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How do I get my fiance to see that his son is manipulating him?

Jocelyn - posted on 12/14/2011 ( 1 mom has responded )

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My fiance has been coming around to addressing his son's behavior (he's 9). It always seems that once we've started to make head-way on one issue, we're forced right into the gut of another! After a wonderful talk between my fiance and I, my step-son is now sleeping ALONE in his own bed. We still deal with his whining and "you don't love me like Mom does!" comments (he sleeps in his mother's room and she waits on him like a butler), but with consistency its much better. Now that's getting under control, he is faking being sick almost every school day. If he ends up going to school, he goes to the nurse and either his mom or my fiance goes to pick him up. He has missed so much school this year that his teachers sent an email to my fiance. My fiance is convinced he's telling the truth, yet when I come home from work, my stepson has downed 2 cheeseburgers and is playing happily with my daughter. I hate to harp on my fiance's parenting, I feel like I'm always "having talks" about my stepson's issues... but I'm getting upset about the manipulation. Any advice???

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Sofia - posted on 02/02/2012

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I hear your pain sister! I admit my child has pulled the "I'm sick" card on many occoassions to get picked up at school. It doesnt help that she has an actual illness that we never know if it is acting up or not. But catching your child playing and eating like everything is honky dorry is a dead give away. When that has happened to me, I remind my child she is home because she said she was sick and is sent to bed. I dont know if you have the authority to do the same to your stepchild. I would do it if I were you. But if you think it would make things worse between you and your spouse, then realize your limits and dont do that.



Have patients and use clear, tangible examples of how dad is allowing his son to run his life.



It's a sticky situation because it's your spouse the has the last word and you have to try to get him to understand and see your point. Good luck! You can bring a horse to water, but you cant make him drink!

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