older child helping mom breast feed?
Elizabeth - posted on 05/15/2011
I think it's great to involve your son. It will make the atmosphere more relaxed and develop more of a family bond. It will also be positive training for the day when he himself becomes a parent.
I suggest that you discuss breastfeeding with him before you have the baby. Let him know that a mommy's body makes the milk special for the baby and tell him all of the good things that mommy's milk does that formula does not: reduces chance of many diseases, better smelling diaper, less spit up, higher iq etc.
Also let him know the things involved in nursing. Your nursing pillow will need adjusted, you'll need a drink, you'll need to unlatch your bra and get baby to latch on, and you'll need to burp baby. If you let him choice what he wants to help with, it may help him feel more involved. Maybe you could let him help you pick out a nursing pillow.
When baby arrives and you are nursing, you could practice being discrete and let him critique you. Most kids his age love hearing stories about themselves when they were little, maybe when you nurse, he could get you your drink, then you tell him a story about himself when he was little, then he could help burp the babe.
It could be a great bonding time for everyone, if it is done right and you know your son better than anyone to know what will work for your family.
One last suggestion, in whatever way he helps, praise him. Let him know how lucky you are that you have a son that helps like he does, and how lucky the babe is to have a big brother like him.
Termika - posted on 04/16/2011
its human nature for a woman to nurse her child. and in all honesty its up to you wether you feel comfortable to feed in front of a child at that age. i mean at 10 they are learning things from their peirs that may put breasts in a sexual nature instead of a natural one. and its your, the mothers, duty to explain what is going on and to make it clear what the intent of breast feeding is. i feel that if the child understands what is going on and wants to lend a helping hand that is great. but at the same time you have to be careful in making sure that he understands why the baby is having a boob for din-din instead of a bottle. share the info that you know for him to respect a womans body as a nurturing vessle. and give him tips on how to defend his honor just incase his friends decide to speak on it. good luck to you and yours and tell that young man of yours that he is very lucky to have such a caring and nurturing mother
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