New Beginnings

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A mom dealing with depression, a child with Aspergers, a husband who can be rather abusive and not understanding and now a divorce. She struggles to stay strong and be the best mom she can be

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Laura is a winner of Top 25 Mental Wellness Blogs by Moms

What mental wellness or mental health issues do you blog about?

I am a mom with depression and anxiety who is married to a mentally abusive husband. When the voting was going on I found out he was cheating on me so I have now added going through a divorce to my blog topics.

I also have a child with asperger's syndrome. Having to deal with his challenges while dealing with my own keeps us all on our toes. Amongst all this I weave everyday occurrences into my blog. Somedays I don't know how I get through it all, other days I manage quite well.

If you could give other moms one tip on mental wellness, what would it be?

Take some time everyday to be you. If it helps to be alone then make it happen. If you need to be with people then find people to be with. It is only when we are allowed to be who we are that we can truly blossom.

The more that I reclaim who I was and went to be again, the better my days are. Even on my bad days if I can do something to remind myself who I am they seem to be better.

What mental wellness resources would you recommend for moms? (Support systems, specific websites...)

I am in a few online Mommy Groups. We all support each other when we need it. It could be because their child discovered that scissors cut hair or it can be my husband cheated on me. I don't know how I would have gotten through the last few years without them.

Blogging has also been a big help for me. The act of writing down what is going on and getting my feelings out has been a therapeutic outlet. Once I started to open up with what I was feeling and not hiding it anymore I found the strength to start doing things to improve myself and my life.

I also see a psychologist once a month. He helps me understand that just because I have depression and anxiety that doesn't mean that I should be afraid to stand up for myself and take back my life. It was him that opened my eyes to the abuse I was enduring in my marriage and has been instrumental in helping me get out of my marriage.

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How much money should I spend on kid's birthday party?

Laura

It doesn't matter, my husband always thinks I spend too much. This year I spent $175 and he was furious. I spend just what I need. Cake mix and frosting, decorations, dollar store paper goods, food (we made our own pizza's) beverages (we used powdered drink mix), games and prizes. The theme was Pinkeralla and my daughter loved it. My husband thinks that $50.00 is reasonable, Unfortunately that is just not realistic with 11 children in attendance to a party.
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