Conni - posted on 10/14/2009 ( 12 moms have responded )
Bless my husbands poor uneducated, unsupportive little soul! We have 2 sons, Logan is 2 and Wyatt is 6 weeks old. I didn't breastfeed Logan simply because I was "single" and very uneducated on the topic of breastfeeding and formula just seemed "easier" (i was sooo wrong!), but I am successfully breastfeeding our 6 week old and I am happy with this decision but that's about where it stops. My husband, we shall refer to him as Nimrod for the rest of this conversation, is very UNSUPPORTIVE! Everytime I seem the slightest bit frustrated with Wyatts constant desire to be at the breast, or I complain of my nipples hurting, Nimrod says "well WIC will give us free formula...call them in the morning and get set up with it", or the best one yet "If you dont want to breastfeed anymore it's okay"....I HAVE NEVER SAID I DONT WANT TO BREAST FEED SO DONT ASSUME...jerk! It's like if I have the tiniest complaint about it he just runs with it instead of saying "You are doing a great job, keep at it honey and it will pay off in the end"...those are the kinds of things I need to hear! GAH. How do i get him to understand that he isnt helping the situation at hand when a moment seem a little rougher than usual?? Oh but that's not even the best of it really. Nimrod is active duty military, and Monday, Wednesday and Friday they have mandatory PT in the mornings, and this same man I am married to CHOOSES to go to the gym EVERY DAY after work...which is in theory fine and I commend him for wanting to be fit and healthy BUT dont come home on a Wednesday and be totally impatient with our 2 year old because you are tired!! I ask him why he is so short with Logan and he says "I'm tired" but with an attitude that means "I'm tired and you should already know that!" So then I tell him "well I'm tired too but we still have to maintain our cool with the kids" and his response "I went to PT this morning, worked all day and then went to the Gym....what did you do all day...oh wait...you went shopping"...EXCUSE ME??!!!?? Yea I went shopping for stuff the KIDS needed but lets not talk about the 15 diapers I changed between the 2 kids, and the breakfast I cooked and cleaned up, the lunch I prepared and cleaned up, the dinner I cooked and cleaned up, the laundry I washed, dryed and folded, or the king size bed I changed the sheets on, the 2 baths I administered...nope...all I did today was go shopping! Why can't he see that I'm working hard too? OH...and the kicker...I go back to work on Monday (fortunately I work in an infant room at a childcare center so Wyatt will be with me YAY!)...and I will get home 3 hours before he will be home due to his gym regimen, so I will still be working full time, AND taking care of the children's needs, and taking care of the house and I bet I wont see a bit of difference in his attitude! PHEW...it felt good to vent!