almost 9 month old breast fed baby still not sleeping thru the night why?

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Lori - posted on 06/09/2012

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My first daughter didn't start regularly sleeping through the night till she was 17 months old. I had tried CIO, but couldn't stomach it, so I just kept nursing my baby back to sleep. Then, at 17 months, all on her own she just started sleeping all night long. Before that it was usually only waking once between about 8 pm and 6 am, unless sick or teething.

My 2nd daughter is currently 18 months old and generally wakes twice per night between 8 pm and 7 am. I know she'll start sleeping through the night when she's ready to. And I also know that while I may not be getting great sleep right now, I'm not setting her up for sleep problems later by responding to her cries at night now.

Do what feels right to you. If your LO will go back to sleep with a back rub, or some singing, or whatever, great... but if she wants nursed to sleep still and you're willing to do it, that's OK too. I'm just saying don't let yourself feel pressured because someone else's baby sleeps through when yours doesn't. It doesn't mean you're doing anything wrong.

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Connie - posted on 06/14/2012

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Is she eating food as well? Breast milk is so easily digested that older babies often need something more in their tummies.

Kaitlyn - posted on 06/08/2012

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good news islast night when she had went to bed she fell asleep 2 times nursing each time she woke crying so i put her in her crib and patteed her back and rubbed it then she went to sleep, also she was up in ht enight and one time she was up in the night she cried instead of feeding her i just patted and rubbed her back and she went back to sleep. yay :)

Andrea - posted on 06/07/2012

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Try nursing a little - then take her off, lay her head on your shoulder, and lunge side to side fast a hard (without jerking of course) - and hum a nice melody (my babies love "you are my sunshine") - this way you know she has milk, but doesn't require the breast to fall asleep. You may have to have a lot of patience and let her cry on your chest for a bit before she calms down. Don't substitute another liquid - wont help. She just needs to be close to you, without nursing - as Janice mentioned. :) Know that it will take a while, and just don't give up for at least 10 days.

Kaitlyn - posted on 06/06/2012

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thanks for the reply. its harder as we are in an apartment and she shares a room with us. she has been in her own crib since birth. i would like to wean her off but i have no idea even where to start. she will take a bottle with juice. ive tried cio a few times she just gets really loud like screaming. i wonder if she can smell the milk like you were saying when i get her out of her crib at night?

Janice - posted on 06/06/2012

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Every baby is different. My daughter's poor sleeping began with colic. Then we had her in our bed. It made breastfeeding easy but she was constantly waking just to latch on quick to put herself back to sleep. Finally at 10 months I weaned her at night. I would cuddle her and her blanket which I wanted her to attach to but no breastfeeding. She did great and then at 10.5 months I started having her sleep in her bed. I would let her cry but I didn't leave. I would stay and comfort her with my voice and rubbing her back. It took about 10 days and then she was sleeping thru the night. I still breastfed during the day.

Now my son is 6 months and began sleeping thru (10pm - 5am) at about 10 weeks. It was great! He had a set back when he caught a cold around 4 months but now he sleeps from 8:30pm - 5am almost every night and when I feed him at 5 he goes back to sleep for 1.5-3 hours. I am breastfeeding him on demand just like I did with his sister.

I have noticed though if I do bring him in bed with us because of a random middle of the night waking he tries to eat every 2 hours. I think he can smell the milk and so instead of just going back to sleep after each cycle he wants to be nursed to sleep.

IMO some kids get into the habit of waking and they really do need to be trained to sleep through. I am not a fan of full blown CIO where you just leave the baby by themself to cry. However there are lots of different methods out there to try.

Andrea - posted on 06/06/2012

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Oh don't worry - I understand. I'm not a fan of the CIO method - although, it depends on how desperate I am I guess, haha. But it's hard no matter what. Just know there is nothing wrong with what you are doing or your baby - every baby picks a different time to just finally make it all night. My babies cry a bit in their sleep, so I always wait just a little bit in the night (2-3 mins) to make sure they are really awake and not going back to sleep - if you are doing that, there is not much else I can suggest. I hope the best for you, this too shall pass.

Kaitlyn - posted on 06/06/2012

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thanks for the reply. she has no soother or doesnt suck her fingers i wish she would cuddle a bear or blankie. or something to self soothe. and the cio method is hard as we live in an apartment. she screams once we dont go for a long time. first time mom so very hard

Andrea - posted on 06/05/2012

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Breastfeeding actually has nothing to do with how long they sleep through the night. I breastfed my first daugher until I got pregnant with my second (16 mo) and she was sleeping through the night at 10 weeks. My second made it through the night at 9weeks, and I'm still nursing her. She is however now waking up a few nights a week, but goes right back. What tends to make a difference is where they are sleeping, how comfortable they are, how full they are, how sesative they are to noises (I use a fan for both my girls for white noise, and they both slept in a crib from 3-4 weeks on) AND their ability to sooth themselves.



Both of my sisters breastfed past a year and had their kids sleeping through the night at 6mo, but they both used the CIO method.



Both of my girls sucked their thumb, so I think that made a difference too - it helped them to self-sooth.



Every baby is different, there is no set of reasons why they would be waking up. Just know you don't have to wean to have them sleep through the night. However, sleeping in a separate room from you encourages sleep (they can't smell you). During the day, when you know they are SUPER tired and about to conk out - try nursing them, but pull off before they are asleep, lay them down gently (they may cry at this point) and let them cry just a little (leave the room quickly), they learn to sooth themselves to sleep like that (they are so tired, they don't tend to fight it as much), rather than always nursing.

Rebekah - posted on 06/05/2012

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My son wakes once or occasionally twice a night too-- at 7.5 months. Both of my other kids did not sleep ALL night (11-12hrs) until I weaned them (at 10 months and 15 months). I'm not sure if it was my super ability to hear them and responding too soon, or what, but as long as I breastfed I was getting up at least once a night to nurse them.

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