Sharing rooms

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My two are 9 months old and share a room, though they're in separate cribs.

I do have two separate rooms (though, obviously only using one right now), but instead of splitting them up, I was considering just turning the second room into a play room. When one of them gets old enough to start wanting privacy, I can split them then, but I'm not that anxious to split them up.

Is anyone else keeping their boy/girl twins together past infancy? Or am I just seriously weird?

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personally I don't see a problem with keeping them together for as long as they like. obviously, they'll need and want privacy before they hit puberty but puberty is a long way off. I figure they bathe together (and won't forget that) and eat together and wake together and live side by side almost every moment. I want my twins (b/g) to feel comfortable with their bodies and share as long as they are comfortable with it. I know they will reach a point where they will want space and figure I'll just go with it til then. UNLESS they are keeping each other up by goofing around too much when older, but I've always shared a room with one or the other of my sisters so figure that might not be too much of a problem. like an earlier poster said, I figure I'll just know when the time is right (do also like the idea of not doing it when they are starting school).

Kathryn - posted on 07/26/2010

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My b/g twins shared a crib for 9 weeks, and then had separate cribs side-by-side from that point. I was reading in my favorite book on twins, Twin Set, that either 3 or 5 is a good age for separating them, depending on how THEY feel about the split. They say not to split them the year they start school, as it can be too much change at once... so the year before, or the year after is reasonable. That's my plan... Although we only have 3 main floor bedrooms with our current set of twins and another set on the way... So, I plan on using the 3 or 5 year rule, and putting the kids together based on what sex children we have this time 'round... And we have 2 bedrooms in the basement that will be used once they are older, so each of them will have their own room later on.

Cheryl - posted on 02/18/2010

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My b/g twins shared a room but had separate cribs initially. I learned quickly that they had completely different sleep habits. My daughter loved to fall asleep quickly and wake up early and my son loved to fuss himself to sleep then sleep in. This led to one of them always disturbing the others sleep and they both became irritable. When they were six months old my daughter moved out of the nursery and into our third bedroom. They're 4.5 now and sometimes they love having their own space and sometimes they beg to have sleep overs with each other and to play in each others rooms. I enjoy having a place to separate them when necessary but encourage them to spend time in each others rooms -- with permission from the room occupant.

Kam - posted on 11/05/2009

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My boy/girl twins were in the same crib until they were in the same crib until they were about 14 months old (and we moved into a place where we had room to set up a 2nd crib in their bedroom).



They are turning 3 years old next week and for now are still sharing a room.





MY OLD REPLY TO SOMEONE ELSE REGARDING THE SAME THING:

My b/g twins turn 1 tomorrow and they are still sharing one crib. We generally put them to bed asleep, however, and in separate corners (head in the corner, body laying diagonally). If we put them down before they're asleep, they get up and walk all over... and possibly on each other. So, until we make room for a 2nd crib (we currently have a small 2 bedroom apartment), they're sharing. They generally fall asleep in the swings, whether the swing is moving or not, and then we transfer them. It's not the best solution, but it's what we can do for now.



I hope this helps.



When they started rolling over, we tried using the little wedges underneath him, but they started rolling over those, so now we don't use them at all.

Tash - posted on 10/09/2009

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Hi, my twins are now 8 months old. At this point in time, I'm going to wait until end of next year, only because hopefully we'll have built our new house by then. But then again, if they want their own space before then, well I guess I'll have to move one of them sooner.

Chrystal - posted on 10/06/2009

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I have 18 month old b/g twins and an older 6 year old. Currently they all share a bedroom, only cuz we just sold our condo (YAH) we move into our 4 bedroom house on Friday! To the point, I plan to keep the twins together in the new house until they ask for their own space. We plan to use the extra room as a guest room until the time comes for the split. A bonus is we have another room to use as a playroom. Don't feel bad about keeping them together.

Louise - posted on 10/02/2009

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Hi No I'll be keeping my 2 together until they don't want to anymore, I think they'd get really lonely having been used to always having someone there if they wake up in the middle of night

Michelle - posted on 08/21/2009

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Hello, I kept my two together until they moved in to big beds. It is a difficult transition for them so I made it fun, new beds, new rooms, new colours, and they helped as much as 2 year olds can lol. You will know when its right for them to have their own rooms. They might not want to for a long time, or they might want to asap. It is a choice you should discuss with them I think. Up to that point it is your choice. Trust your instincts. Good luck :)

Anita - posted on 08/18/2009

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I don't think you are weird. I understand the desire to keep the children together. I have an older boy and girl to room with mine. At first though, I did keep mine together. They slept together for a long time and then they had separate cribs in the same room. But, there is something I have noticed about children that I didn't know before. They know more than we think they do about the differences in their sex. Boys especially! This is not unusual, but I had to realize that this was not a good situation and keeping that separated was best. It may be different for some people, but it helped mine to understand that boys have their private time to get dressed and girls have theirs. I just want to say, I have good kids and some people may look at this and think something is weird, but I feel like lots of people know this is true but just don't open up and admit it. I just wanted to give you the honest answer.

Anita - posted on 08/18/2009

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I don't think you are weird. I understand the desire to keep the children together. I have an older boy and girl to room with mine. At first though, I did keep mine together. They slept together for a long time and then they had separate cribs in the same room. But, there is something I have noticed about children that I didn't know before. They know more than we think they do about the differences in their sex. Boys especially! This is not unusual, but I had to realize that this was not a good situation and keeping that separated was best. It may be different for some people, but it helped mine to understand that boys have their private time to get dressed and girls have theirs. I just want to say, I have good kids and some people may look at this and think something is weird, but I feel like lots of people know this is true but just don't open up and admit it. I just wanted to give you the honest answer.

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