All the brilliant reasons why you should NOT breastfeed

Marcy - posted on 12/23/2009 ( 256 moms have responded )

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Thought we could all use a laugh to end this year. Let's all chime in with some of the funniest, most insane, dare I say "stupid" and just plain silly advice/reasons we have been told NOT to nurse. BTW, I have a 3 and a half year old who is still on the boob (for 5 minutes per day) so you can only imagine the sound advice I have gotten...

I will start...This comes from my Grandmother who is 92 years old...."Are you still breastfeeding THAT child? Your boob is going to fall off and then your huaband will not want to be married to you."

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Quoting Lise:



Quoting Nicole:

My Mom had a hard time when she was breastfeeding my little sister. (I was 13 when my little sis was born, so I was old enough to see for myself.) Her nipples looked like the cracked bottom of Death Valley and she said they hurt really badly. Not only that, but Sierra (lil' sis') wasn't getting something she needed from Mom's milk. So she had to put her on formula. This was confirmed by the doctor, not just my Mom thinking she wasn't getting some nourishment that she needed. My Mom says that I should watch out because the same might happen to me. Any advice? How do I keep the Death Valley nipples at bay? lol I've also been told because my boobs are so small that I won't produce enough milk? Though now at 25 weeks they're finally starting to grow... A little.. ? Help?





Breast size has nothing to do with milk production, so don't worry about that.  Lanolin will help moisturize your nipples, but breast milk itself works best to heal nipples.  






 






Many doctors are not as informed about bfing and bf babies as they should be...  Malnourished moms in many places can effectively feed their babies, so I have a hard time believing someone's milk wasn't enough.






they make these nipples to cover your nippels...  kinda weird at first but if you get a pinch or crack that realy hurts they can help, but try not to use untill baby has established latching and try not to use to often because they seem to affect how baby sucks and confuse her a bit. 



 



dyr/sensivitive skin runs in my family and as far as i know breast milk left on the nipple will keep infections away and sooth pain and aid healing. 



 



if all else fails, pick a new bra and just lather the inside with lanolin.  lanolin is great for the cracks i get in my hads in the dead winters, just another thought.

Laura - posted on 12/29/2009

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Quoting Rebecca:

My mother said "you were bottle feed and just fine. You don't want everyone to see you now do you?" Whatever. I am now nursing my 5th child who is 11 mths old. :)


That is interesting Rebecca - what did she mean by "you don't want everyone to see you now do you?"?  See you what? 



Good for you on number 5!!!

Justine - posted on 12/29/2009

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Oh man that made my heart stop for a second, i was all ready to lash out until i kept reading!

My 11 month old has never had a bottle and i have no intentions of ever giving a bottle to any of my children. i have heard everything from "well dont you want a social life?" (ya in the instruction manual i got when i had him there was a whole section about what a hopping social life a single mother has!) to "your still nursing that baby?!" (hes not even a year old!) and my personal favourite, from the most insightful person i know, "you can nurse him to sleep when hes 18!" really? i cant? well ill tell him that when he asks.

Elanor - posted on 12/29/2009

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first get baby checked for tongue tie, my 2nd had this, and was very fussy, also he may be getting too much foremilk (which can be caused by bad latch or over supply). try to feed him 2 feeds per side (the fore milk isn't fatty, and has more lactosse which can cause wind, thus making baby sore and not wanting to feed) Good luck and don't hesitate to ask again more advice

Morgan - posted on 12/29/2009

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Quoting Tessa:

A WIC counselor told me I HAD to start formula feeding, because I'm only producing 17-20 oz a day (I pump exclusively). She said he might be gaining well now, but eventually he will need to eat more and more breastmilk. Apparently she didn't get the memo that breastfed babies don't drink more and more milk like formula fed babies, but the MILK itself changes to suit their needs so they still eat smaller amounts when compared to formula fed babies. Geesh.


Really??? I didn't know that.

Elanor - posted on 12/29/2009

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Incidently, the same friend was gobsmacked when I told her my 2nd son at 1 week (who is now 6 months) only wakes up once or twice a night. Her reply was (and this is classic) 'And are you breastfeeding him or feeding him properly?' - bemused I was.

Elanor - posted on 12/29/2009

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LOL I nearly went crazy when I saw your post!!! Nothing like a bit of tongue n Cheek! Your grandmother does a fab one - I will have to share that if you don't mind! (I work at a support and info group). Ok 'you are too flat chested' my friend was told (she's 60, and didn't breastfeed any of hers on the back of that advice).

My friend told me (when my 1st son was 4 weeks old) 'If you give him some REAL food he will sleep better'!!! (obviously formula is more perfect for a baby than the milk my body made for it!!!)

Meagan - posted on 12/29/2009

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Quoting Lisa:

My family is very pro-breast feeding, but my grandma seems to think that feeding every two hours is too often, she always says "your feeding her again?!"



Hahaha! I had the same thing happen to me! "You're feeding that baby too often!" Silly people! He was hungry! And now he goes 3-5 hrs and is EXTREMLY healthy. And chubby!

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Quoting kristen:

My mother in-law asked me once (while I was feeding my 1 mo old son after just feeding him an hour before) "He is OBVIOUSLY not eating enough! You need to give him a bottle...how do you know he is getting enough out of there?!"....My son was born at 7lbs. 10ozs, never lost any of his birth weight, and by a month he weighed almost 14 lbs. and was quite the chubster!

He newest thing, that has been going on since he was 2 months old (he is almost 5 months now) "When are you going to start giving him cereal and/or water? Isn't he thirsty?!" haha



I heard the exact same thing from my mother-in-law... She kept insisting that I mix cereal into milk that I had pumped for my baby at 2 months. My babies were 8 11 and 9 3 and never lost weight either. She thinks it is totally strange that I breastfeed for one year and wait until they are 6 months to introduce cereals.

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A really common one that I have heard is that breastfed babies won't sleep through the night... What a joke. My kids both slept through the night at 3 months, just like any other baby. Also, I have had several people say that breasfed babies can not be put on a schedule, and that you need to just nurse them any time they cry so you will have adequate milk. Totally bogus. People forget that the baby needs to actually be hungry when they go to the breast or they will only take in the foremilk, not the rich fatty hindmilk. And also, you do not need to pop the kid on your boob every time they cry! I have had soooo many people go "Oh, he must be hungry" just because he is crying... Nope, kids cry for other reasons. I am finding some of these responses quite funny!

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i had like negative a's haha i hugged my husband with my sternum lol 3 days after he was born they went to DD i breastfed just fine

Tessa - posted on 12/29/2009

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A WIC counselor told me I HAD to start formula feeding, because I'm only producing 17-20 oz a day (I pump exclusively). She said he might be gaining well now, but eventually he will need to eat more and more breastmilk. Apparently she didn't get the memo that breastfed babies don't drink more and more milk like formula fed babies, but the MILK itself changes to suit their needs so they still eat smaller amounts when compared to formula fed babies. Geesh.

Kristen - posted on 12/29/2009

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I will never understand why others look at a nursing mother as "awkward" or "unnatural"

I wouldn't trade this experience for anything in the world. Others have also said that my son would always be a "momma's boy" and wouldn't ever be able to go out on his own :/ this morning, and frequently throughout our days, he will play all by himself and just babble at himself and his toys. He is very good at entertaining himself and actually gets irritated and whiny if I hold him too much! He likes to know mommy is around, but he doesn't get upset when I let him play by himself.

Kristen - posted on 12/29/2009

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My mother in-law asked me once (while I was feeding my 1 mo old son after just feeding him an hour before) "He is OBVIOUSLY not eating enough! You need to give him a bottle...how do you know he is getting enough out of there?!"....My son was born at 7lbs. 10ozs, never lost any of his birth weight, and by a month he weighed almost 14 lbs. and was quite the chubster!



He newest thing, that has been going on since he was 2 months old (he is almost 5 months now) "When are you going to start giving him cereal and/or water? Isn't he thirsty?!" haha

Mattee - posted on 12/29/2009

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Quoting Laura:



Quoting Kayla:

You all sound very knowledgeful about breastfeeding. I am breastfeeding my first child and he has been going strong for 3 1/2 months. I would love to continue breastfeeding him, but it seems like he is never satisfied throughout the day. He fusses hen latched on and sometimes goes 6 hours during the day without eating. He has been only eating for like 5 min. total was told I might have to switch to formula. I really don't want to.
I just want to know from you ladies if my son is just going through a faze. Will he become better throughout the day? Did any of your children do this? I'm sorry I am just getting worried!






there are TONS of reasons why this may be happening and none of them require formula






1  he may be teething so the sucktion hurts, nothing to worry about just try something cold for him to chew on when he breaks latch






2 he might not like the taste of something you eat






3 he might be an efficiant eater which means he eats very quickly and then is done, mine went through a fase of efficien eating, like only 5 min at a time






4 he might be sensing stress in you so relax






5 he might not like the position you hold him in, try putting his arm behind you or tucking it to his chest, try placing his hips on the side, or letting him lay on his back with just his neck turned, or even more on his tummy with his head held up by your hand






6 he might be hot or cold try swaddling or unswaddling him






7 he might not like the noise or lack of noise when you feed him






8 try rocking while you feed him or singing or humming






9 talk to la leche league or look on their website for more options






 






dont rush to formula trust your body to work it out and stay confident, your boobs can do it!!






We went through this too, though my son is only 6 weeks old, and our problem was foremilk/hindmilk imbalance which was caused by my feeding him wrong (only 15 min per side which was what the hospital told me to do and it made him very sick....) But also with the imbalance, the pattern I was feeding him in was making me over produce milk, and when my let down would happen my milk was spraying out so fast it would choke him... It made feeding very hard as he would fight my breast. He also was quite fussy and it was because I was only feeding him 15 min per side and he was only getting the watery foremilk, and he would eat until he was full, but it was like he was full of water.... So maybe try block feedings where you only feed from one breast and let the baby eat until he pulls off. Good luck and don't give up! :)

Mattee - posted on 12/29/2009

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"The thought of a baby sucking on me just grosses me out! I can't believe you think that's ok"



That's what my boss said when I told her I wasn't going to bottle feed.... Weirdo.

Molli - posted on 12/29/2009

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I breastfeed my youngest until he was 1 . The only reason i stoped was because i got sick and the meds. i was on he couldnt have.

April - posted on 12/29/2009

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I have a 26 month old that I nursed until a week after her first birthday. And a 5 1/2 month old that I am still nursing. (and plan to until she's a year). After reading a couple replies I had to laugh out loud because I am going through the same as everyone else.

Those of you that have nursed more than a year, Congrats! I couldn't personally do it. (Plus we wanted to try for a second and I wasn't getting pregnant while nursing) (Yes that's right, even though some say it's a myth, I prove that 'myth' wrong. I wasn't on BC with my first daughter and needless to say my husband didn't use a back up method, and I never got pregnant. I stopped nursing for 1 week and I was pregnant!)



Anyway back to the 'comments'

The one I always get still to this day is

1. She's needs the tit, ( I hate that word 'tit')

2. Look at you, your mother never feeds you (My youngest at her 4 month visit was 16lbs 6oz, 26 3/4 in. long. She's getting plenty)

3. You are only pumping 3oz, she's not getting enough milk. *My oldest has always been petite and still is, but she nursed every 3 hours until she was on solids)

4. You need to cover up or go in the other room while nursing. (With my first I did cover up or go into the other room, because I was kind of uncomfortable, but now I'll nurse anywhere, I do have a shall that I purchased at WalMart for $11, that I do use. Those that support me I'll ask if they are uncomfortable with me nursing my baby, and out of respect for them I cover up or if I'm in a room with our teen male cousins) My husband's more worried about people starring at my boobs that nursing in front of people.



Basically, I wasn't supported by some of my family members. But my husband and his family were extremely supportive! I have overcome those that don't support me and I now tell them that I am tired of hearing that my youngest is hungry because I don't feed her enough *when I pump close to 5-6oz* or that baby needs the tit.

Both of my daughters are Very healthy. My oldest did come down withthe flu this year and my youngest didn't. This was the only time that she has ever been sick! (25 months with no sickness) And both of them are growing like weeds.



Mothers that nurse for a month or less and stop, because they are selfish ANNOY me! (You know the ones I speak of, I need a drink so I can't nurse, or I just can't do it) If you enjoy a glass of wine now and then, pump, have the baby drink that and you can have your wine. Their respone to that is it's just too much work nursing and pumping!

I have never made a bottle for my first (well she never had a bottle but was on a sippy cup at the age of 6months.) My second is on a bottle while I go to Karate 2-3 times a week (breastmilk only) but she just started to experience a sippy cup!



This was nice getting it all out, and having others understand just what I'm going through!

Elizabeth - posted on 12/29/2009

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My 65 year old aunt told me "You are still Nursing her !!!!!!" and then the dirty look and that she didn't nurse her boys and they are all just fine!.... oh and it's gross... having a child on your private parts.... ( my daughter is 14 mo now and still nursing. this was when she was a year old ..lol )

Elizabeth - posted on 12/29/2009

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My 65 year old aunt told me "You are still Nursing her !!!!!!" and then the dirty look and that she didn't nurse her boys and they are all just fine!.... oh and it's gross... having a child on your private parts.... ( my daughter is 14 mo now and still nursing. this was when she was a year old ..lol )

Nira - posted on 12/29/2009

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When my baby was 4 days old she wouldn’t breastfeed and only wanted to sleep. It made her jaundice worsen so we took her to her pediatrician. He immediately said I wasn’t feeding her right and that maybe I should try formula. He also sent us to the emergency room because he said she was too dehydrated. Luckily at the ER there was a very good pro-breastfeeding pediatrician who told me I was doing just fine and that sometimes babies go one strikes like that and that I should extract the milk even with my hands and use a spoon to feed her so that she’d develop a taste for it. He really encouraged me not give up and even gave me some pointers as to how to get her to eat more. Then when she was 4 moths old a friend who hated breastfeeding and had switched to complete formula feeding after 3 months phoned as I was feeding my LO. When she asked what I was doing and I said breastfeeding she said, ‘I didn’t think you were such a “fanatic” for breastfeeding.’ I thought it was really funny as for BF moms 4 months is nothing and for formula moms 4 months is forever…

Francesca - posted on 12/29/2009

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Wow, I am glad to know other BFing moms are laughing off the horrible advice just the same.



My sister in law, who is also breastfeeding her five month old asked me the other week what I was doing now since my baby was nearly 8 months? I asked what she meant and she clarified that her pediatrician told her breast milk is nolonger nutritious after six months. I then sent her the WHO report on nutrition for babies 6-23 months. I hope I won her over. But she thinks I am a hippie...

Tarah - posted on 12/28/2009

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I had it very good as the hospital that i had my baby in is very pro breast feeding they helped so much and everyone was so supportive it made it easy to do. they also gave me alot of into before i had the baby which helped.

but it really annoys me that people think breastfeeding is bad i mean your boobs just naturally produce milk when you have a baby so does it not make sense that we are supposed to breast feed???

Kristie - posted on 12/28/2009

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My first daughter wouldn't eat with the lanolin junk on. Plus it didn't help all that much. I just had to suck it up and stick with it.

A breastfeeding consultant recommended Ameda brand Comfort Gel Hydrogel Pads. GREATEST INVENTION EVER! They worked like nothing else. I used them with my second daughter who has an incredibly strong suck and sucked all the skin off my nipples. My nipples healed in just a few days and hardly bothered me at all. It only when she'd first latch on and trigger my let down, after she'd get going it was fine.

Jessica - posted on 12/28/2009

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These are a few reasons I have heard from people for them not breastfeeding- " I don't want to take my nipple rings out". " I'm not a cow , I don't want something hanging off my boob all day." " I'm not gunna breast feed cos then I can't go out drinking in the weekend" . I personally think it is sad that they made the choice to have babies and then gave such selfish reasons for not giving thier babies the best start they could. Once you have kids the last thing you should be is selfish..... You have to put your kids first not only with breast feeding but in all aspects. On another note my little girls were/are both healthy chubby breast fed bubbies and my doctors visits and hospital trips are almost non existant as apposed to some of the mum's who gave these reasons. Makes me glad for the choices I made!!

Amanda - posted on 12/28/2009

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I have a list...

Babies can't survive on just breastmilk esp if you are "having" to nurse every 2-3 hours ( a newborn)..um sure! my oldest bf every 2-3 hours until she was 14 months old and seemed to do just fine

Just after my daughter was a year old my husband had open heart surgery in a different city so we left her with my mother. At that time she still nursed all day and all night and would eat what she decided to eat during the day. My mother was so excited that she got to keep her for 2 weeks so she could "fatten her up" with REAL FOOD. Are you kidding me? After we got home my daughter had gained about 6 lbs in 2 weeks. Thanks mom!

My BIL asked me what I was going to do with my nursing toddler once the new baby came ( I was about 3 months preg). I didn't really know what to say so I just said well I guess if he still wants to nurse we will take turns or he can manage to work around the new baby since he already has such great jungle gym skills on my breasts.

And my favorite....
If they are old enough to ask for it then they obviously don't need it!! So when my 2 day old cries and I think she is asking for "it" I shouldn't feed her and just let her cry it out? I'm confused! Both of my children were EBF for the first 7-8 months and then we just added food as they grabbed for it. My youngest is currently 19 months old and still nurses about 6 times a day and since we cosleep he could nurse all night and I would be none the wiser :) Happy breastfeeding! I love this thread too!

Tarah - posted on 12/28/2009

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Quoting Nicole:

My Mom had a hard time when she was breastfeeding my little sister. (I was 13 when my little sis was born, so I was old enough to see for myself.) Her nipples looked like the cracked bottom of Death Valley and she said they hurt really badly. Not only that, but Sierra (lil' sis') wasn't getting something she needed from Mom's milk. So she had to put her on formula. This was confirmed by the doctor, not just my Mom thinking she wasn't getting some nourishment that she needed. My Mom says that I should watch out because the same might happen to me. Any advice? How do I keep the Death Valley nipples at bay? lol I've also been told because my boobs are so small that I won't produce enough milk? Though now at 25 weeks they're finally starting to grow... A little.. ? Help?



for the 1st week with my baby my nipples were sore but if you latch the baby on properly it would last for long my midwife said dont use creams because the breast milk will act as a natural cream and it seemed to work well but i dont think it hurts to use creams if it makes you feel better.



Also dont worry about the size of your boobs as the milk ducts go right back my books where tiny before i had my baby he is 7 weeks old now and has put on 7 pound and on about day 3 i woke up and my boobs were huge!!!  Yay. but it does help to read up about breast feeding and learn how to latch your baby before the baby is born. because it makes it alot easier to learn when your not stressed about it. 

Amanda - posted on 12/28/2009

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Quoting Kacy:

The saddest part of this whole thing is that MANY women believe this nonsense. Particularly coming from healthcare professionals. We are a very pro-nursing family.(I nursed one for 2 1/2 yrs. and had hoped to tandem, but I totally dried up during my 8th month preg.) But my poor daughter became very discouraged when the pediatrician started giving her FREE CANS OF FORMULA! I wanted to strangle the woman. My daughter stuck it out, but she worried because her son was in the"5th percentile".
Oh, and don't get me started on that F'ing chart!



I just had to second that chart!!! Both of my kids were total chunky monkeys...until about 9 months and then bam! They fell right down the chart.  My pediatrician ( who was totally supportive of extended breastfeeding) had me bring my oldest in for a couple of months in a row to keep her weight in check since she had dropped so much on the weight chart.  Both of the other (heighth and head) were aligned as far as he was concerned.  I printed my alternative exclusively breastfed babies chart to him and pointed out that she had not in fact dropped and was just par for the course! Needless to say that when my second child "fell off" the chart we didn't have this problem LOL Stupid charts!

Morgan - posted on 12/28/2009

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Well i'm happy for having read this. it's good to kno that i'm not the only one thats experienced a difficult time with my first. i had issues from the start and only one nurse would help me (tho it wasnt enough) and the hospitals lactation consultant was away til i left! then wic really didnt offer support unless i asked and then only minimum. he's 5 months old and were still working to increase my milk supply so i can quit supplementing!

during all my struggles, only my hubby supported me and even my mom just kept saying that i would do anything not to nurse him.

thanks girls!

Rachel - posted on 12/28/2009

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I breastfed my son until he was 2 1/2 when I dried up due to 2nd pregnancy! He was always in the 95th or higher percentile, and VERY healthy. I have been told, and ridiculed, about my breastfeeding that my son would be a "pervert" because he saw my breasts so much. That I would still be nursing him in college, that he was getting nothing from my milk after 1 year...amazing how your body keeps a clock and at exactly 1 year, cuts off all nutrients! That he would never wean cause now that he knows where to get them, he'd keep going back. Yes, he still asks, but I just tell him he drank them all and they are empty. He's ok with that! Not a lot of support from people about nursing past 1 year here, but I was told by the health nurse, etc, how advantages it is for both me, and my son. The extended benefits are amazing! I will breastfeed my next as long as she wants, and will let her self wean. If we weren't supposed to keep breastfeeding, we'd dry up! I love breastfeeding and find it a calming, wonderful bonding time. My son is better off because of it, and I'm happier having given him all I could! :) But I agree with the last statement, it's a personal decision, and if it's right for you....do it!

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Ok so I didn't BF for many reasons but I thought this post was very funny. I completely believe in BF & I also believe it's best for baby. Please don't be to hard on me for not BF I wish I could have. So with that being said when I got pregnant with my now 8 month old & my husband & I were trying to decide if I should try nursing again or not & weighing out wheather or not I wanted to torture myself if it didn't work out again. So when we finally decided our best choice was to just start out with formula my husband said "that's ok hon boobs are for fun, not food"! I was laughing so hard & it was just his way of trying to make me feel better & to let me know that my boobs where still good for something. Boobs are obviously there to feed your baby not to make your hubby happy. I just had to share that. (-;

Erin - posted on 12/28/2009

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With my first son, my husband was stationed in California. The doctor that saw me through that pregnancy asked me at the first visit if I intended to breastfeed. I said yes so he checked to make sure I didn't have inverted nipples. His comment after checking was thet I had perfectly designed breasts for breastfeeding. I grinned and almost said "moo" to him. He was so supportive of breastfeeding.

My second son was born in South Dakota as my husband had been assigned recruiting duty here. The doctor we saw during my son's first few weeks was actually fairly discouraging so I'm glad I had the experience under my belt (or boobs! :-D). As my son was hovering right around the "concern" level for weight loss after birth, she wanted to do a couple of extra weight checks. Fine, except she didn't need to imply that my milk wasn't coming in and if he didn't gain it back fast enough that he'd need formula. She didn't say it outright, but I wonder how many first time moms give up with her attitude. He's 8 months old now and is active and still breastfeeding.

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I was told by the nurse once my daughter was 12mths that the only reason I would be breastfeeding from now on is for my own benefit. Appariently there was no benefit for my daughter. I was quiet upset but thought things would just get harder if I kept going... Looking back I would've liked to have kept going for another 6mths or at least cut the feeds down instead of stopping cold turkey to help establish her own immune system better. As soon as I stopped it was a long line of colds for a good year....

My sister in law had low milk production and was told by the nurse that if she formula fed her baby the baby would grow up dumb!!!! Yes would you believe it that is what the nurse has said to a woman who was already stressing out about her newborn not getting enough food...She went on to continue breastfeeding and supplementing with formula also.

Amanda - posted on 12/28/2009

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Quoting Nicole:

My Mom had a hard time when she was breastfeeding my little sister. (I was 13 when my little sis was born, so I was old enough to see for myself.) Her nipples looked like the cracked bottom of Death Valley and she said they hurt really badly. Not only that, but Sierra (lil' sis') wasn't getting something she needed from Mom's milk. So she had to put her on formula. This was confirmed by the doctor, not just my Mom thinking she wasn't getting some nourishment that she needed. My Mom says that I should watch out because the same might happen to me. Any advice? How do I keep the Death Valley nipples at bay? lol I've also been told because my boobs are so small that I won't produce enough milk? Though now at 25 weeks they're finally starting to grow... A little.. ? Help?


breast size has nothing to do with it...believe me no matter how small they will hold just enough milk for your baby and if you give your baby polyvisol (its a vitamin supplement you can buy at stores like walmart, and my pediatrician recomended it) then you wont have to woory about it too much as long as your baby is gaining weight. Tea bags works I have been told but I never tried...lanolin the hospital will give you...that didnt work so I just suffered for a week or so but my baby is 8 wks today and is exclesively bf. After the first week when she was learnin to latch its been a breeze. Dont think that just because your mom had a hard time you will it varies from woman to woman and baby to baby...my first never learned to latch corectly and I had VERY low milk production at first so a nurse at the hospital we had him in told me to "supplement" with formula...I found out later that those first few days are very important in milk production and that could possibly be why I never produced enough to make him happy...by the time he was 2 onths old I had to give him formula, with my second I said no way formula is way too expensive, and my son already had enough alergies so I wanted things to be diffrent with my little girl I guess you could say I breast fed by necessity....but my little girl is so healthy and she weights almost 11 pounds at 8 wks so she GAINED  almost 3 pounds since she was born...I dont know ANY formula fed baby who has ever gained that much weight.

Merry - posted on 12/28/2009

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Quoting Kayla:

You all sound very knowledgeful about breastfeeding. I am breastfeeding my first child and he has been going strong for 3 1/2 months. I would love to continue breastfeeding him, but it seems like he is never satisfied throughout the day. He fusses hen latched on and sometimes goes 6 hours during the day without eating. He has been only eating for like 5 min. total was told I might have to switch to formula. I really don't want to.
I just want to know from you ladies if my son is just going through a faze. Will he become better throughout the day? Did any of your children do this? I'm sorry I am just getting worried!



there are TONS of reasons why this may be happening and none of them require formula



1  he may be teething so the sucktion hurts, nothing to worry about just try something cold for him to chew on when he breaks latch



2 he might not like the taste of something you eat



3 he might be an efficiant eater which means he eats very quickly and then is done, mine went through a fase of efficien eating, like only 5 min at a time



4 he might be sensing stress in you so relax



5 he might not like the position you hold him in, try putting his arm behind you or tucking it to his chest, try placing his hips on the side, or letting him lay on his back with just his neck turned, or even more on his tummy with his head held up by your hand



6 he might be hot or cold try swaddling or unswaddling him



7 he might not like the noise or lack of noise when you feed him



8 try rocking while you feed him or singing or humming



9 talk to la leche league or look on their website for more options



 



dont rush to formula trust your body to work it out and stay confident, your boobs can do it!!

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Quoting Marcy:

All the brilliant reasons why you should NOT breastfeed

Thought we could all use a laugh to end this year. Let's all chime in with some of the funniest, most insane, dare I say "stupid" and just plain silly advice/reasons we have been told NOT to nurse. BTW, I have a 3 and a half year old who is still on the boob (for 5 minutes per day) so you can only imagine the sound advice I have gotten...

I will start...This comes from my Grandmother who is 92 years old...."Are you still breastfeeding THAT child? Your boob is going to fall off and then your huaband will not want to be married to you."


Marcy, This made me laugh very hard. Thanks for sharing!!!



I hear all the time that it's so much work for you to breastfeed, why don't you just stop.Ugh!

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I was told to stop nursing my 8 month old because it's easier to drop him off places if he takes a bottle. WHAT? Like i care more about dumping him places to have a social life than nursing, bonding, and helping him grow the best way i can. sheesh. convenience is the stupidest reason to quit nursing, imo.

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Quoting Temeka:

I finally do not have a kid on my lap and might be able to type something :-) This is the best thread!! Oh my gosh!

Someone posted above about the growth charts!! I have the BEST pediatrician - my daughter, also, like another poster above, was in the 5th percentile and my pediatrician said to NOT pay attention to the growth charts. They were based on formula fed babies and they get TOO much. That breast fed babies are healthier and require their own charts which aren't even in existence. They are NOT going to be near what formula fed babies are, they will be JUST RIGHT!!!

My mother-in-law, when we stayed with them, would sneak in and take the baby out of his crib before I could hear him - she'd literally lay in wait outside his room and take him and feed him a bottle. Oh my gosh - "HI, meet the mommy monster!" Despite my grumblings it didn't cease. I felt like, uh, you trying to steal my baby? She is of that thought that I wasn't being a "good mom" just giving him boob. Are people really that un...informed!?



your baby might be perfectly healthy at 5% and breastfed but my baby is also perfectly healthy at 112% and breastfed,  formula or breastmilk is not the only reasons your baby may be bigger or smaller then the "average" baby

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I was told I needed to quit breastfeeding just recently because I was "getting too skinny". I had to laugh....although I have lost all my baby weight and then some, I am not skinnier than I was before I had my first child (whom I did not breastfeed past 6 weeks). I am loving that I can wear all my old jeans again! And my little girl is healthy and chubby and only 4 1/2 months old... and no plans to wean just yet!

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You all sound very knowledgeful about breastfeeding. I am breastfeeding my first child and he has been going strong for 3 1/2 months. I would love to continue breastfeeding him, but it seems like he is never satisfied throughout the day. He fusses hen latched on and sometimes goes 6 hours during the day without eating. He has been only eating for like 5 min. total was told I might have to switch to formula. I really don't want to.

I just want to know from you ladies if my son is just going through a faze. Will he become better throughout the day? Did any of your children do this? I'm sorry I am just getting worried!

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I was still breastfeeding my daughter when I got pregnant and saw a nurse practitioner for my first visit. She told me to stop nursing my daughter right away because my "fetus" wouldn't get enough nutricion. Thankfully I had already researched this and knew better. The argument ended with her telling me to add more calories to my diet which I had already done.



Also I was in nursing school and one of my teachers told us that once a child can ask to nurse that they are too old! I realize now how absurd that opinion was.



I had another mother tell me that she didn't even want to try to nurse because it would make her feel like a cow.... wow



There are sooooo many more but I'll let it go for now :)

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Breast is best - I nursed mine and they hardly are near a doctor except for their usual checkups

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I have had it all, from, it's wrong to breast feed once they have teeth,!.That after the first few weeks cows milk is better than breast, so why not do formula where they get the right iron!. To why do you think he is not walking, because hisbreast fed! how insane!. Jk is 15 and a half month been cruising since 6 plus months and chooses when to walk. He is really healthy still feeds on demand, and yes still anight time feed, but this does not bother me like it does everyone else.

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i am a young-ish mom and breastfed for only 11 weeks :( but my son was in a special care baby ward after he was born and a nurse there told me that she knows that the mom is breast feeding properly when it hurts her so i should stay bfing the way i was (he wasnt latched on properly) i ended up with cracked nipples and a hungry baby who was given formula and a soother while i was asleep! i never got him off the formula in the end!

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Quoting Cherie:

After my son turned a year, I tried him on a little bit of cows milk and he just hated it. I wasn't too worried about it since he was still breastfeeding like 5 times a day. My mother in law told me I needed to put chocolate in there so he would drink it. I told her he doesn't actually need cows milk, and it's not good for him to have chocolate. She says oh, no he has to have it now! Your milk doesn't have any vitamins or anything in it now, and he needs cows milk! *insert eye roll*

And when I told my friend I was pregnant, she asked if I was still breastfeeding, and when she found out I was she told me I had to stop now because my son was taking all the calcium and nutrients from the new baby and it will hurt it...and she said a ped told her that...


IS THAT TRUE??

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my sons nearly 11 months old and is glued to daddy when he gets in! aint nothing wrong with their bonding anyway. We all co sleep aswell and my son would be more for holding his dads hand than mine.And my son has never been sick as in thrown up or ever had colds or anything wrong with him. I havnt went near my doc and the HV thinks he is great.

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LOL ! I wish my mother in law could read all this! I am EBF my third baby and although I didn't do it for as long as alot of you guys I do know the importance and that's why I did for ALL my babies. My first baby (while I was preggo), my mil tried to convince me not to breast feed because it took away all the bonding time from my husband. He reluctantly left me alone about the subject and let me do what I was gonna do (breastfeed.) Since then I've had two more babies and bf all of them, my kids have not been sick like my sister and brother in laws... they did formula only. however I went to my WIC appointment two weeks ago and they said that my 6 mo old was not gaining like he needed to. They told me to give him three meals a day with formula to mix with the cereal. I have not felt the need to do so, i do feed him two meals a day but not with the formula and he seems just fine! I think the doctors and everyone else who doesn't approve of breastfeeding just show how uninformed they really are... kinds sad that doctors these days are like that but that's how they make money. I our kids weren't ever sick, they wouldn't make the big bucks. And about what my mother in law said about the bonding time with daddy, my kids love him and have the best relationship with him. They can't wait everyday for him to get home from work!!! Constant "Is daddy home?" "when's daddy gonna be home?" Don't think their love for him is lacking in any way!!!

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Quoting Nicole:

My Mom had a hard time when she was breastfeeding my little sister. (I was 13 when my little sis was born, so I was old enough to see for myself.) Her nipples looked like the cracked bottom of Death Valley and she said they hurt really badly. Not only that, but Sierra (lil' sis') wasn't getting something she needed from Mom's milk. So she had to put her on formula. This was confirmed by the doctor, not just my Mom thinking she wasn't getting some nourishment that she needed. My Mom says that I should watch out because the same might happen to me. Any advice? How do I keep the Death Valley nipples at bay? lol I've also been told because my boobs are so small that I won't produce enough milk? Though now at 25 weeks they're finally starting to grow... A little.. ? Help?



As you can tell by this thread, there are a lot of dumb people out there saying a lot of dumb things to Breastfeeding mothers, including Doctors and Nurses, unfortunately. Sounds like your mom may have encountered one.



It makes me wonder if your mom was "cleaning" her nipples before of after feeding, which really isn't necessary with anything but water. Lanolin is a product that should be provided to you if you are being seen by a health provider as part of the "Welcome" packet you get from most hospitals or WIC (Women Infants Children) agencies. It is available at walmart too, it is great for keeping nipples healthy.



When breastfeeding, drink PLENTY of water to keep yourself hydrated too, but also to help boost your milk production, which breast size plays little role in, so dont fret over that.  I had DDD cups when my son was born, but they didn't produce a gallon of milk like they looked like they could. I had a breast reduction two years later and thought I wouldn't be able to breastfeed subsequent children, but my daughter was born last year and I'm still bF her today, more successfully than with my son, though I attribute that to better support and better education on the subject.



When you seek help on any problems you encounter, keep searching for people who are giving you answers that SUPPORT what you are trying to do, whether it is breastfeeding potty training, co-sleeping, cereal feeding, etc. Don't allow someone to nay-say if it is an issue you feel strongly about because I can guarentee there are just as many people who agree with you as there are who will try to put you down, so you should look to people who have ideas that work you to your goal.



And while eating healthy and maintaining nutrition for yourself is the best option for you and your baby, your body will pull everything from your body it needs to feed your baby precisely what it needs. So if you're eating crap, it will likely do your body more harm before it effects your milk. Thats why it is widely encouraged you take prenatal vitamins before, during and after pregnancy.



Good Luck!

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