I have ADHD and I have four active kiddos. I don't delude myself into thinking that I can get organized any more. I still make attempts here and there, but "getting organized" is just too stressful for me. I reprioritized and realized that I just need to be able to function and keep up with daily tasks, which seem to fall into two categories: appointments and feeding time.
I keep two calendars. One hangs in my kitchen and the other is with Cozi. I keep both calendars up-to-date and make it a policy to look at it at least twice a day. I have a pencil-only policy on my wall calendar because plans change so frequently at my house. I usually interact with Cozi through an app I have on my tablet.
I synced my Cozi to-do list with FlyLady, so if I should decide to accept one of her missions, it's already pre-loaded in the app and I don't even have to use the computer or check my email to get it. For those of you willing to relinquish control, FlyLady is a great resource to get your house in order and keep it that way.
Cozi also has a great menu-planning feature available online. I can plan my meals and the ingredients and I can easily add them to my shopping list. Also, I keep a perpetual shopping list on my Cozi, so I'm not constantly adding and deleting things. I just have to check or uncheck them. This helps me streamline my food purchases and keep my grocery budget to a minimum.
These things are the backbone of my home-organization. I'm not super organized--I still have to dig for spices and occasionally misplace an important piece of paper and have to hunt for it--but maintaining these two things makes my distracted, flaky life manageable so I'm not dropping every ball or stressing out about our busy lives.