3 month old refusing to breastfeed at times

Maria - posted on 03/08/2009 ( 12 moms have responded )

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Sometimes he will just get mad and refuses the breast I have been pumping and giving the bottle when he refuses and he will take the bottle. Or I mix formula, which I don't like to do but its easier than having to fight with him.

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Nikki - posted on 03/12/2009

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Hi I have been having the same problem... my baby will be 12 weeks tomorrow. I have been pumping and giving her bottles and only nursing a couple times a day because she takes FOREVER to nurse... an hour or more. So when I need to be somewhere at a certain time I dont have time to sit there for hours nursing her. The problem is that now she is refusing to nurse more and more.. when i just put her near my breast or lay her on the boppy she starts screaming and the only way to calm her is to end up bottlefeeding. I don't have milk stored up, though, and so have to give her formula to quiet her down... so now I'm making less milk. Does anyone have any advice? Do anyone else's babies take this long to nurse? Has anyone tried using the Avent natural flow nipples that supposedly help with nippl confusion? thanks!!

Melissa - posted on 03/08/2009

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I had the same problem when my daughter was that old. I would use a pacifier and bring her real close to my breast then quickly switch my nipple with the pacifier. It worked most times. She stopped refusing as quickly as it started. If you keep giving the bottle he will start to prefer that over the breast because it is easier to get milk from, he is doing less work. Be patient and consistent, it will get better.

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Ashley - posted on 03/12/2009

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Things that have also helped me cause my daughter also refused to eat for a little while was taking her to bed with me and i gave her as much skin to skin contact as possible as well as getting in the bath tub and nursing her! Also another really good one was to wait till she was really sleepy and then try to nurse her cause then she was just too tired to fight it hehehe ya gotta love trickyness

Ashley - posted on 03/12/2009

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Quoting Nikki:



Hi I have been having the same problem... my baby will be 12 weeks tomorrow. I have been pumping and giving her bottles and only nursing a couple times a day because she takes FOREVER to nurse... an hour or more. So when I need to be somewhere at a certain time I dont have time to sit there for hours nursing her. The problem is that now she is refusing to nurse more and more.. when i just put her near my breast or lay her on the boppy she starts screaming and the only way to calm her is to end up bottlefeeding. I don't have milk stored up, though, and so have to give her formula to quiet her down... so now I'm making less milk. Does anyone have any advice? Do anyone else's babies take this long to nurse? Has anyone tried using the Avent natural flow nipples that supposedly help with nippl confusion? thanks!!






They make a bottle called the Adiri bottle and that is a lot like the breast I have also found that the playex drop in bottles have worked really well! But I would also reccommend that you just try to watch her for cues of hunger like turning head from side to side , hands in mouth and so on so that you catch her before she is crying out of frustration... also a good tthing that I have tried was wallking around the house and nursing the movement helps to calm her down and then once shes calmed herself try sitting then.... but its definately true that the baby could start to prefer the bottle flow over the breast flow they definately dont have to work as hard to get instant gratification..... also a thought about the pacifier and they definately might not be true with every baby but a pacifier can also lead to early weaning because they will also use the breast to pacify/comfort themselves and that will help keep supply

Þórey - posted on 03/11/2009

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hi there :)

I have the same issue with my almot 4 months old. He gets all worked up if he´s very hungry and if something irritates him (he has a 2 1/2 year old sister...) I need to walk around calming him down and usually it takes quite a while for him to be ready for feeding again. He doesnt like a pacifier or a bottle so...

Anyway, I have asked a nurse about this and she sais if he´s gaining weight normally and wetting his diapers I have nothing to worry about :) it´s mostly temper ;)

good luck and you know: it really does pass :o)

Rebecca - posted on 03/11/2009

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Quoting Maria:



Gave in to the bottle again last night, he was hungry and woulnd't breastfeed. I pumped and gave him the bottle.






Just don't consider it a failure.  You are doing the best you can for your baby.  Every mom gets tired and wore out!  Today is another day!



 

Maria - posted on 03/11/2009

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Gave in to the bottle again last night, he was hungry and woulnd't breastfeed. I pumped and gave him the bottle.

Maria - posted on 03/09/2009

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I feed him on demand, I do the pacifier thing too sometimes it works.  I have considered spending a day in bed with him. I think Crystal may also be right, when he is very hungry he will want the bottle instead and its too much work to breastfeed.

Katie - posted on 03/08/2009

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Hi Maria! Do you feed him on demand, or to a schedule? If you're feeding to schedule, it could just be that he's not hungry enough to make the effort. Or... he could be very hungry, and showing preference for the 'easy option' for him: the bottle teat is much easier to get milk out of than a nipple, and he may be feeling 'lazy', or desperate for instant gratification, or he could be suffering nipple confusion.

If this were happening to me, I'd personally dump the bottles and pumps, and spend a couple of days chilling out, curled up on the bed with him, skin-to-skin, to get back on track. Bear in mind too, that every ounce of formula you give your baby is in effect signalling to your brain to produce that much less breast milk. That combined with his current preference for silicon teats could lead him to wean early. Try contacting La Leche League for help - they're brilliant!

Good luck!

Kathryn - posted on 03/08/2009

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3 month olds actually go on "strike" quite often. Just stick with it, things will pass soon!

Crystal - posted on 03/08/2009

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well i had some experience with this when my baby was about 1 month old...you just have to be patient...sometimes they just want to eat so bad and they get all worked up...or it could possibly be something you ate and your child doesnt like the way you breast milk tastes. thats when freezing pumped breast milk comes in handy. but the best advice i can give you is to be patient!

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