15 month old baby boy, 3 months pregnant and still breastfeeding.

Eloisa - posted on 03/02/2011 ( 54 moms have responded )

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I'm looking for recommendations. I have a 15 month old baby and still breastfeeding. I'm also 3 months pregnant. I don't know what to do. Should I continue breastfeeding or should I stop before the new baby comes?



Thanks!

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It's completely up to you. I'm 20 weeks and nursing my almost 22 month old. I'm taking it day by day and letting my daughter decide if she wants to stop or not. She's nursing twice a day for very short periods. I don't think she likes the taste change, but she still asks to nurse in the morning and in the evening. It's pretty painful for me, but not for all women. If you're not sure just go one day at a time.

Jennifer - posted on 03/02/2011

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personally, i see no reason to stop nursing your 15 month old as long as you aren't considered a high risk pregnancy. tandem nursing is a beautiful thing and can be especially useful for your older nursling because it will allow him to bond with the new baby, and it will help prevent sibling rivalry/jealousy.

Kelly - posted on 03/13/2011

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congratulations on your new pregnancy and good for you that you are still nursing your son! i, too, had a 15 mo. old son who was still nursing when i was 3 mos. pregnant. he wasn't ready to give it up, and neither was i. i wasn't sure if i would continue nursing or wean during the pregnancy, but i just let him and my heart guide me. i received valuable advice at the time, which i will pass onto you: make up your mind whether or not you will continue nursing by the time you are 6 mos. along. that way, if you decide to wean, you have a good three months to do it, and by the time the baby comes, your son will be fully weaned. if you decide to continue nursing, then prepare yourself for tandem nursing--really commit to it. don't "play it by ear" and then decide to wean right before the baby comes, or right after. this will not be good for your son--it will be too overwhelming and traumatic for him. and perhaps you. ultimately, i decided to continue nursing and ended up tandem nursing for a long time. luckily, my friends and midwife warned me that tandem nursing can be wonderful, as well as overwhelming at times. i'm glad i was prepared, because honestly, it felt like i had twins and i DID get overwhelmed at times. but i stuck with it because it really kept my toddler close to me, facilitated bonding between my two sons, and minimized jealousy. i still look back on that time with fondness and a big sigh. i don't know how it did it, but i also wouldn't have done it any other way. i'm glad i tandem nursed. good luck to you! remember: by the time you're 6 mos. along, make up your mind. :) blessings!

Shannon - posted on 03/07/2011

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The most important thing you need to do is consider the calories and fluid you need to intake to support both a growing baby and a growing fetus. We don't do things because they are easy instead we choose what is best for our children. Breast feeding will not hurt your fetus unless you begin to loose weight or become dehydrated. So eat healthy snacks and drink lots of water!

As a mother of three, I tell you, enjoy this time it won't last forever and you will miss it when it is gone.

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Jenn - posted on 03/25/2011

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My friend had her last two children 18 months apart. She BF both babies , sometimes in tandom without any problems. I think her older child stopped when the younger child was around 6 months. I think either way you are making a good decisions!!

Merry - posted on 03/25/2011

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At 12 months you CAN use cows milk, it's not ideal though. WIC has always supported full term breastfeeding and they love it that I am allowing my 2 year old to continue breastfeeding until he weans himself.
Cows milk is not really compatible to breastmilk, it has alot of things in it that are bad or just not right for our bodies, and it lacks alot of things breastfeeding has that we need.
Essentially, cows milk is a drink, breastmilk is a food. So cows milk isn't a substitute for breastmilk as it is so very different then human milk

Angela - posted on 03/25/2011

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WIC told us that at 12 months to start transitioning the breastfeeding babies to whole cows milk. Start off with one feeding a day of whole milk then slowly increase amount. if on formula the baby should be completely on whole cows milk and regular foods by 12 months.

Dawn - posted on 03/25/2011

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I had the same situation with my second. I chose to stop at the recommendation of my doctor since I had previous miscarriages, however it can be done. It's really up to you, but talk it over with your doctor and weigh the benefits vs. the possible negatives and be sure if you decide to continue that you are giving you and your unborn baby enough nutrients too. My daughter easily weaned at that age, by my simply replacing her least favorite feeding with a bottle of whole milk or formula. (I did a soy, since it had a more pleasant taste) after a week or so do the same with the next least favorite feeding and continue doing that until you've replaced all of them or gotten down to one if you want to continue that. If you choose to continue, your body will prioritize and put new baby's nutrient needs first after baby is born.

Merry - posted on 03/17/2011

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This is a piece taken from the American academy of family physicians website.
""/ There is no evidence that extended breastfeeding is harmful to mother or child. Breastfeeding during a subsequent pregnancy is not unusual. If the pregnancy is normal and the mother is healthy, breastfeeding during pregnancy is the woman's personal decision. If the child is younger than two years, the child is at increased risk of illness if weaned. Breastfeeding the nursing child after delivery of the next child (tandem nursing) may help provide a smooth transition psychologically for the older child.19"""

So for me that made me want to continue with breastfeeding my son Eric while I was pregnant with our second child. He was astill under two years so I didn't want to risk his health by weaning him early.
I'm now 34 weeks and still breast-feeding Eric who is 2 in a month. He is nursing about 8 times a day, my body has changed the milk into colostrum in preparation fro the new baby but Eric is quite content to drink the small amount of colostrum I have, and then just pacify himself on the breast.
I'm looking forward to tandem feeding both of my kids and I'm SO glad I continued!

Danielle - posted on 03/16/2011

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I'm astounded at all the misinformation here.

In most circumstances, breastfeeding while pregnant is perfectly safe. The only time that it's not is if you have complications already or are high risk, in which case, your doctor would know best. Yes, it causes uterine contractions but so does sex and since sex is not forbidden during pregnancy, it is ridiculous to say that other activities that cause uterine contractions would be dangerous. It does not cause strong enough contractions to start labor on its own. The body has to be gearing up to be in labor anyway before the breastfeeding induced uterine contractions will even matter.

Also, breastfeeding while pregnant will NOT take away nutrients from the fetus. It will take away nutrients from the mother and as long as the mother is not malnourished, the fetus will be perfectly fine.

Reducing nursing sessions while pregnant to reflect what you'll be comfortable with after the baby arrives is great in theory, however, a lot of older nurslings start nursing more when the baby arrives out of jealousy. This is not meant scare you out of tandem nursing- it does calm down and then tandem nursing is a wonderful thing. In fact, the older nursling can help relieve engorgement that often happens with a new baby. The bond that the little ones have while tandem nursing is incredible and there is nothing sweeter than seeing two little ones holding hands while nursing. ♥

I tandem nursed my youngest boys for awhile (9-10 months or so) and at first it was difficult but after I adjusted, it was something I will never regret.

Do what you feel is best for YOUR family. Congrats!

Kemi-Alicia - posted on 03/16/2011

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Wow super mom! keep breast feeding; the body will adjust itself to accommodate both kids.

Tanya - posted on 03/16/2011

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it is a personal decision. It is safe to nurse your baby through the whole pregnancy, but just consider the possibility that you will be nursing 2 at once.

If you decide you want to tandem nurse, you'll have to nurse right to the end. I nursed my LO (now 18 months) until 2 weeks before I delivered, when he started getting frustrated because there was no milk. So I gave in and let him take a bottle before sleep times, since that's when I usually nursed him. He wouldn't go back to the breast after 2 weeks of that. Of course, your LO might also wean himself when your milk changes.

Vicki - posted on 03/16/2011

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as long as feeding while pregnant doesnt make you too tired then theres no reason why you cant continue to feed, by the time babys due your 15mnth old should be nearly ready to stop

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Your supply may drop during your pregnancy and your baby may self wean as a result. My son started losing interest at about 14 months, so I started ending the feeding when he's come off the breast. His time at the breast dwindled to the point where I just skipped a feeding all together and he was fine. If your supply is up, and baby wants it and you're happy with nursing both babies at some point then keep it up. Totally a personal choice.

Jennifer - posted on 03/16/2011

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You can continue to breastfeed if you want, you can even continue to breastfeed after the baby gets here!!:) Its totally up to you! Your body will make what it needs to feed both babies:) hope that helps!!

Becca - posted on 03/15/2011

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When I was pregnant with my son (now 15 months old) I was nursing my 10 month old baby girl. My dr. told me to stop because it was taking away too many calories that I needed for the baby. But I kept nursing until she was a year old. I loved nursing my babies and never wanted to stop. They usually decided that table food was better than Mom but it was always nice while it lasted.

Anne - posted on 03/15/2011

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I nursed my daughter until she was 23 months - at which point I was six months pregnant with my son. I have to say the furher into the pregnancy the less my daughter wanted to nurse...I think there was a taste change and perhaps she picked up on a growing ambivalence from me. Personally i felt nursing her started to get more uncomfortable the further along I got as your breasts can get more sensitive and the hormones can cause more cramping. It wasn't awful, or dangerous in a healthy pregnancy, but I was glad we sort of mutually stopped when we did. I was ready, but she did get to stop on her own which is what I always wanted! I would have continued as long as she needed, and tandem nursed if it came to that. For what it's worth, a good friend had a similar experience and her son (whom she thought would wAnt to nurse forever) stopped nursing on his own when she was late in the second trimester and he wAs 22 months. Second trimester and 20-24 months seems to be a natural stopping point for those who do want to ease off.

Janis - posted on 03/15/2011

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For Sheila,
Do yourself and baby a favor if he/she was not bottle feeding before do not regress just start training him/her on a sippy cup. It will be much easier on you in the long run.
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Rebecca - posted on 03/15/2011

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Feeding 2 bubs at a time is called tandem feeding. You could google this to find out more information and your local breastfeeding association will be able to provide information. Used to be common when breastfeeding was the norm in the past before bottlefeeding became so common. The key thing to remember is what works for you.

Geraldine,(Gerry ) - posted on 03/15/2011

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I breast fed all my babys but only 5 to 6 months and I have a son and daughter that are 15 months apart.Maybe you can ask your Dr.and he can help you deside. Good luck

Sarah - posted on 03/15/2011

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I kept nursing my son during my pregnancy. I would have nursed him the whole time but around the time I was 5 months along my milk dried up. My doctor at the time told me it was fine to keep nursing, in fact both by family doc and the OBGYN told me it was totally fine to nurse.

Titilayo - posted on 03/15/2011

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i see no reason at all for you to stop nursing, just take it a step at a time..at a particular point in time, the baby might find the protudin tommy inconvenient and can decide to stop or better still u can decide to stop later when u no longer feel comfortable with it..good luck

Doreen - posted on 03/15/2011

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my baby is making 16 month tomorrow but i haven't thought of conceiving as soon. in our culture nursing while pregnant is seen as an outcast, you would either first wean the baby and conceive or if you conceived unknowingly you be requested to act immediately. but what am saying its all about you if it doesn't stress you go on and nurse you baby otherwise for me it would be too stressing.

Shiela Rizza - posted on 03/14/2011

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I'm still nursing my son who just turned 1 last saturday but when i found out that im already 4wks pregnant,my doctor advised me to stop nursing because i might experience miscarriage due to contraction when lactating...but i still find it hard to train him to bottle feeding...

Evaleen - posted on 03/14/2011

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As long as you still want to do it and your toddler still wants it, I would continue to breastfeed. I nursed throughout my second pregnancy and with my third, I had to stop due to my body's complications. Even then, I nursed until my 24th week. Good luck!

Diane - posted on 03/14/2011

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You can totally continue to nurse throughout your pregnancy and then nurse them both after the baby is born, I know many people who have done this and they love it. You can read about tandem nursing at the La Leche League website.

Petronilla - posted on 03/14/2011

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hi dear, mine is on a different note and hope you don't mind, i have a 14month old baby and have been trying to conceive for the past 4 months, any hints?

Lily - posted on 03/14/2011

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I nursed my son when pregnant with my daughter, He weaned himself when I was almost 7 months pregnant (he was 16 months old). My lactation consultant had told me this might happen because the consistency/taste of the milk changes as your pregnancy progresses (it reverts back to colostrum). For most women nursing while pregnant and/or tandem nursing is safe and great!

Melissa - posted on 03/14/2011

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It is totally what you are comfortable with! We got pregnant when our daughter was 11 months and was still nursing. She nursed and weaned when she was ready to. She weaned herself in about a week after she was 14 months. I think that she found my milk was changing and she just didn't want it anymore. She would go on for a few sucks and then off and on, etc, until she would get cranky about it. Do what feels right for you and your family!!!

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First off CONGRATS!! I was in pretty much the exact situation about a year ago. I got pregnant for baby #4 when baby #3 turned one. My OB was not super supportive and stated that my milk would "dry up" but I didn't feel like weaning right then. I went on to nurse, my pedi said that the milk changes around the 5th or 6th month and that she might just self wean. She had other ideas. She never slowed down her nursing and when she was 21 mos her baby brother was born, she was still nursing two to three times a day at that point.

My biggest "issue" was between 14 and 22ish weeks my nipples HURT when nursing, At that point I encouraged her to nurse less through the day. After that she had a bit of an obstacle as my growing belly got in the way but other than that no problems. For what it's worth my OB became rather accustomed to the idea and never questioned me again. I did make sure to take in enough calories and fluids as to not become dehydrated.

My baby is now 7 mos and my almost 27 mo old is still nursing strong (once or twice a day as time allows) they are both thriving. GL!

Mindy - posted on 03/13/2011

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I was in a similiar situation. I breastfed my oldest till he was 15 months (it was only once or twice per day by then), while I was 4 months pregnant. Past that, I found it a bit uncomfortable as my breasts were quite sore from the pregnancy. My oldest had no trouble weaning at all. The amount I could produce did go down the further along in the pregnancy I was, so that is a factor as well. One thing I would recommend is freezing some breastmilk for your second. We did, and were able to give that to him in the hospital while we waited for my milk to come in.

Emily - posted on 03/13/2011

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I think it depends on the 15 month old. My daughter was VERY attached to my breast and when I was pregnant, and she was 22 months, I had to wean her and it broke her heart. My son, now 12 months, isn't nearly as attached to the breast as she was, so I can see that weaning won't be a problem when I decide to do it. If you still have milk and don't mind tandem nursing, I'd say keep going!

Kate - posted on 03/13/2011

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Keep going as long as he is wanting to. Tandem nursing really cuts down on a lot of jealousy. I have seen very little between my kids (and even then, only when my son was old enough to steal toys and hit and stuff). I've been tandem nursing for almost 20 months and am 4 months pregnant too.

Courtney - posted on 03/09/2011

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I am due end of this month and still breastfeeding my 3 yr old.
I think she would have resented the baby had I stopped as she is sensitive to change. Also it is still a really handy parenting tool that I could not do without...a 3 min breastfeed in the afternoon before her nap ensures I get a 3 hour break while she naps :)

Dawn - posted on 03/08/2011

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I stopped nursing my 15 month old when I was 4 months pregnant because I was nervous that it would fuel jealousy but now that the new baby has arrived I think that wasn't necessary at all. I was high risk because of blood pressure but I never got early contractions from nursing and my older daughter adores the baby and is dealing very well with the amount of time I am devoting to the new baby as I'm nursing her on demand. I think it's entirely up to you :o) I would only stop if you feel your 15 month old and you are equally ready to give it up.

Kelly - posted on 03/08/2011

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I am expecting our six child in two weeks and our youngest just turned 21month, I nursed him throughout my pregnancy. He has weaned mostly himself now and only wants to nurse once every couple weeks. I did find it hard to nurse it hurt but I wanted to do want was best for him and had planned to nurse him until he was least 2. He didn't seem to like the taste and started to have to have water after everytime he nursed as my milk got very salty. I have decided that if he really feels the need to start agian when the baby's here that I will probably let him as I don't want him to think that he is being replaced.

Kyla - posted on 03/08/2011

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I am 28 weeks and my son is 18 months I weaned him at 15 months because my breast became very tender in this pregnacy. He didnt have any problem with being weaned he had become very busy and he was only nursing for about five to ten minutes at a time and it was for comfort when he was tired so I replaced it with snuggle time.

Cheri - posted on 03/08/2011

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Im 3 and a half months prgnant with a 16 month old and I am still nursing too. From the reading Ive done, its no big deal, just drink lots of milk and eat healthy. So long as your gaining weight there shouldnt be a problem. Ive just cut my guy don a bit, he only has boo boo once or twice a day. I feel that taking it away abruptly will just cause issues, so slowly before the baby comes I am taking it away. But really they say that tandom breast feeding is fine too.

Terra - posted on 03/08/2011

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Keep going girl. I breastfed my first one when I was pregnant with my second. Contrary to some opinions....it does not hurt your baby or take anything away from them. It was wonderful and I highly recommend it.

Ashley - posted on 03/07/2011

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I was exactly the same as you and still breastfeeding. My DD gave it up on her own at 16 months because the taste of the milk changes when you hit 4-5 months preggo. DD is almost 23 months and our new little girl is 5 weeks and EBF and doing great!

Ashley - posted on 03/07/2011

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I was exactly the same as you and still breastfeeding. My DD gave it up on her own at 16 months because the taste of the milk changes when you hit 4-5 months preggo. DD is almost 23 months and our new little girl is 5 weeks and EBF and doing great!

Caithlin - posted on 03/07/2011

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personally if i was pregnant i would continue to breastfeed. my daughter is 18 months and we are still breastfeeding. ive met alot of moms who have nursed their new baby and their toddlers. i also know a mother who weened her daughter while she was pregnant because she was uncomfortable and was also having problems with thrush. she said she regretted weening her daughter and wished she was still breastfeeding. every family is different and so is every child. and what might not work for one family might work for another. ultimately its all what works for you! but if you dont have any problems nursing both then i would continue, your body will make enough milk to support the need! you might want to find a la leche league group near you or see if your hospital has a breastfeeding support group, they could help you make the right decision that best works for you! which ever you choose to do good luck! and congradulations on the new addition (on the way) to your family!

Michelle - posted on 03/07/2011

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You can keep going. I was pregnant while nursing with all of my kids. My doctor said it was fine. Eventually the taste of your milk will change for the new baby and you may find that your 15 month old weans themselves or that your milk supply drops from being pregnant. Other then that it should be fine.

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Why not continue? At 15 months, your son is eating solid foods, so you are nursing equally for bonding and nutrition. If you and your son both want to continue, then by all means do that. Besides, if you stop before he wants, then your son might feel he's being "replaced" by the younger sibling and feel resentful. My advice, let him lead so long as you have energy to keep nursing both.

Laura - posted on 03/07/2011

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I got pregnant when dd was 13 months. I continued to nurse. I have noticed that now that I am 33 weeks pregnant I just produce colostrum. DD(20 months) is still happy to have her nursies though. She is down to nursing just once a day but I fully expect her to pick back up when the milk comes back.

Tina - posted on 03/07/2011

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I was breastfeeding and pregant... its really hard it takes alot out of u.. BUT.... u can do it if thats what u feel like u want to do.... my daughter stopped nursing around the time i got about 4months... she would just push me away(the taste of ur milk changes)... my milk now is pure colostrum(a very strong strong colostrum)...and that mayb y she quit .... dont bet urself up over it u have got the most important time to BF over with .... U make ur mind up what u want to do and go 4 it..... just dont get upset if ur baby stops on there own

Tina - posted on 03/07/2011

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I was breastfeeding and pregant... its really hard it takes alot out of u.. BUT.... u can do it if thats what u feel like u want to do.... my daughter stopped nursing around the time i got about 4months... she would just push me away(the taste of ur milk changes)... my milk now is pure colostrum(a very strong strong colostrum)...and that mayb y she quit .... dont bet urself up over it u have got the most important time to BF over with .... U make ur mind up what u want to do and go 4 it..... just dont get upset if ur baby stops on there own

Victoria - posted on 03/07/2011

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I'm 24 weeks pregnant and weaned my daughter (who is 16 months now) about 5 weeks ago. But she decided she really like real food better anyway and nursing wasn't as good a snuggling (she's not a big snuggle kid unless it's naptime or bedtime).
But I really wanted her to finish nursing before she was 16 months old to keep her from being overly territorial towards me. I'm really glad she was read to wean because little baby spends all her time pushing on my stomach and lungs. I would have had to kick big girl off anyway because I can't breathe.
It's really up to you. I have no desire to nurse a toddler and an infant. Especially since my toddler has 8 teeth and is finally gaining weight eating real food.

Debby - posted on 03/07/2011

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Personally I'd carry on, as my preference is to let my children self-wean. I BF DD1 through my pregnancy with DD2 and carried on to tandem feed for 16 months. I was still tandem feeding when I fell pregnant again, but it's really hit my supply this time and DD1 has now stopped (she was gradually stopping anyway, I think this just hastened it along a bit). I'm now 17 weeks and DD2 (18 months) is still BF. I'm hoping I'll be tandem feeding again come August.

Tiffany - posted on 03/06/2011

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No reason to wean at all...

I tandem nursed mine for almost a year, before my older Little decided she was ready to wean.

Tandem covers so many varieties of options, you can find out what works for you to meet the needs of BOTH your kiddos. Your 15 month old IS still a baby, and still needs both nutrition and comfort from you - especially with the upheaval coming of adding a sibling.

Some moms like the ease of nursing them both at once (at least some of the time) to "get it over with" all at once... I wasn't much into that, and almost always nursed them separately.

Get with your local La Leche League... :)

Lisa - posted on 03/06/2011

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My son turned 2 yesterday, I'm 7 months pregnant, and he still nurses on occasion. As long as it's not incredibly painful for you, no reason to stop. Check out the book "Adventures in Tandem Nursing" for some great info on nursing while pregnant.

Emily - posted on 03/06/2011

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I would suggest just reducing the number of feedings to something that you feel like you can handle once you have a new baby. I am expecting in about 2 months, and my toddler is down to about twice a day. It all depends on what you feel would work best for you as a mom. You still have time to reduce the feedings gradually, and your baby is right at the age where it will probably get easier and easier to nurse less. Then keep going as long as you both want to!

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