a pair of parsleys

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unwrapped, exposed, and perfectly IMPERFECT....those truths come unraveled in the stories enclosed. the good lord above added fraternal babes to this southern-bred chaos in 2010...and these are the the result...

maggie is a winner of Top 25 Moms of Multiples - 2012

How do you split your time so that all your children get enough attention?

realize that each child has his/her distinct interests and abilities. divide and conquer, when you can. take one to the store while the dropping the other off with grandparents. enjoy a ball game with one while another little one helps mommy with dinner at home. treat them as individuals...again, when YOU can. if you can't divvy up the kiddos, just sit in the floor and enjoy playing with your little ones by reading, playing, etc.

if you keep up with how much attention each child is getting and trying to be "fair", you will only get lost in the shuffle and feel helpless. focus on what you can do and not what you can't. god didn't place you in the position of being a mommy of multiples if you couldn't handle it.

Do have any tips for handling sibling rivalry?

oh, lordy. kids are going to love each other one day and clock each other the next. while you obviously want to promote peace, love, and happiness in your home and instill as daily family values, you have to realize that kiddos are going to have good days enjoying one another and days that are the polar opposite.

in trying to promote a happy little union amongst your multiples, make sure YOU set the example. compliment the little things (unless it is braking something). encourage your son/daughter to continue doing whatever it is they are trying to do (unless it is setting something on fire). the list is endless. you have to set the tone. as any mother knows, your children are always watching. if you want them to love one another, you have to be the one to model it. your the momma; therefore, that is YOUR job.

Moms of multiples are often experts at multitasking. Have you discovered a shortcut or trick that all moms could use?

um, that answer is a no. i do, however, have a long list of things of what "not" to do. but let's keep it positive....

there are no shortcuts to being a sound, accomplished momma. chore charts, reward programs, etc all come and go. there is not, though, a magic "voila" in order to guarantee multitasking success.

the only rule i think mommies of multiples must do is synchronize. however many little ones you had popping out at once, get them on the same schedule. i truly believe that your sanity and well-being is based on that. sure child #1, #2, #3, etc will deviate from it at time to time, but if you have a daily routine that all of your multiples stick to then YOU will have some time to yourself. mine are sleeping right now so that i can answer these questions!

don't waste your time searching for the magic anecdote. do what works for you. do not compare your life and your children's lives to anyone else. to each his own. buckle up and enjoy the crazy-fun life your little ones create for your family.