BacktoAllen

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Thoughts from the jumbled mind of a busy yet blessed single mom with three amazing kiddos who continually show me the ropes. A writer by nature and by trade. Aspiring exerciser, yoga student, book and music lover just finding my way one step at a...

Lisa is a winner of Top 25 Single Moms - 2013

What's the biggest misconception people have about single parenting?

The only misconception that bothers me is that we're simply parenting solo. Being a single parent doesn't mean that we're just alone with the kids; it also means being the only adult in the house who earns an income, who can take the kids to the doctor and who is responsible for every single need the kids have. Being a single mom is more than a full time job, without vacations or overtime pay, and very rarely comes with merit raises :)

What's the most rewarding thing about being a single parent?

Honestly, I think the rewards of being a single parent are the same that any other parent experiences. It's a blessing to watch my children grow up, and to have the privilege of getting to know them as their personalities develop. I find so many different aspects of parenting rewarding; all A's on a report card, seeing my daughter face her fears and compete in the Spelling Bee, watching my son make new friends and seeing them stand up for each other when neighborhood kids pick on one of them. I wish I could take credit for the amazing people they are, but it's a joint effort that includes family, friends, teachers and so many other people who also love them.

What's the most important thing being a single parent has taught you?

Being a single parent has taught me that I am stronger than I used to think. When push comes to shove, and bills must be paid, I have to find a way to do it all even when I don't think I can. I've also learned that even though my kids might pine after iPads and other 'stuff' that what they really want is time with me. They don't care what I wear or if I've brushed my hair; they just want attention, time and to know they're loved. They've taught me to be more intentional and to appreciate each moment we have together.