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Okay so I have 2 concerns. My apologies if I should have started two conversations to cover them. The first one. My son was born August 27 of 2010. He weighed 8'1. That was a pretty big baby for me. I am 5'3 and 135 and I worked out very intensely up until my 7 month with him. He is bf obviously, and just turned 5 months a few days ago. He weighs 12 pounds. Is this okay? I know that my doctor is going to flip and demand that I put him on formula..Yes she sucks, and yes I am in the process of finding a new one. My son nurses every 2 hours, and has since he was about 2 months. He likes to get on and get off. He is more of a snacker I guess you could say. He is reaching all of his milestones. He pees at LEAST 6 to 8 times a day and has one or two bowel movements a week. He is alert and happy and looks healthy except that he's not fat. This is the first child that I have had the opportunity to bf with so I am having trouble knowing what is normal and what is not. Now onto problem # 2.
So I have no issue nursing in public...or correction I HAD no issue nursing in public. It started with my husband asking me not to nurse in front of his grandad when we were at his house because he worried that it would offend his grandad. His logic was that we were at his grandad's house and that it wouldn't hurt anyone for me to feed the baby in the other room, so I complied. Then it turned into please don't feed the baby out in public because I don't want people seeing your body. We have had many fallouts over it. His logic is that it will not hurt me or anyone else for me to feed the baby in the car bathroom etc, but it could offend, make someone uncomfortable or cause someone to "stumble" for me to do it in public. He makes me so uncomfotable and riled that I have to have him leave the room at times so that I can let down specifically when we are out. I actually get so stressed that I can't let down in his presence. He is by no means a jerk even though this post makes him sound like one. He is really very kind and caring and does his best to make sure that I am happy and comfortable, but this is a real issue. I don't know how to handle it. At church I have to go into one of the empty rooms and feed the baby in a little kids chair. It is so uncomfortable and just pisses me off. His body issues are becoming my body issues. I don't know that I could feed the baby in public now even if I had the opportunity. Advice is most welcome.