Cristina - posted on 05/04/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )
I am totaly confused about blended families. Growing up I always liked my father's significant others and not so much my mother's they never treated her right snd I lived with my mom most of my life. I was married and had a kid at a young age of 21 his dad passed away 4 years ago so my son and I have been through hell and back . I now have a wonderful man in our lives and we have been together for 2 years now. after 8 months of dating we moved in with my bf and been trying to adjust to things my son had started calling my bf dad last june my sons 5 . my bf has an almost 14 year old girl that lives with her grandmother ( her mom's mom) . My bf and his ex had unstable relationships for the longest time so the ex's mom thought it was in the daughters best interest for her to live with her indefinatly. the daughters mom has another child from another man that resulted from her cheating on my bf. up untill the child was 3 it was believed that the child was the bfs but after a paternaty exam the child turned out not to be his and this child lives with the ex. The daughter visits every other weekend . my bf is an awesome father figure to my son I love all the progress hes made with him very supportive. I still am confused about our family dynamics as he sees himself as my sons dad but am not to sure about my role. The kids get along great. I adore his daughter. The other day I listed her on my fb as my daughter because I have my sons relationship with me on my fb profile . the bf recently noticed that I have his daughter listed as my daughter. He made a comment about it and sed I don't think her mom would agree to see her daughter listed as my kid on fb. I could really careless about what the woman thinks as I don't really talk to her and the relation is between her daughter and I. My bf often talks about us getting married which is wonderful but. Whats good for the goose seems not to be good for the gander. the step daughter has recently not doing so well in school and I have no say in that wich I find totally unfair because my bf has his say in everything to with with my son. after the comment he made about the whole facebook situation I deleted his daughter off my relation status and then feeling rejected and confused I asked him how he expects that we would someday marry because of his concern with his ex's reaction. I asked him how could we ever plan to get married with the ex's approval.