influence on your kids

June - posted on 12/01/2010 ( 19 moms have responded )

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so i saw this question on another boared and would be intrested how the moms here feel. do any of you think you may have influenced your kids to choose the gay lesbian or bi sexual life style? personnly i am very open i kiss hug and cuddle my girl friends in front of them. i have two kids a 4 year old daughter and a 13 year old daughter. my 13 year old is bi as well but i think she likes women more as she has only dated one guy and then all girls. when she was younger i would tell her how wonderful women are and if she chosses to experiment theres nothing wrong with that and with my four year old i explained why mommy likes girls in a way that she understood.

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Rachel - posted on 08/16/2011

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I honestly don't know if sexual orientation is determined genetically or by influence or environment. In either case, I'm not sure if I've influenced my daughter (or will) but I am openly bi and she knows about it. She knows the facts about sex, bisexuality, lesbianism, etc. She is becoming more curious about things and asks lots of questions, all of which her dad and I answer honestly and directly.
She is going through puberty and she seems to be equally interested in boys and girls. Only time will tell which direction life takes her in, but she knows that no matter what her dad and I will support her 100% and always love her! I think that's the most important thing. :)

Ann - posted on 07/12/2011

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I'm very closeted but I teach my daughter its ok to love who ever you love ...boy or girl... I think if you are open with ur kids it won't make them gay/ bi just makes it possible for them to be free to be themselves

June - posted on 12/03/2010

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i love familes that are open like that so nice that your parents shared that with you. if more familes where like that then kids would learn about sex early and from a good source and not end up pregnant at 13. plus they would see how much you can love someone and not judge others

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Kristen - posted on 05/01/2011

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I am also bi, but some of my family members no that i am bi, but most dont...the ones who do no find it disgusting but they dont treat me any different. I am engaged to a guy ive been with for 10 years....and im only 20 yea its pretty crzy..but when i was about 16 i realized i was attracted to girls...its something i couldnt help. Most of my friends do not no im bi either..i feel like im living a lie and i hate it. I have had a sexual & serious r-ship with a female while being engaged...and i enjoyed having both worlds lol..but we eventually went our own ways..i am currently looking for a female again. But my point is i have a beautiful 18 month old daughter....theres nothing i wouldnt do for that girl...i wouldnt care if she was lez, or bi...as long as my baby girl is happy then i am happy...i hope when shes older she knows she can tell me anything at all, there will never be judgment..just hope that she will live a happy life...and that goes for any future kids i have...

Jessie - posted on 12/27/2010

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sorry bt i dont think it is true. when i was about 9 i notice i didnt just want a boyfriend i wanted a girlfriend. i had never knew about bi or gay people before that as my family where against lesbians. most my family are but thankfully my close family (mum dad brother & sister) arnt. my mum was at first but as i became more open about it she started to no more and now dose not mind. The bad part about it is that my mams side of the family HATE lesbian or bi wimen. they do not no i am bi and never will as i have been in the room when they have said that "those people shud b put against a wall and shot", that broke my heart. what i am trying to say is i grew up hearing that and i am still bi. nothing cud have influenced me. its the way you are born, its who you are, a part of your soul. i hate keeping this from my family but if i have to then so be it... i wouldn't mind what or who my son turned out to be but a part of me hopes he will not be gay or bi because i have sufferd the bullying and torment that i wouldn't want my son to have t suffer. i hope you understand what i am trying to say and thank you for letting m get this of my chest.

Lisa - posted on 12/22/2010

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i come from a family that was verry open about things growing during the 70s was alot of fun

Ashley - posted on 12/19/2010

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When it comes to my children, I don't care if they are gay, bisexual or straight. As long as they are happy, I don't care. They are my boys regardless what sexuality they are. I'm not going to push it onto them, but what ever they want out of life, is fine with me.

Ashley - posted on 12/14/2010

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When it comes to my kids, I think my oldest son is gay, he is only 8 yrs old, but heit is just the wayhe acts.

Emma - posted on 12/13/2010

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I'm bi and I hope I'm a good influence on my girl. I'll probably be just like June Smith becaus she sounds like a great and fun mom!

Tiffany - posted on 12/11/2010

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That is too cute. I would go ahead and get him the male doll just to see what happens. You never know right? =)

Melissa - posted on 12/10/2010

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I would be quite content if my girls were bi but chose to be with only girls until well out of college.

Lin - posted on 12/09/2010

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I would not be surprised if my baby (turning 1 in January) comes out as gay/bi. When there are people of both genders around, with the exception of my sister and I, he will stare and try to interact with the guys more than the girls, and it takes him a few seconds longer to respond to a smiling female face than a smile male face. (Plus that and his insisting that I was going to get him the almost-naked Jacob doll Barbie makes at 7-months of age.....seriously, what 7-month-old has that kind of fit over anything like that LOL.) I would be surprised if my oldest came out - he such a big flirt with all the ladies and he very much wants to be like Daddy (who's straighter than a perfectly made ruler).

I don't think we have any more than a potential genetic influence on our kids' orientations, but we certainly create an environment that is more comfortable for our kids to figure out what they are and to embrace it. (I don't know the studies offhand, but there is a bit of research to back up atleast the latter part.)

Sara - posted on 12/03/2010

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I saw everything growing up and it was so nice seeing my mom and my dad having fun with their gf's and bf's

June - posted on 12/02/2010

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ty both i really do try and i think its so beautiul that she has found out about female love early. i personally wish everyone including men where bi or at least tried once. but rigt now im very happy for my girl and her gf

Sara - posted on 12/02/2010

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my mom was openly bi and parents were very open about sex so I think it is a great influence and you seem like a great mom

Ashley - posted on 12/01/2010

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I wish I could have had a mom like you. One that I could tell everything to. U sound like a great mom.

June - posted on 12/01/2010

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yes i walked in on her and a school mate before she got scared but i reasuredher she can do what she wants as long as its at home. so she plays ofton and im very happy she does. she has been with a boy once but it was only a blow job she shares everything with me

Ashley - posted on 12/01/2010

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I understand what you aare saying, but I haven't told my children about my lifestyle yet. Right now, my husband and I live with my grandmother, aunt, and mom. All of them are racist against anyone who is not white or has a different sexuality then them. So they r a big influence on my children. I'm trying to raise my kids to respect everyone regardless race or sexuality. I'm so gald that u feel comfortable around your children to show them not to be afraid of who they are. When it comes to your daughter about being bi, I knew I was bi-sexual when I was about 15. Has she experimented sexually with other girls before yet?

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