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Find a little relief and a lot of laughs! I hope to inspire and learn, because having a two- and three-year-old is the toughest job I've ever had.

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What's your child's weirdest habit?

What's the most bizarre parenting product or children's toy you've seen or heard of?

What's a parenting rule you should break and why?

Christine Virgin

Safety comes second. Say what? Exactly. We are told when we are children to remember "safety first" over and over, but there are so many times this rule restricts growth, fun and learning. There are times to be impulsive and there are times to test boundaries. Plus, children learn to trust us if we warn them of the danger in what they're doing but allow them to do it anyway, and then find out we were right. We would never lick the brownie batter spatulas with our kids if we put safety first. We wouldn't let them play with slingshots. We wouldn't let them take apart our vacuum cleaners (kudos to my in-laws for allowing my computer scientist husband to do this as a 5-year-old trying to build a hovercraft.) As parents, we need to weigh what we're trying to protect our children from in our minds against the life lesson they will get if they find out the harder (and more fun) way.
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What is the best car for a family of four? (Please share make, model, and why.)

Christine Virgin

I'm living the minivan dream! There is no other vehicle that can match the versatility and value for a family. Ours is a Honda Odyssey. Evita (that's her name because she's liberated our poor travel spirit) is one-year-old, and I challenge anyone to find another automobile that can (because she has): enable you enough inside cab space to haul 5X8 sheets of drywall, or a dining room table with its six chairs (true story!); hold 8 passengers at once (with the ability, if necessary, to have six of those be car seats); tow a 3,500 pound, 24' boat; and average 20+ MPG.
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What is your best tip for not losing your temper with children?

Christine Virgin

Don't have kids? Just kidding. Walking away is the best thing I can do to buy myself the five seconds (or five minutes) I need to think through how to respond. (Note: be sure the kids are relatively safe before walking away.) There are so many things that can set me off - running late, frustration from disobedience, lack of control, messes, the question "Why mommy?" for the 27th time - that each situation requires a thought-out response. If you lose your temper, you have chosen NOT to think through your response. I have found that I have much more leverage if I calmly respond.
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Why is the stay-at-home vs. working moms debate so passionate?

Christine Virgin

I'm not sure passionate is the word I would use to describe the debate. I think most women recognize that there are innumerable variables each family weighs in figuring out what is right for it, and the balance scale tilts at least ever-so-slightly in one direction. Thus, I think the debate is more an internal one, because no matter which category you are in, you are constantly weighing whether you are making the right choice. I think what happens is that as women weigh where they stand, whether they're debating quitting and going home, or wondering when would be the right time to go back to work, they find themselves judging the families around them. We live in a competitive culture where parents want to give their children the best chance at success. There is research that supports both dual-working and at-home parenthood as the better model. It makes sense to me that each family's decision could be right depending on what fulfills its individual members. I read in a book that whether you are a career woman or an at-home mom, your role is not as important as the attitude you communicate about that role. That resonated so much with me. So I think we should stop trying to seek outside justification for our choices (something that could cause passionate debate), and take pride in the paths we've chosen or the hands we've been dealt. If anyone out there is passionately debating with others about this, remember that one woman's conviction to be at work could rightly be as strong as your conviction to be home and vice versa.
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