James & Jax

http://jamesandjax.com/

First-time mom, making my way through extended breastfeeding, co-sleeping, attachment parenting, PPD, a full-time job, and trying to figure out who I am now that becoming a mother has totally rocked my world. My blog is my version of cheap therapy!

James & Jax is a winner of Top 25 Postpartum Depression Blogs by Moms - 2012

What advice would you give to moms who are struggling with PPD?

Find support. Even if you live in a remote area, making it hard to find an in-person support group or lean on your friends and family, there is always support--don't rule out the power of an online support group, even one on a social media site like Facebook or Twitter. For me, finding the #ppdchat on Twitter was a key aspect of my recovery from PPD and PPA, along with therapy and blogging/journaling. The women I met online, who were experiencing many of the same things I was, reminded me as often as necessary of the progress I made and helped keep me on track with it.

Bookmark Postpartum Progress on your computer. It's an invaluable resource.

Talk about what you're feeling. You'd be surprised how many other women have been through it but haven't spoken up about it. In my experience, as soon as I opened up to a few family members and friends, I learned that so many of them had been through the same thing. I learned from them and leaned on them.

Finally, remember: you will get through this. You will be ok. "Everything will be OK in the end; if it's not OK, it's not the end."

When you're struggling with a physical or mental illness, how do you keep up with all the demands of motherhood?

I had to learn to delegate and to let some things go. I realized that perfection is unattainable and that my priorities needed to change. Taking care of myself and my baby were my new primary goal, and taking care of my home became secondary (at least). I had to learn how to lean on others and how to ask for help. It wasn't easy, but it was necessary.

What's a mood booster that helps you get through a bad day?

There are many! Music. A brisk walk. Catching up with Twitter and Facebook friends during a quick break. A bubble bath. A good book or magazine. Blogging. Dark chocolate. A glass of wine.

(And, on a good day, all of the above!)

What's your New Year's Resolution?

James & Jax

Each year, I make New Year's resolutions, and a month later they've been forgotten--I suppose I'm like most Americans! So this year, I resolve to not make any more resolutions unless I have a strong plan to stick to them! I prefer to make monthly resolutions, as you can see I do from time to time on my blog. My monthly resolutions are usually of this nature: Read more books to Jackson (my 2-year-old); practice self-care; meet a new friend; basically, bettering myself or my relationships in some way.
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