Dribbles and Grits

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I murdered time. Sentenced to a perpetual tea party, I talk about everything: autism, recipes, math, killing zombies. I also stole the Queen of Heart's tarts and sold them in the black market.

What's the funniest thing your child has ever done or said?

What always makes you laugh?

What's the funniest gift you've ever received?

Encourage or discourage your children from playing with opposite-gender toys?

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If my kids will play with a toy, like finally play with the junk I spent good money to get them so that they may amuse themselves for a while? Yeah, I'm lettin them play. I do purposely buy toys geared to both genders. I have all 3 girls, and one is on the spectrum, and it's very common for people on the autism spectrum to defy gender roles, as well as not play with toys. I get really annoyed that it's hard to find pink hot wheels or a spiderman tea cup set. The main issue... My husband is Puerto Rican. His parents are still living on the island. If they had it their way, my girls would grow up to be stay at home moms who do nothing but slave after their family sacrificing any ambition for it. It's sadistic really because they also promote their girls to go to school and make good grades. Then on top of it, they constantly gripe at the husband to put his foot down with me. I shouldn't be doing take-out as often as I do, or use Minute Rice when I cook, or make him cook some nights, or have a say in how we spend money... After living years with turds like my inlaws giving us their 1950's June Cleaver 2 cents, and my husband who sometimes listens to it, I'm very anti-gender roles. It's something that is constantly in the back of my mind, from the way I let my husband treat me in front of the kids to the toys I buy my kids. I purposely go out of my way to make sure we have some masculine toys for my girls to play with.
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If you were giving a commencement speech, what's one piece of advice you'd give to young women who want to include motherhood in their futures?

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First, to the boys: It takes two to tango, and while this culture seems to absolve the fathers from any and all responsibility of a child outside of money, the reality is too many deadbeat dads infest this world with their irresponsible uselessness. Children, our future, need their father's love and advice. Don't be with a woman you wouldn't mother. Do you know if your lover is pro-life or pro-choice? If you can't answer that question, you are already being irresponsible. If you don't think you ever want to have children, do us all a favor and get a vasectomy. To the ladies: If you are not ready for children, be responsible. Boys will sell it like it's a used car with deceit and persistence. God gave them two heads, and nine times out of ten, you are talking to the one behind the zipper. Don't trust a man until you know the man enough to tell which head you are talking to. You wouldn't buy a car without a contract would you? Marriage is that contract. Lock them into that deal before pushing out their spawn. Babies. A precious miracle. A gooey, sticky, time consuming, attention seeking miracle. Basic Military Training kind of prepared me for it… I had 3 minutes at a time to eat and had to run on 3 hours sleep, 3 to 5 miles a day, over 100 pushups and situps, and then beyond fatigued and starved, had to sit caffeine deprived in training, clean, problem solve and speak coherently, with someone screaming in my face. It was easier than motherhood because there was an end. When you do become a mom, your intuition trumps all. Listen to it. Trust it. Right now? Take care of yourself. Use this time now to build confidence, trust your inner voice, find your inner peace, take vitamins, and enjoy your bubble bath. Don't take that bubble bath for granted. Someday, you won't have it.
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What's the best form of exercise for a tired, busy mom who wants to get back in shape?

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I think the best exercise in general is swimming. The ocean is better than the pool, but you work muscles you didn't know you have. It's cardio. Easy on the joints. And you don't get overly hot and sweaty. You tone your whole body with one exercise. I used to do 20 pool lengths, freestyle up, breaststroke back, 3 times a week. I was never in better shape than that period in my life. But if swimming isn't doable because you have shave and find a pool, and see yourself in a bathing suit... I'm going to say this. I was in the Air Force. It's fact, Air Force people are kind of out of shape in comparison to Army and Marines. The Air Force knows it. They've been increasing PT and making it more mandatory in hopes that will get everyone in shape. It's not working and I'll tell you why. The Army and Marine Corps both do PT, yes, but they are in shape not from their PT, but from their normal duty. Most of them in full uniform jog up creeks through swamps with 100 pounds of gear on them. They don't sit much. They are always moving, doing something. If you want to get in shape, your best bet is to increase regular activities. It's not about exercising. It's about being active all day. A lifestyle. Longer muscles are stronger muscles, so flexibility is a key part of getting in shape. If all you do is stretch every night before bed, you would be doing your body a great service.
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Do your kids have a favorite non-violent video game that you'd recommend to other parents? Please share a link to the product an tell us why you AND your kids love it.

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My kids are now 3, 5 and 6. So far, their favorites up to this point include... On the Kindle and iProducts: Kevin Bradford's Learning Games (he has a couple different age groups) http://www.amazon.com/Preschool-and-Kindergarten-Learning-Games/dp/B007KOHUQG/ref=pd_sim_mas_1 On the Xbox: Marble Blast Ultra http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Marble_Blast_Ultra On Xbox and Devices: Minecraft (Creative Mode is nonviolent; think of it as legos you don't have to pick up or step on) Depending on how you define violent, on the Kindle, Draw a Stickman Epic. https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.hitcents.stickmanepic&hl=en The 6 year old also likes to play the violent mature games Red Dead Redemption (AKA Cowboy Game) and Assassins Creed (AKA Sassy Cree). Of course, she doesn't actually play the games. She just walks around and explores making them non-violent to her.
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Do you use your slow cooker/crock pot even in summer? If you have a great warm-weather crock pot recipe, please share a link to it with other moms!

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The slow cooker is both a blessing and a curse. It's a blessing in the sense you throw crap in it, turn it on, wait all day, come back and like magic, dinner. It's a curse in the sense you have to remember to put the crap in it in the hours before coffee kicks in. I still use it a lot, all year. I'd use it a lot more if I could remember to put stuff in it before 3PM. In the summer, I do my pork recipe I'll link below. I also do artichoke dip. Throw in a bag of shredded mozzarella, a tub of sour cream, and a jar of artichoke hearts (chopped). You can add some green onion, or like I do, onion salt. Once melted, top on toasted bread, crackers, tortilla chips or whatever. Easy appetizer for a BBQ, or a nice little snack for fun. It probably rates as the top favorite at office parties, back in the day before reproducing when I had an office and went to parties.
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