Jenny - posted on 01/29/2010 ( 21 moms have responded )
SO, I absolutely LOVE being a mother. It really came as a suprise to me how much I love it. When I was younger, I always just assumed I would have children but it wasn't something I really thought about too much. I used to teach high school English and I really loved it. After I had my first son I realized that for me not even the best class with the best students could compare to just being with my son, feeding him, changing his diapers, watching him drool! I never expected that. Other people's babies were cute enough but after about five minutes of coochy coo, I was bored! But with my own son, it was like the mysteries of the universe were wrapped up in his tiny fists.
But with all the unexpected joys of motherhood came something else I never saw coming. GUILT I have always considered myself to be a confident person but after having children it seems like wherever I turn sometimes, there it is. Staring at me. Whispering all the things I shoud be doing that I'm not. Whispering all the things I should BE that I'm not. If I played with my son all day and ignored the laundry I felt guilty and lazy. If I put my son down and did chores I felt guilty because I was ignoring him! I think it even started in pregnancy when I felt guilty for putting anything in my mouth that wasn't 100% organic . (Not that that stopped me, I'm suprised my kid didn't come out looking like Ronald McDonald for all the cheeseburgers I ate)
Anyway, I was wondering if you moms ever felt this way (I'm pretty sure you have at some point) and what is it you feel most guilty about? And why do you think moms have some much guilt?