now I lost that too... I just have so many mixed emotions... idk how I'm suppose to feel.. what do I do with my feelings?

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Katelyn - posted on 07/03/2011

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IT IS NORMAL!!!! There are so many feelings that come after placement that are rarely talked about. I remember the first month after I placed was one of the darkest times of my life. I don't know if you have an open adoption or not but maybe consider talking to the adoptive mother and letting her know that you're having a bit of a hard time with the lack of contact. Let her know that you don't necessarily need to know about the baby but that you feel like you lost a friend( at least that is what I felt like). When I talked to my adoptive couple about it they were completely understanding and willing to build and work on the realtionship that we have. I place a baby girl 4 years ago (May 10, 2007) and have an open adoption. I've had hard days where I cry for the most part of the day (those haven't happened for a while) but it's normal. I've blogged about my adoption experience at myangelsfromgod.blogspot.com. You can always ask me questions.

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