Where Does One Start

Suse - posted on 07/25/2012

Hi Denise
sorry Ive been tardy but just back from overseas.
Well youre both right here. If youre anything like me then the emotions can run very high, so your husband is correct in this aspect.
However, there are two things you must be prepared to undertake
Firstly, lots and lots and lots of communication with your husband, and
Secondly, you must try very hard to manage your relationships.
Explain to your husband that you want him to take this journey with you. Mind you, you might very well prefer to take this little adventure on your own lol but best you take things slowly !! Men can be such insecure creatures.
I will be frank here. The emotions you will feel will be very very strong ... my heavens I remember. Its like coming home. But please try to temper that with what you must do in the short term and that is take care with your relationship with your husband as well. It can be very difficult while in the "novelty" period, but you must.
Allow your husband to meet with your potential lover socially. Dont go straight to the bedroom even though that is where all your passions want to go!
Allow your husband to interact with the other sweet lady - platonically certainly. Try the three of you getting together for a meal if you havent already done so.
Then realise that your husband will need reassurance both in bed and out. Thats what men do !
Reiterate that your relationship with him and your family is the most important thing in the world but that you just want to explore a little with him holding your hand.
I dont know if you intend to organise a threesome or someone exclusively for you. Remember that all men are voyeurs as well so this can be marvellous bait !
But talk, talk, talk with your man and dont give up.
I cant stress enough the strength of the emotions you will encounter when you touch and hold and smell your lover. Men have amazing fantasies about this but lo and behold, they really arent all that adventurous when push comes to shove - darlings they are.
Involve your man as much as you can and be respectful of his insecurities. But also be respectful of your own needs.
Reiterate to him that you only wish this special part of you to occupy a small part of your life and time.
Please be very aware of how strongly you will react when the moment comes .. and it will if you persevere. Therefore, manage your drooling and dribbling lol Sometimes we're not all that pretty in how we come across.lol
Hope this helps and keep in touch so we can broach individual problems as they come up.
Happy and wet exploring.
Suse xxx

Denise - posted on 07/14/2012

Hi Suse.I have posted quite a few questions here and havent gotten a response.Perhaps you will be more willing to help me.I am a married,bisexual mom of two little ones.My husband knows about my sexuality.He actually helped me discover it and to partially come out.I havent really had much experience with women whether realationship or just physical.However,I find myself wanting to give it a try more and more lately.My husband was ok with this at first but since I began looking for a 3rd person for us he changed his mind.He says that he's afraid I'll get too involved emotionally and affect our family.I do understand where he's coming from since Im unexperienced in this area.However,I cant stop thinking about being with a woman.I only want to have this experience with my husband involved.Any advice?